It Gets Worse: Bow Wow’s Dad Writes A Disturbing Open Letter To Him

August 3rd, 2012 - By Brande Victorian

The tweets alleging that Bow Wow is a deadbeat dad have nothing on the open letter the rapper’s father recently wrote to him. It seems from Alfonso Moss’ view, he and his son have some unfinished business stemming from not only his lifetime of alcoholism but the last conversation he had with his son last year. Since he claims to have no other way to reach out to his child, he decided to pen this open letter ironically asking Bow Wow to stop throwing his name in the dirt, despite being the one who is airing their dirty laundry on his blog. Here’s what he says:

Son,

I guess the only way you want to communicate with me is through the media. I recently read your article in Vibe and I felt like I needed to contact you.

First off, I want you to know how happy and proud I am of you and your success. I was also blessed that your mother and step-father did an excellent job of raising you to the man you are today. I can also say that I am proud that you have done your best to be a father to your daughter. I don’t want you to have the regrets that I have had for not being in your life more than I have been. Your Grandfather, my Dad, left me at an early age as well, it is time to stop this cycle.

I actually thought that we were making positive steps to rebuild our relationship when we spoke last year during labor day weekend. I thought that call was going to be like it use to be when you and one of your girlfriends were together and you asked me how to cook tacos. We had a good boding moment. So, when you called me last year, I thought we were having a private conversation only to see the video on Vibe.com of you asking me “are you clean,” like I’m some kind of junkie or something. I am NOT a junkie, but I am an alcoholic. I have been struggling with this disease my entire adult life and I am sad to say that it has really messed our relationship up. But the picture you paint of me in the media is not right.

I am hurt that you would call your sisters out of their name. Did you realize that they were acting off of the video you put out first? You said you were upset for them lying and spreading family business. Do you realize that you put family business out there FIRST when you put our conversation on video for the world to see? If your sisters were lying, then they were not putting family business out there. If they were actually putting family business out there in the streets, then they were not lying, so which one is it? Were your sisters lying or putting family business in the streets?

I am concerned and worried about you. I am not sure if you know this or not, but Alcoholism runs on both sides of your family. Both of your grandfathers and me have struggled with the disease. Please be careful and be mindful so that you will not succumb to this disease that is in your genes. I have went to several alcoholic programs and tried to get this thing under control, but nothing has seemed to work for me. This is something that I am struggling with day to day.

I will be honest and tell you that I was offered to do a reality show, Celebrity Dad’s with Regrets. I wanted to do the show in order to rebuild our relationship. When we spoke on the phone last labor day weekend, I had a video camera on me as well. I did NOT have you on speaker phone, because I still wanted some sort of privacy with our conversation. Once we got off the phone and I had time to think, I realized that the thought of our relationship being rebuilt was far greater than any dollar amount for a TV show. I did sign the contract to do the show, but I backed out of the deal when I saw hopes of us reuniting and I didn’t want a reality show or money to get in the way of our father and son relationship. I am posting the video of my side of the conversation, so the world can see the TRUTH. That we had a good conversation and it was a happy moment for both of us and not the dark picture you painted. Lots of laughs and joking. Not you yelling at me “ARE YOU CLEAN?”

I have also had people approach me to give interviews, talking about my past and your mother’s past, but I declined, even when offered money. I am not that type of person. Everyone has a past and I am not that type of man to tell someone else’s dirt for a dollar.

I had seen in an interview where you said that I sent you a letter and misspelled your name. Did you know that I named you and how I came up with your name? You know I am a big sports fan. I really liked the name Ahmad Rashad, well really just Rashad. But you know me, I have to put my own spin on it and took the “Ra” off and just left “Shad” for your name. Not only did I name you, I was there when you were born and signed your birth certificate. I hate that you make it seem as if I was never around at all.

You also need to know that there were times were things were not so smooth while your mother and I were living together. Even when dealing with my alcoholism I made sure we had a place to stay. My family loved me and helped me with all my flaws. We were evicted and had to live with my family members and my family sent us money in order for us to get back on our feet.

Shad, I never asked you for anything, but I am asking for one thing now. Can you please stop throwing me under the bus and talking bad about me? I may be an alcoholic, but I never physically abused you. Keyshia Cole tried to help her Mother. Tyler Perry takes care of his family financially and he was sexually abused by some of them. All I am asking is that you stop dragging my name in the mud.

