Don’t Hate Me Because I’m Beautiful! Do You Have Pretty Girl Problems?

July 22nd, 2012 - By Brooke Dean

All of us want to feel beautiful, and we all should believe that we are – no matter what we look like. I’m not talking about the airbrushed, magazine standard of beauty. I’m talking about the “comfortable in my own skin – inside out” type of beauty. However, this confidence shouldn’t be confused with arrogance or entitlement. Some of us have been told that we’re beautiful for as long as we can remember, thus our general vision of ourselves is based on what is reflected around us by other people. As flattering as that may be, some women may develop what has been called Pretty Girl Syndrome, which involves confusing your identity with your appearance – basing everything that you are on what you look like. After all, if EVERYONE says you’re beautiful, it MUST be true, right? There is nothing wrong with taking pride in your appearance, but at what point does this become an obsession to the point where you believe you have “pretty people problems”? Not sure? If the following is you, you may have Pretty Girl Syndrome.

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  • Vandellish

    #7
    You think every interaction with a man is really them trying to get with you.

    This is the one that co-workers do that always floors me…’no ma’am I really only asked you to go to lunch because my homeboy is off today and I’m hungry! Wonder why they call you a diva?’

  • HMmp

    Reminds me of someone I know. But I have to say it’s her mothers fault. I guess every since the day she was born, her mother has told her she is beautiful. Of course all parents think their child beautiful. But Wen you make them think that that’s all you need in life, ooh what a disappointment it can be. Seems like everyone I visit her and her mother, her mother yes her mother wants me to know how beautiful her daughter is. Kinda do it in a round about way. I never wh. y she dose this. But her beautiful daughter has become a sorry adult because she thought beauty would sweep her off her feet. Lives off her mother no job baby on the way don’t know who the daddy is etc.

  • Pivyque

    Lol Pretty People Syndrome. That’s funny. I have always said that if someone doesn’t like me, they either have a legitimate reason or they don’t know me very well. I’ve never been one to assume that someone is jealous or “hating” on me. I will say that being a woman (attractive or not) has it’s drawbacks because some women have been raised to pit themselves against other women…or they have formed some sort of complex that makes them have to constantly try and prove they are better than other women. It makes it difficult to find real girlfriends that you can count on.

  • tyler

    It’s funny because I thought I was the only that used the term “pretty girl syndrome” I see it a lot on ‘reality’ shows when a girl is a fight and she can’t wait to say “oh she’s just jealous of me because i’m gorgeous” all the while i’m thinking ‘no, maybe she’s mad because you threw a drink on her and called her a b****’. Envy does happen among women but there is such a thing as rude behavior and conflicting personalities, both of which have nothing to do with looks.

  • Just saying!!

    I just think physical beauty is a superficial thing to invest your time and energy (and sometimes money) on. It isn’t a real concept anyway. Lol in reality we all have noses, ears, eyes, hearts, etc. One pair of eyes isn’t better than another until someone SAYS it is. I don’t think people get that. So why are you going to base your life off of something that isn’t real and won’t even last?

  • Jimmy Jam

    Its seems as if though (based on this article) that if you’re pretty and or handsome – U must be unapproachable, you can’t have any friends who look better than U, U’r evil/moronic… can we have a picture of the journalist. PLEASE!

  • UB Class of 2013

    I only agree with # 6 because I have found this to be true for me (especially when it comes to men). I’m told that I’m pretty constantly by people but none of the others are true for me.

  • DUMBBEACHPLEASE

    JEALOUSY IS A SERIOUS, DEADLY DISEASE. I’VE SEEN MORE PEOPLE DIE FROM IT THAN CANCER. SERIOUSLY. MEN HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT TOO! I THINK THE RESOLUTION IS TO NUMBER ONE FOCUS ON YOU AND STOP WORRYING ABOUT THE NEXT PERSON AND TWO ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT DIFFERENT PEOPLE HAVE DIFFERENT INTERESTS AND TASTE. NO MATTER HOW ATTRACTIVE YOU ARE, NOT EVERYONE WILL BE ATTRACTED TO YOU. ALSO NOT ALL GUYS REQUIRE A BIG BUTT OR BIG BREASTS AND NOT ALL GIRLS REQUIRE A GUY TO BE TALL WITH MONEY AND NICE CARS. LAST BUT NOT LEAST, MANY PEOPLE ARE ATTRACTED TO BLACK AND DARK SKINNED PEOPLE, REGARDLESS TO WHAT SOME PEOPLE WOULD LIKE YOU TO BELIEVE. XOXO

