The Problem With This Charter School’s ‘Female-Shaming, Have Sex, Just Don’t Get Pregnant’ Policy

August 7th, 2012 - By Brande Victorian

It’s become abundantly clear that legislators spanning the school system to the federal government will stop at nothing to curb teen pregnancy. Unfortunately in that quest, the same way that women bear the brunt of the burden of childbirth, they are also disproportionately made to suffer the consequences of pre-marital sex, particularly at Delhi Charter School in Delhi, Louisiana. There, the administration has implemented a highly controversial policy that can best be summarized as “have sex, just don’t get pregnant.” Outlined in the school handbook, the policy reads:

If an administrator or teacher suspects a student is pregnant, a parent conference will be held. The school reserves the right to require any female student to take a pregnancy test to confirm whether or not the suspected student is in fact pregnant. The school further reserves the right to refer the suspected student to a physician of its choice. If the test indicates that the student is pregnant, the student will not be permitted to attend classes on the campus of Delhi Charter School.

If a student is determined to be pregnant and wishes to continue to attend Delhi Charter School, the student will be required to pursue a course of home study that will be provided by the school…Any student who is suspected of being pregnant and who refuses to submit to a pregnancy test shall be treated as a pregnant student and will be offered home study opportunities. If home study opportunities are not acceptable, the student will be counseled to seek other educational opportunities.

The purpose of the policy, aimed at the school’s 600 students in grades K-12, is to maintain its high standard for student character. Don’t bother re-reading the policy to figure out how the character of the male student’s at Delhi is judged. You won’t find anything. The American Civil Liberties Union has already jumped on the charter school for the illegality of their discriminatory policy. I’m more concerned with the faulty thought pattern that led them to create it in the first place.

Teen pregnancy is no doubt an issue that needs to be tackled head-on, but this effort goes about it through the backdoor. I have a hard time understanding the logic in essentially aiding someone to become a dependent single mother. From my view, becoming a teen mother is self-punishment enough, in the sense that it’s hardly an ideal situation and one that is wrought with challenges. What is gained by also limiting a woman’s education to further prevent her from becoming self-sufficient and an adequate parent? It may not be the best use of resources to pour even more effort into making sure these girl’s graduate, but if anything that would be the route to go. Besides, I’m not convinced that the state of being pregnant requires any more effort on the mother or the school’s part to ensure a pregnant student earns a diploma. With the exception of sick days and perhaps having trouble fitting into a desk, the “distraction” argument used to justify the teen mom-shaming that goes on at many schools around this country is weak at best. ThinkProgress.org points out that “thirty percent of all teen girls who drop out of high school cite pregnancy as the main reason, and a full 70 percent of teenage girls who give birth end up leaving school.” That’s the real distraction to society, the work force, child-rearing, and the social security crisis, not a 16-year-old waddling down the hall with a round belly.

Analyzing this policy, it’s no longer surprising to me that many men don’t instantly feel compelled to be present in the lives of children they father with women with whom they don’t have binding relationships. No one forces them to. This policy implements crippling consequences for teen mothers while not even bothering to require that men own up to fathering any children, be shamed for their “character faults,” or have any aspect of their lives interrupted by their choice to have unprotected sex that leads to conception. The double standard is as apparent as the lights flashing in Times Square and justifies an entire attitude of irresponsibility that comes to characterize a large proportion of the male sex. So often we think men just don’t care, but the thing is no one makes them, or even demonstrates any reasons that they should.

Across the genders, policies like this also seek to instill negative connotations around sex as though it is a morally deplorable act of bad character when that’s not the message teens need. Sex is fine, good, great, beautiful, normal, exciting, acceptable, and all of those things when done within the proper parameters and an adequate understanding of the positive and negative emotional, physical, and fiscal consequences. It baffles me that in a day and age where we can talk to a fictitious robot in our phone named Siri to handle our daily needs, we still haven’t figured out how to properly educate teenagers about sex—or leave the job up to the best people for the job most times, their parents.

I’ve yet to hear of a high school girl becoming pregnant via artificial insemination—or Immaculate Conception since Jesus’ mother Mary—so if you’re going to condemn one, you need to condemn all involved in the act of teen pregnancy. Better yet, why condemn them educationally at all?

What do you think about Delhi’s pregnancy policy?

Brande Victorian is the news and operations editor for madamenoire.com. Follow her on twitter @Be_Vic.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000928349046 Debby Ai Orton

    what if the pregnancy is not the girl’s fault? for example she was raped, but decides to have the baby?

  • CarlaKah

    I agree!

  • LoveLi

    The crazy part is I’m from that area and it actually does not surprise me at all that they’ve implemented a policy like this. That area in general is still highly segregated and run by families who only have their own personal interests at hand. Shameful.

  • Alissa

    I went to a private highschool and they expelled the girl AND the guy if the girl got pregnant. I saw it happen at least three different times. In one other situation though, the guy didn’t go to our school, so of course they couldn’t discipline him.

  • B82

    I agree with the article. It takes two to tango. We supposedly live in a society about equality therefore if we punish the one, we should punish the other. The boys should be held accountable for their actions and not just receive a slap on their wrist, or in this case no slap at all. Just a blind eye. Possibly offering the student “option B” or allowing her to attend an alternative shool would be better.

