Frank and His Odd Future: Why His Coming Out Is Cool, But Also Very Complicated

July 5th, 2012 - By Charing Ball

Source: touchfm.org

So while you all were enjoying your burnt hot dogs and busting illegal fireworks outside of my window at exactly 1:24 a.m., Frank Ocean celebrated his independence after publicly revealing that he’d had a romantic relationship with another man and was bisexual.

In a very heartfelt and beautifully written letter posted Wednesday morning on his Tumblr page, Ocean sought to clarify the rumors that a few of the love ballads on his soon to be released debut album, entitled Channel Orange, were intended for a male love interest. In the letter, Ocean writes:

“4 summers ago, I met somebody. I was 19 years old. He was too. We spent that summer, and the summer after, together. Every day almost, and on the day we were together, time would glide. Most of the day I’d see him, and his smile. By the time I realized I was in love, it was malignant. It was hopeless There was no escaping, no negotiating with the feeling. No choice. It was my first love, it changed my life.”

Ocean went on to say that he thought about the women he had been with and thought he was in love with and the love songs he listened to and “realized they were written in a language I did not yet speak.” Ocean wrote in his closing. “I feel like a free man. If I listen closely. I can hear the sky falling too.”

One of the first Hip-Hop community insiders to speak on the matter was Russell Simmons, who wrote on Global Grind, “Today is a big day for hip-hop. It is a day that will define who we really are.  How compassionate will we be? How loving can we be? How inclusive are we? I am profoundly moved by the courage and honesty of Frank Ocean….”

Others outside the Hip-Hop community are speculating about what impact his announcement will have on his career including questions about how the genre and its fans, which are said to be notoriously homophobic, will react to his lifestyle. But within this mix of congratulatory pats on the back and questions about what the future holds for the singer/songwriter/rapper, there is a certain level of incongruity in his declaration of sexual freedom and what Frank Ocean represents.

Ocean, who is probably most known on the R&B front for the hit song “Novacane” and for appearing with Jay-Z and Kanye West as one of the few features on Watch the Throne, is a part of the collective, Odd Future Wolfgang Kill Them All, or OFWGKTA, an alternative, suburban black skater boy/girl rap group, known for saying some pretty outlandish stuff. And when I say outlandish, that includes lacing their lyrics with the kind of homophobic, anti-black and female debasement glee that could probably make Lil’ Wayne blush (maybe that’s why he’s a fan). The leader and co-founder of this clique is Tyler the Creator, who uses multiple personas to exhibit his creativity as well as his angst. One such alter-ego is Wolf Haley, a white ginger (e.g. red-haired) kid, whom he said that he always wanted to be. It may be this persona, which causes him to refer to himself as a self-racist or to use his Twitter feed and rhymes as platforms for anti-gay slurs and references. And when he is not calling people f****ts or even berating himself, his targets include veteran female emcees such as Rah Digga, who he once called a dude, and MC Lyte, who he called a “dyke.”

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  • WhoMe

    He cant sing. Stick to songwriting please.

  • http://blackonpurpose.blogspot.com/ gryph

    it isn’t so much that people are so complicated and contradictory, it is just that they get that way when they use shock as a means to get attention and generate sales. the complexity is created as they do whatever they think will benefit them at a given moment. opportunism creates layers.

  • On_Point

    Good! At least he is not Down Low anymore, I wish more DL men and women will come out b/c living that lifestyle is dangerous for all parties.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kevinferere Kevin Ferere

    You wrote a whole thesis on Tyler and lyrics but it’s supposed to be about Frank. #cmonson :/

  • http://www.facebook.com/kevinferere Kevin Ferere

    You wrote a whole thesis on Tyler and his lyrics, but it’s supposed to be about Frank. #cmonson :/

  • mbutterflii

    I thought that homosexual meant you actually have.sex which he never said happened all he said was he fell in love with a man nothing physical or maybe I’m.just crazy

    • BabaPuppe

      No, sexual orientation (hetero, homo, bi) is not about who you sleep with or have sex with. You didn’t have to have sex with a man (assuming you’re straight and female) to know you were attracted to men, that was just a natural response to the guy you ended up loving.

  • FromUR2UB

    Never heard of him, his band or their music. But, now he makes news for announcing that he likes the dangle. ..when he’s about to release new music. Courageous? This is just a manifestation of talk show /reality TV culture, where people reveal everything about themselves to an audience who didn’t know the difference before.

    • BabaPuppe

      Again, the letter talking about his summer love (crush) in ’08 was going to be in Channel Orange, however because some people wanted to know why he had used the terms “he” and “him” in 2-3 of his songs instead of “she” and “her” (which eventually bought up some animosity), Frank decided to go ahead and put everything out on the table.

      • FromUR2UB

        Well, thanks for the background.

  • StephLuv

    I’m glad he feels free, can’t imagine walking this earth now being able to express myself. Doesn’t matter to me, love your music, looking forward to 7*17*12.

  • Staci B

    Never heard of this group before this article. Shocking…is the only word I can use! Frank Ocean came out as gay not bisexual…not that I care though!

  • hiya

    Is this his beautiful smile 19 year old lover???? Why is he dating Dewayne Wayne from A Different World? #fail SN: Im so tired of all this gay stuff too

    • Justsaying

      There are gay people in the world too GET USE TO IT

      • hiya

        I don’t have to get used to anythig cuzIm not laying up with them, hope they get used to themselves they seem to be having all the coming out issues. I’m chilling.

