NEVER STOP, NEVER GIVE UP: 7 Things You Should Never Stop Doing For A Woman

July 14, 2012  |  
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In the beginning of a relationship, you do nice things for your partner to impress her, rather than to make her feel good—that’s just a bonus. You want to show her what the package includes, should she decide to buy it. And so, unfortunately, once you’ve wooed her and won her, it’s easy to get too comfortable and stop making the large and loving gestures you once made. You think, “She knows that I adore her/find her attractive/am happy with her. So I don’t have to show it.” And, while she probably does know, once the effort goes out the window, so can the excitement of a relationship. And once that goes, your girlfriend/wife can start to wonder, “Is there something else out there? Is this what I want my life to be like?” A few simple gestures could keep those thoughts at bay.


Silly gifts

Remember when you first started dating and every single trinket, CD, funny t-shirt and bag of candy reminded you of her and you were always bringing homes silly gifts? Don’t stop doing that! It may be something tiny, but those tiny gifts show your woman that your radar for things that would make her smile or laugh is constantly on. It shows her that, even on your busiest of days, you always keep a little spot in your mind for her. How else would you have noticed the True Blood character bobble head at the car wash? Little gifts tell her that to some degree, you’re always thinking of her.


Sure, you’ve made love a hundred times over. She’s gotten dressed up for you even more times. She knows you find her attractive. But, complimenting a woman isn’t only about telling her that you find her attractive—it’s about boosting her confidence. Every woman loves to step out for the day feeling that everyone she passes thinks, “Daaaamn.” Of course she does! And just that one little compliment from you—“You look pretty today”—can do that for her. Also, it makes her feel like you still get just as excited to see her as you did on your first few dates. Her appearance isn’t something you’ve become accustomed to, but it still perks you up and gets your attention.

Date night

When you fuse two lives, two groups of friends, two families, two careers, things get busy. So busy that, you both accept that alone time will be put on the back burner. You think, “We spend time together. We went to my friend’s birthday party last night and to visit her parents last week!” But, nothing can replace alone time. In order to feel close to you, a woman needs to feel focused on occasionally. And that just can’t happen when you’re constantly surrounded by friends/family/coworkers/roommates. Maybe just twice a month, plan a date night. Make it a long, all-night event that’s all about you and her. You can be cooking dinner together, going out for drinks and a show. But no one else can be invited. Your partner needs to be reminded that you are happy to be just with her, no distractions or other people. She needs to feel that her jokes, her personality and her presence are enough in and of themselves to make you happy.

Caring for her career

Aside from the silly gifts, another way you constantly keep your partner on your mind when the relationship is new is by thinking of ways to boost her career. If you meet someone who you think would be a good contact for her, you get their card. If you see a flyer for a class you think would benefit her, you grab it. Maybe, just on your drives when you are alone, you think a little bit about her career and steps she could take. You want to show her that you are supportive, and that you want her to continue to thrive as an individual, even though she is in a couple. But, as relationships go on, you can easily just become each other’s comfort after a long day. You live your separate lives, come home, eat dinner on the couch, have sex and pass out without really talking about your days. But, being a part of your partner’s successes and passions is a major bonding factor. It should never stop, no matter how exhausted you are by your own career.

Making her feel wanted

Of course you still enjoy sex. What man doesn’t? But, maybe now that you don’t have to work so hard to get it, you don’t work for it at all. Instead you just look over at her mid-movie and ask, “Want to have sex?” But this doesn’t make a woman feel very desired. It makes her feel like if she hadn’t been there, your hand would have sufficed just as well. You don’t need to light up candles and talk dirty every night, but just to diversify things, every so often take her by surprise. Hop in the shower when she’s in there. Walk in the door from work and immediately push her up against a wall. Make her feel like you had to have her. A few incidents like that in just one month is enough fuel for her sexual fantasies for a long time. She will be dying to be with you after something like that.

