So as I write this letter to all of my Single Sistas who are Second, or even to my Single Sistas who may know of someone who is second, I urge you to walk away from a dead end relationship because not only are you hurting yourself, but you are hindering the healing of a hurting marriage that can easily be your marriage one day.
I know you may feel as though there aren’t any good men available, or that you will never get married but that’s not the case. There is someone who has been specifically prepared for you, but you will never know who he is because you are blocking your own blessing. And even if your reality is that you won’t get married, learn how to accept it and move forward with your life; because contrary to popular belief, you can have a very productive and fulfilling life as a single woman. I know you may also be thinking about the many men who have left their wives for the ‘other woman’ and you see how seemingly successful their relationships are, but you don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors, and you should really ask yourself if you want a relationship with a man who has limited morals and values when it comes to marriage…but then again, if you continue to stay in a relationship with a married man, what does that say about you and your morals and values…Ouch!
So as I close this letter to all of my Single Sistas Second Woman/Women I encourage you to walk away from a dead end relationship with dignity in your spirit, pride in your soul, and respect in your heart; not just for yourself, but for the marriage that could’ve been ruined, and for your Married Sista whose husband you share. You deserve better. Look within, reflect on who are, build on that knowledge and move forward with your life.
Your Single Sista,
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin
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