Making The Grade: Do You Test Men?

3. The Sex Test

Let’s say you’ve had bad luck with men in the past, and you chalk it up to giving up the goodies too soon before you’ve gotten a chance to really get to know him. You want to do things differently this time, so now you want to feel out the new guy to see if he’s into you because of YOU, or because he wants to bed you. Fair enough.

But rather than implement a three-month rule or count the number of dates you’ve had before you determine he’s worthy, you sext him, dress provocatively, talk dirty on the phone and play hard to get until he’s practically begging for it – only to reject him to see how he reacts. You figure if he hangs in there through all the late night dry humping and torturous kisses on the forehead for an extended period of time, he’s really into you. This may be true – but not always. Make sure he’s not trying to stick it out only to “win” later. Men love a challenge, and can still lose interest after sex whether it’s a week or a year later. Also unless you’re withholding sex because you’re celibate and you’ve conveyed this to him, he may come to realize that you’re just playing childish games and go get his needs met elsewhere.