No Bites? 5 Ways To Get Men To Approach You

July 17th, 2012 - By madamenoire

From YourTango.com

By J. Cameron Gantt

Picture this: It’s Friday night and you are dressed up, ready for a night out on the town with your friends. You hit the best night spots and have a blast, but you are bothered by the fact that all night, not one guy made a passat you.

There is something to be said about the “singular man.” The “singular man” is a force to be reckoned with. He is the guy who goes out alone. Or, he may be out with a group of friends, but he makes it a point to step away and work the room. He doesn’t look lonely or afraid. He is confident and comfortable with rolling solo. He is a social butterfly and has no problem mixing it up and meeting new people.

Sometimes, he has the gift of gab and other times, he can be a man of few words. He is very observant, and makes it a point to survey and stay aware of his surroundings. He is mysterious and his preferred method of flirtation is non-verbal. He has a strong grasp of the importance of eye contact and a smile, and has no problem using it. You never have to guess if he is attracted to you because he will make his interest clearly known.

Have you ever noticed that you get hit on way more when you are alone versus when you’re with a group of friends? For myself, I never get hit on when I am with a group but when I am alone … it’s like open season. Here’s the thing: When you are hanging out with your friends, it can be slightly intimidating for a guy to show interest in getting to know you.

We have all experienced it. When we see a guy that we find attractive, hanging out with his friends, we hesitate to make an introduction because we are waiting for the “right” moment. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn’t, and we end up kicking ourselves for it later. Being singular is a tactic that all single men should really employ and ultimately enjoy.

Check out five ways to up the odds of a man approaching you on YourTango.com.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=536872959 Aaron T. Starks

    I swear women make things 100x more complicated than they need to be. How about smiling? How about NOT stiffening up and immediately start talking to your friends the minute a guy walks towards you? Or how about just saying “hi” to a guy.

    And hanging with a group of women is a sure way to NOT get a guy to approach you because other women will do things (sometimes) to prevent someone in the group from getting any play. Either out of jealousy or that girlish thing some women play about wanting a guy to approach just to step on him and laugh with her girlfriends.

    Basically being a friendly, laid-back and smart woman will get you approached.

    • Nope

      Yes! And stop going to the bathroom at the same damn time as one another. Always clicked up = staying lonely.

  • Nope

    By…. opening…. your….. mouth….. and….. speeeeaaaakkkiiiing…….to him.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=536872959 Aaron T. Starks

      You see the looks on the women’s faces in the article’s picture? Is there anything less appealing that seeing women walk around a bar/club with that expressionless “ice queen” look? And they complain about not being approached! A smile is the #1 asset any person, man or woman can employ when out that attracts people.

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