Understanding your baggage
The only way you don’t have baggage is if you were born yesterday. No, even that’s long enough to give you baggage. Look, you’ve got it and you need to recognize it and understand it. You may have had a bad experience with an ex, or even with your parents, that’s given you some knee jerk reactions to things. Typically, when you have baggage, you respond to present day events as if they were past traumatic ones, simply because they look the same. But, they are not the same. And so it’s not fair to your partner to deal with your freak out when he didn’t do anything wrong. If happenings in life stir up strong emotions in you—stronger than they should be—analyze your past. That might be what you’re reacting to.