The Two Little Words That Could Save Your Relationship

July 9th, 2012 - By madamenoire

From YourTango.com

If I recall anything from my upbringing, it’s the following two rules: “If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all,” and “Remember to always say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’.” It’s not only great life advice so you can trick people into thinking you’re a civilized human being, but it will also help you maintain healthy relationships with others, especially those with whom you’re in a committed sexual relationship. In other words, show some appreciation, will ya? Seriously, would it kill you to thank your fella for dinner, dessert and the following orgasm? I think not.

A study by the smarty-pants at University of California, Berkeley found that the simple act of thanking someone when you’re in a relationship goes a long way. About 50 undergrads between the ages of 18 and 60 (yup, I guess some undergrads are 60), who had been dating their partner for a year or more (about half of them were living together), were given a nightly survey to fill out for an entire week regarding such things as basic manners. Researchers collected the data and nine months later, gave the same couples the same survey. Those who felt appreciated were far less likely to break up. The mutual love and respect gets stronger if you just say “thank you” from time to time.

Read more on this study and the power of saying thank you on YourTango.com.

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  • ayede

    yep I mean. My boyfriend is old school and likes to pay for dinner whenever we go out. and so I simply just say thanks for dinner at the end of every meal. I remember one time I spent all of dinner just yaking about my family (since I have a turbulent relationship with my parents and siblings) and was too consumed to remember to say thanks. when we got home he was like, you know, i think that was the first time you didn’t say thank you. And I didn’t realize until then that he noticed and that he liked it. Sometimes people just want to be acknowledged for doing good things. and it takes no effort to just be grateful really.

  • WHOISBSQUARED?

    SOOOOO WHAT IF U KNOW IN UR HEART OF HEARTS THIS PERSON DOESN’T DESERVE A THANK YOU???

  • bluekissess

    Duh

  • curiosity.killed.the.cat

    I thought it was I’m sorry.

    • Treacle234

      Me too, so many people neglect those words

    • L-Boogie

      I agree. I thought it was too.

    • Nope

      I swore it was going to be ‘I’m sorry’ too. Wishful thinking I guess.

  • FromUR2UB

    Oh, thank you? I thought it was going to be: Ise sawreh.

  • FromUR2UB

    Oh, thank you? I thought it was going to be: Ise sawreh.

  • Is It 5:00 Yet?

    Common courtesy can go a long way. A lot of times we take loved ones for granted.

    • curiosity.killed.the.cat

      So true. You never know what you have until it’s gone.

  • Is It 5:00 Yet?

    Common courtesy can go a long way. A lot of times we take loved ones for granted.

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