  • DUMBBEACHPLEASE

    I AGREE SOME BEACHES ARE DELUSIONAL IN THINKING THAT SOMEONE IS JEALOUS OF THEM BUT WE CANNOT DENY THAT JEALOUSY IS A VERY VALID AND COMMON HUMAN EMOTION. IF IT WASN’T, THIS ARTICLE WOULD NOT HAVE BEEN WRITTEN. JEALOUSY DOES EXIST AND IT’S VERY COMMON AND YES LOOKS ARE O N E OF THE BIGGEST STIMULI FOR JEALOUSY AMONGST WOMEN.

  • DUMBBEACHPLEASE

    I AGREE SOME BEACHES ARE DELUSIONAL IN THINKING THAT SOMEONE IS JEALOUS OF THEM BUT WE CANNOT DENY THAT JEALOUSY IS A VERY VALID AND COMMON HUMAN EMOTION. IF IT WASN’T, THIS ARTICLE WOULD NOT HAVE BEEN WRITTEN. JEALOUSY DOES EXIST AND IT’S VERY COMMON AND YES LOOKS ARE O N E OF THE BIGGEST STIMULI FOR JEALOUSY AMONGST WOMEN.

  • DUMBBEACHPLEASE

    I AGREE SOME BEACHES ARE DELUSIONAL IN THINKING THAT SOMEONE IS JEALOUS OF THEM BUT WE CANNOT DENY THAT JEALOUSY IS A VERY VALID AND COMMON HUMAN EMOTION. IF IT WASN’T, THIS ARTICLE WOULD NOT HAVE BEEN WRITTEN. JEALOUSY DOES EXIST AND IT’S VERY COMMON AND YES LOOKS ARE O N E OF THE BIGGEST STIMULI FOR JEALOUSY AMONGST WOMEN.

  • busty

    people have always told me that I’m beautiful or pretty… I don’t even see it! I have a very low self esteem thanks to my very abusive jealous mother that I no longer speak to! people always say that I’m nice and that’s it! I know that I’m not a very intelligent person and that I’m shy and though many men are always attracted to me, they quickly lose interest! I always pray to god to make me a different person… It’s not easy being me

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_M37MXDBO5QAGKL7LYMJVHQHRK4 Anony

    Rant: I guess its a crime to be good looking, smart and somewhat reserved in personality in the workplace because that will make you a target; which results in a hostile working environment or in some cases, demotion or firing. Pretty ladies, you know what I mean

    • Beautiful Black Woman

      Yes I know what you mean…lol

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

    omg please do one for handsome men !! they are the worst !!

  • AshHay28

    Omg well said and sooo true. However, next time I would like for the women who are catty & jealous to be addressed.

  • CriticXtreme

    None here.

  • Mila

    I agree with a lot of the comments on here as far as being told I’m pretty etc but not really feeling it in my own mind. I get very self conscious especially when I get male attention because I never feel like I’m good enough. I hate it when other females would stare or look at me longer than 5 seconds I just get very self conscious with attention period. As a older teen, I hope I grow out of this so one day I could be a confident independent woman.

  • uniquefashionista

    Meena, you took the words right out of my mouth. I feel the same as you do. I am working on building my confidence. I do agree with the article when it said that we as women define beauty differently than men. Just because we may think another woman is beautiful, beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder.

  • KamJos

    *reads the comments* I’m serving humble pie if anyone needs some.

    • Angel

      YES. Some of the people commenting sound so arrogant, materialistic, and shallow..and then wonder why people dont like them…smh

    • sabrina

      LMFAO!!! yeah, you might need to break out a couple plates at the rate we’re going.

  • Nope

    Damn, talk about female arrogance. This article blew the f up! Everyone ain’t pretty. There is a such thing as ugly and average which usually the case for people that think of THEMSELVES as attractive. If everyone was attractive then above average looking wouldn’t have any value. Like if everyone had money.

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