  • Trisha_B

    I don’t think he should have to explain himself to anybody. I don’t explain why i’m a straight. You are who you are. But i loved his letter tho. I love his music & that’s all that matters. Just continue to make good music Frank. He did say in his song We all try “…I believe that marriage isn’t between a man & woman, but Between love & love.” I guess he’s been leaving hints in his music all along. I can’t stand tyler the Creator. i never understood why Frank would be in a group w/ him. he’s so ignorant its crazy

  • YeaIsAiDIT!

    This is dumb, if Cent penned a letter talking about how straight he is and when he was 19 he kissed a girl on a Ferry Ride to Queens we would be like STFU…..so to you Frank Ocean, kiss on who you want to kiss on and STFU!!!!

    • Mary

      How ignorant of a response. Straight rappers/ R&B singers don’t have to pen a letter about being straight because they can express it anyway they want without backlash. Straight performers have been flaunting their sexuality forever with music videos and sexually suggestive material so to belittle someone who has the courage to come out in an industry where there is virtually NO ONE else that has done so is VERY IMPORTANT. People who belittle another persons courage to express who they are CAN HAVE SEVERAL SEATS!

      • Mrsadkiah

        THANK YOU!

      • YeaIsAiDiT!

        Boo hooo hooo cry me freaking river. You make a “decision” to like men and all of a sudden you are the bold and courageous lion of the jungle. Get out of here, he likes ping….me too!

  • ….

    I don’t care that he’s gay. What bothers me about this is Odd Future themselves. It’s very disappointing that this is the direction people are going in, with so much hatred towards women and self-hatred towards one’s own race. So how am I supposed to turn around and commend one of their members for coming out??? They say/act like it’s no big deal but it’s so destructive and damaging, not just to them but to the race itself. So ridiculous how his people rip women to shreds or make racist comments, but in this situation we’re expected to be understanding of him because he’s being “brave”. It’s a funny world we live in.

    • Love_Your_Smile

      You took the words right out of my mouth… That Tyler character -who they consider to be their leader- is extremely disturbing to me. And for Frank to accept his ridiculously derogatory comments about any person or group disturbs me as well. Good for him that he’s come to terms with the person that he really is… But then again, has he really done so if he considers someone who speaks so negatively about people like him a friend? Anyways, I hope he finds peace within.

      • JaneDoe

        Yeah Tyler is a odd one.. I won’t say anymore b/c I will get chastized..

    • yoyodre

      he didn’t say he was gay though

  • Ki

    My thing is why do people have to announce their sexuality. He makes great music and that is all that matters. I don’t go announcing I’m straight, I’m black (even tho Im really bright), or I’m a nurse. Just be a good person and continue your craft.

    • JustMe

      I agree. When he announced it, I thought it was courageous but I also thought why should he have to announce it and explain it to anyone. Maybe someone was going to try and blackmail or extort him behind it. Who knows. God knows we have seen enough of these tell alls and with that prior relationship, I am sure someone would have come from nowhere to capitalize on his success. Im sure he felt liberated by his admission and from the responses from people. Here’s to hoping we can one day become a society where explanations like these are not warranted.

    • BabaPuppe

      He only ‘announced’ it because people were attacking and questioning him about why instead of “she” and “her” he used the terms “he” and “him” in two or three of his songs… People were going to find out why when/if they bought Channel Orange (based on his summer love), but since they found out beforehand he decided to come out with everything.

    • CocoB

      Right on correct point. I love Frank ocean his music is Good. I don’t believe they was any need for this letter. What is the world coming too? everyone announcing what sexuality. He should have just focus on making good music and putting any messages in his music and people can read into that. Slightly disappointed.

    • Mrsadkiah

      *sigh* This is one of the most ignorant comments I’m sick of seeing straight people make, and yes I’m straight. You don’t announce that you’re straight because it’s considered normal or the “default” sexuality. You sound just like White people who have a problem with us calling ourselves AFRICAN American (telling us to “pick one”) and having things such as BET and the NAACP when they don’t have the equivalent, it’s because they have never had and wont ever have need for the equivalent. No, homosexuals don’t HAVE to announce that they’re gay or come out but doing so is them standing up and letting the world know that in this society which finds them disgusting, abnormal and an abomination they’re not afraid to be themselves. Especially in the Black community and in this new hyper-masculine and hyper sexual R&B genre (don’t know why people keep saying hip hop). It’s saying something for a man to not be afraid to let people know he’s bi. Check your privilege before you make comments like this.

      • Ki

        I will make whatever comment I like. And by the likes I got on my comment I see I am not the only one who feels this way. I was just the one to type it.
        Isn’t that the sole purpose of a comment box? To see different opinions

        • Mrsadkiah

          I know you’re not the only one who feels that way, that is more straight people not checking and understanding their privilege, having a popular opinion doesn’t make it the right one. I never told you NOT to comment. I never told you not to express your opinion. I simply told you why you’re wrong for what you said and that you need to check your privilege before you make such a comment because if you had you would be educated enough not to make such an ignorant statement.

          • Ki

            That’s your opinion. I have mine. I’m ignorant because we don’t agree? You sound ignorant. Nobody should have to announce their sexuality. Actually no one should announce their business period. I’m done with you. People like you try to force people to change their opinions because they don’t agree smh.

            • Mrsadkiah

              I’m not trying to force you to change your opinon. Not once did I say “think differently Ki”. You’re statement and the way you think about this issue is ignorant, I never said you were ignorant as a person. You are right no one HAS to announce their sexuality. However homosexuals do so because of the heteronormative culture we live in. You saying “I don’t go around announcing I’m straight” is incredibly ignorant for reasons I have already explained. People only say no one SHOULD announce their business when it’s something viewed as negative. When someone is telling everyone that they’re about to get married or have a baby, this is their business but no one will say “why are you telling all of your business?” because it is viewed as positive. Again, check and understand your privilege to prevent yourself from making such an ignorant statement again.

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