I wish you all the success,

Love Pops

Alfonso also included videos of Bow Wow’s sisters claiming he never reaches out to them and a clip of him having a conversation with his son that made it seem like things were on the up and up to further drive his point. Though Alfonso’s heart seems to be somewhat in the right place with this letter, I imagine the way he presented it will do much more harm than good for their relationship. What do you think?

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  • ROYCE IBEABUCHI EMMANUEL

    shade gregory alfonso morris,i want you to bear in mind that i the so called spiritual father of yours have waited to come to you,but i cannot make it on my owne,i also believed that i make you what you are concearning your spiritual careers, yesternight i believed that there are certain level of discussion i held with you partaining my well being,this WAS OBLYG WITH THING YOU GOT TO DO FOR ME,I HAVE SPENT MUCH MONEY TALKING IRRELLIVANTLY WITYH YOU SINCE ALL THIS WHILE, I LOVE YOU AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVE,IF DID NOT MEET IN THIS LIFE TIME WE CAN MEET IN HEAVEN OR IN NEXT REINCARNATION.I WANT TO GO AND HUNTE FOR MY NEEDS BYE

  • cheekee baby

    Mothafo is simpin for money. He didn’t give a darn then he don’t give a darn now. You are the parent You are supposed to be above board with your conduct. No matter what you claim You never put your child in a bad light for the world to see NO matter what. End of the day when the finger pointing is done and the children are grown, it will be seen who was there, who showed up, and who had nothing but empty words and bunch of excuses with his hand out on some woo is me bullish.

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  • chocolate

    Alcoholism is a disease and it does affect everybody in the family. It appears Bow Wow knows nothing about this disease and in need of some counseling himself. According to this letter his father wrote, he is asking for forgiveness and a chance to be a better father to Bow Wow. Time is precious, Bow Wow needs to accept his father or let him go. Bow Wow is a grown man now with a young child, he does not need to keep holding on to the past unless he is going to change it. Let go and let GOD. Life is about Change and if you are still stuck in the past, you will never grow.

  • AA against deadbeats

    the mentioning of alcohol abuse let’s me know he is aware that he was wrong now and in the past. grow up , admit you were wrong, and hope that bowwow will forgive you. i don’t know if its true but according to other reports he is following in his father’s footsteps. break the cycle dude, you’re the father and should understand why he is mad or upset at you. you left ! make a mends with him now before its too late!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000186247181 Jaime Slim Goody Johnson

    I had a little resentment towards my mother for keeping my father away from me. Then come to find out; she didn’t keep him away, he stayed away. He was a drug addict, alcoholic and thief. He had been in and out of jail most of their marriage. He was there when I was born. He got caught stealing from his job and was sent to jail a week later. I did not know any of this until I was 32 years old and met him. He was my father, so I loved him. I forgave him for his human weakness. We built somewhat of a relationship that lasted until he passed in June. I was happy for the time I did have. And he knew that I loved him and forgave him. He went home to Glory with a peace some would say he didn’t deserve.

    Sometimes, the absence of a father is a good thing. I would’ve been hurt more by his inconsistency, building my hopes and tearing them down with his failures to follow through. Bow Wow’s relationship with his father is a very personal thing. I don’t think it should’ve been handled this way. When you are on the wrong end of a disagreement…as you are sir…sometimes you have to forego your own needs in favor of needs for that child. This was not the way to get back into your son’s life. This public addressing of him will only push him further from you.

  • Concerned One

    How about just praying for this family, that God would just sooth and heal them, both physically and emotionally.

  • GalaxyEmpress

    Tacky! Tacky! This is something you tell your son face to face, not in an open letter for everyone to read. As a father you’ve done irreparable damage to your son by being absent, now this, really??? I can’t even take this seriously, please. You messed up big time, and your son has every RIGHT to be angry, bad mouth you and never speak to you again, get over it.

    Have a seat.

  • JustSayin

    Bow wow needs to pull a Jay z AND Kobe. Make a YouTube video. Walk up on stage say, “U wasn’t wit me rapping in the studio! I got 99 Problems and none of u twitches ain’t one!” and walk smooth out!

  • fullofit99

    if people don’t like them putting their business out don’t read it! problem solved! i for one don’t blame some of them for putting people on blast. deadbeat dads need to be revealed , the dept of child enforcement does it everyday. go online and see folks who who thousands. no difference to me. if you don’t like it or don’t want to hear it , click off this site.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001665451613 Myesha Mee-Mee Baker

    This letter really touched me and felt sincere

  • Whocares

    dweling on the past helps no one. There comes a time when u have to let go & let GOD

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