Random texts

When you first started dating, you’d text her funny anecdotes or pictures throughout the day, or you’d just text to say, “I’m thinking about you.” You wanted her to know she was on your mind. Now that you’ve been together for a while, maybe you’ve both accepted that you’re not on each other’s minds as much and that euphoria and infatuation has worn off. But, the instant she gets a funny or sweet mid day text from you, she is time warped back to when you first met. She feels giddy and adored. Sure, she felt secure before and okay with not hearing from you until you got off work. But, sending that little mid day text, maybe under the table in a meeting, says to her, “You’re my partner in crime. You’re my friend. A little interaction with you makes my day 100X better.”

Being proud of her

Every woman on some level wants to feel like a trophy. She wants to feel that, out of all the women in the world, she’s the only one you want on your arm. And, she wants you to feel honored that out of all the men, she chose you. Nothing says that like a little PDA. When you first started dating, you couldn’t put the breaks on the PDA if you tried. Now, you probably look more like platonic friends when out at a party or bar together than a couple that is madly in love. Surprise her with some PDA. Next time you’re at a party and she is talking to some friends, come up behind her, wrap your arms around her waist and say, “Look at this woman. Did you know that I am crazy about this woman?” She will LOVE that.

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  • talaktochoba

    aren’t we going a bit overboard? PDA perhaps, but i’m not running for President; her job is just a job, she doesn’t own the company…back rubs are the answer, not flyers or calls; since you’re all spoilt, you still have to be dated, but if i wanted a trophy, i’d have married a blonde like Eldrick Woods (please don’t insult tigers, or men), or a Kardashian; staying after her like a dog over 20 summers later seems to suffice for all your other “requirements”…

  • This is a great list! Such simple things every woman loves

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  • Nellie81

    I read this list to my husband and all 7 is what he does every week. I truly love this man & he definitely loves me too.

  • Seriously

    This is so off topic lol! But I know that guy in the 1st picture! Lol we went to the same high school!

    • NachoAverage


  • Just saying!!

    Wow. This…article…is…fricking…fantastic!!! My heart is fluttering! This author is in my head!!! Lol one of the best I’ve read on MN!!

  • Faith

    Great list for both gentlemen and ladies! It’s the little things that add up and keep the relationship special (and spicy).



    • theNewDanger

      Cluelessness is bred by incompetence on the other end.

  • blackbutterfly

    This is a great list…all 100% truth from a woman’s POV.

  • Big Mike

    #6 works like a CHARM!

    Brothas: DO THAT SH!T. She will love you for it.

    One of Big Mike’s Tricks:

    Whe you both are at home doing nuthin, gently stroke the ends of her hair. Don’t run your hands all up her head – just gently touch the very ends of her hair. Eeeeever so gently, just stroke the ends of it. And watch what happens.

    You can thank me later, fellas.

    • guest

      Does it matter if it’s hers or not?

      • Team nymphis

        Second funniest comment ever.

      • Big Mike

        Doesn’t matter

    • Aolani Kayo

      What would happen is me becoming highly annoyed. I don’t like for people to put their hands anywhere near my face or head.

    • talaktochoba

      time to grow up, Big Mike;
      that list is for girls, not women;
      the difference is the former are still looking for their confidence, so depend upon you to provide it for them–women, on the other hand, demand your self-confidence before they give you theirs (confidence, not self-confidence);

      girls are Beyonce and Condoleeza Rice;

      women are Dr. Mae Jemison and the First Lady;

  • amansview

    Men tend to be goal-oriented:
    (1) college degree – check
    (2) house – check
    (3) job – check
    (4) wife – check
    Only #4 does not apply. For men, the courtship never ends. FWIW, there are other ways to make a woman feel wanted.

  • Puff

    This list was fantastic. By far my favorite from you guys so far. Everything on it has the potential to brighten your partner’s day and keep the positive energy in a relationship. And it can all be done with very little time or money. I have to echo Sabrina. Every man (and woman really) needs to be up on these things.

  • sabrina

    (cc: my future husband)

  • sabrina

    (cc: my future husband)