  • Natalynn

    New Dehli and it’s policy can take a slow walk through H*LL and I will show them the door.

    • Sonia

      This isn’t New Delhi. This isn’t INDIA. This is Delhi, Louisiana, home of the white hicks

      • natalynn

        I meant Delhi Charter School–my bad.

  • KIR12

    Every culture and nation IN THE WORLD holds the unmarried woman responsible for her
    pregnancy. American blacks per 1960′s use to hold the woman responsible. You know why? IT WORKS!!! The current group of black women have been brainwashed, hoodwinked and bamboozled by white liberals and feminist who would rather cut an arm off than see their daughter a baby mamma. Yet, they tell you to fight for your daughter to not live by the same standards? What that tells me is they don’t respect you and don’t look at you, Black Women, as an equal. White women with a bachelors degree have an illegitimacy rate of 4 to 6% which is as close to ZERO as you can get. Black feminist? lol Oh Yeah? How’s that “Matriarchal Society” working out for you? Don’t get me started. smmfh

    Women decide when to have sex and when to have kids. The courts have given you 100% ie complete control over your reproduction pre and post pregnancy. Yet you now want to abdicate responsibility after the fact? This current group of black women are the only women in the world who blame the man for her pregnancy. “He should have used a condom.” lmao Reality check… with this ghetto myth. Condoms are good for prevention of STD’s and short term hookups. Condoms exclusively have never been an effective means of birth control for any race nor any nation. Black women are lying to these young girls when they tell them they can be sexually active until marriage with condoms only. We know it’s a lie. 50% abortion of all black pregnancies and 72%+ black illegitimacy of the remaining pregnancies carried to term confirms it! When feelings and emotions are involved and trust is built the condom is almost always not used or not used as frequently. This is a reality and human element with all races! Yes, plan on using a condom but if you don’t want to get pregnant you better have a backup plan. 80 to 88% of Sexually active UNMARRIED women in industrialized Western European countries use female BC. Hello, that’s almost 100%. Here’s the problem with you’re equal responsible logic for the pregnancy of an UNMARRIED women. IT DOESN’T WORK!

    • Kay

      Your ignorant, and spewing all these false statistics just proves that.

  • cnj

    It sad and a little scary that people actually think things like this work to curb pregnancy. The only things that works are education and contraceptives, not scare tactics, shaming, or other dumb stuff.

  • KamJos

    So what happens when a boy gets a girl pregnant?

    • KIR12

      Equal responsiblity for UNMARRIED women does not work and has never worked for any race nor culture. Black women want it both ways. You want the the 100% freedom of the sexual revolution and 100% right to choose but not the 100% responsibility that goes with it.

      • Natalynn

        Equal responsibility doesn’t work because it’s not enforced–if people put as much pressure on the BOYS as they put on the GIRLS then I think we would see a change. How can you condemn one person when BOTH of the parties are EQUALLY responsible–oh, but when the girls take the boys to court for child support they’re gold diggers as well–WHATEVER!

        • KIR12

          You are responsible for your body, life and future. You and no one else! To expect these girls little boyfriend to care as much about about her body, life and future is ludicrous and fantasy land at best.

  • Miss D

    Not feelin it. Sounds more like a scare tactic than a well-meaning attempt to reduce teen pregnancy. If the school is going to choose the physician and mandate pregnancy tests, are they going to pay for it too? This all sounds intrusive and rude. If the girl is willing and able to attend school with her peers, let her! At least she’s making an effort to finish school.

  • mzcali

    I mean It might make girls think twice but, it’s also not fair. Those girls don’t get pregnant by themselves so why should they suffer alone. They need to track the fast boys down as well and make think pay the price. If not these authoritative figures are just adding fuel to the ignorant fire so many minority men have, which is you don’t have to take responsibility or be held accountable for your sexual actions.

  • Kay

    Hell nah! I got as far as “the teacher reserves the right to give a pregancy test to any girl they suspect is pregnant” what the hell? That’s some bs and everyone knows it.

  • lko

    if you go to Lousiana you would see the daycares they build next to the high schools and middle schools#parents need to raise their kids better and you should do more research before rushing to judgement.

  • ojs

    I don’t see a problem with the policy parents and students are aware of it prior to the incident! It could be viewed as a safety risk; however the ladies still have an opportunity to get am education. Maybe someone will think twice before having sex

    • Sotrue02

      Or being raped…

    • CarlaKah

      Somene meaning the girls?? Sorry! But if there is no mandatory paternity test when the ASSUMPTION OF FATHERHOOD HAS BEEN MADE then I must disagree with the entire thing. I say either the pregnant girl + her baby daddy must leave school OR no one goes. AND with gossip being very present on high schools I would take any rumor of any boy fathering a kid serious and ask for a paternity test or removal. THAT will work. This BS-policy gives boys the freedom to ruin any girl’s life if they please by simply denying any involvement. I fear for the future of these girls. Fear of sexual intimacy is not the best type of birth control. Knowledge and wisdom is. Get it together!

      • KIR12

        Equal responsiblity actually means…NO ONE RESPONSIBIL. lol Equal responsibility for UNMARRIED women has never worked. Blacks now have a 50% abortion rate and 72% illegitmacy rate behind “He should have used a condom” logic.

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