Can Your Relationship Survive Infidelity?

August 7, 2012  |  



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By Tammy Nelson

You thought your relationship with your partner was perfect. Happily ever after wasn’t just a dream, it was your reality. Then, suddenly, you learn your man has been cheating on you. You wonder: Is there any way our relationship can be salvaged?

In this video, counselor, relationship coach and YourTango Expert Dr. Tammy Nelson answers the question: Can a relationship really survive an affair? The answer, she says is both “yes” and “no,” explaining that, in certain instances, an affair works as the non-verbal catalyst to end a relationship that one (or both) partners would like to end for good. Meanwhile, in other cases, infidelity can truly work to strengthen the relationship.

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  • Veratta Pegram-Floyd

    Two other factors to be taken into consideration: duration of cheating and person the cheating occurred with. It is one thing for the cheating to occur one time with an outside individual, it is another for it to occur over months or years with a close friend and/or family member. I don’t think I could get over it being a long term affair or with it being someone close to me.

  • nicole grayson

    Of course, anything worth having is worth fighting for. As long as you both want to continue the relationship and move forward,dont look back. Sex aint better than than love!

  • Nope

    It’s tough because not only does the infidelity need to be addressed, but also the root causes and short comings on both ends, yes both ends, that lead up to it.

    • Veratta Pegram-Floyd

      I agree. I think many people see the cheater is some narcissistic person, and in some cases that it true. In some cases it is not and like the article mentioned, the cheating becomes a catalyst to explore what has been wrong/what someone is lacking in the relationship.

  • Ash

    I’ve seen marriages survive infidelity; however, I don’t think I could personally trust that person again.

  • I’d say if you are married…maybe think about working it out. If you are just in a bf/gf relationship….walk away while you have no ties to each other

    • Kellzzzz

      Agreed… Outside of marraige why give someone the opportunity to do it a second time. Marraige vow should be taken seriously.. As hard as it may be work it put