Your Man’s Cheating Produced a Child – Can You Work It Out?

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1. Staying for the Right Reasons
The first, most important decision to make after discovering an affair is if you will attempt a reconciliation or not. But once you’ve decided to stay, ask yourself…honestly…why you want to. Many women who stay with men who’ve cheated on them do so in order to pay him back or get even. While this is not the best way to heal yourself, this is an even more unhealthy way of recovering from a post-affair relationship when a new child is involved. Staying with your boyfriend or your spouse means that there are months…maybe even years…ahead of you of repairing your relationship, and that child isn’t going anywhere. Are you capable of working on your relationship while he…and ultimately you…try to get to know and spend time with a new baby? Can you get past the fact that there will now be another woman in his life that he has to communicate with? Communication, acceptance, and forgiveness are the only way to mend what has happened. But if you’re always arguing about the child, accusing him of cheating, or constantly bringing up the past, this will only make your relationship worse. Be honest with yourself. If you truly cannot handle what he’s done, end it and move on with your life.
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