Men Decoded: What His Bedroom Tactics Say About Him…

July 24th, 2012 - By Julia Austin
"Couple talking in bed"

theurbandaily.com

We can all become consumed by our bodily sensations during sex. We can scream obscene things, make strange faces and in general lose control over what we say and do. But, don’t let the carnal nature of it all be an excuse for a man to act like  a complete jerk in the bedroom. The ability to control one’s animal instincts is what makes one human (read: sensitive). And if a guy can’t be sensitive in the bedroom, you can almost guarantee he won’t be out of it either.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/MessziPali Messzi Pali

    I agree with most points. However when a lady pulls a power play on me (teases me up for sex then says “no” to see if she can jerk me around) I see through the ruse, comply politely with her “no”, leave, and that’s it for the two of us. Because this isn’t a test if I’m safe, it’s a test whether I can be manipulated. I don’t insult others’ intelligence, others shouldn’t insult mine.

  • Ian

    This is a very narrow minded article, i can agree with some things, but sometimes its nice to be rough and sometimes its nice to be soft and loving…. this article is way too one sided, what about the mans needs as well…. this is just nonsense

  • http://www.facebook.com/greg.pouliot.7 Greg Pouliot

    A lot of men do need to be more sensitive. But this article is not the place to get (most of) the advice
    1) Women sometimes like “jackhammer sex”. They like it hard. And the guys I know, don’t want it to be over in 30 seconds. Maybe I just know respectful guys?
    2) I’m not wiping off your messy body parts. In fact, most women I know wouldn’t want you wiping them down as if they can’t clean themselves.
    3) I would be pissed if my partner fell asleep right away, so this I understand.

    4-6) All valid. Guys not interested in foreplay are selfish, but then again so are women who don’t want to give anything extra. No means no, and leaving to see your friends is just childish.

  • Corovius

    You actually had to write an article about this? Not to say I don’t agree – I’m 8 for 8 (woohoo!) – but I just didn’t think it’d be so rare that women must be ‘informed’ that these things are red flags… marks of a gentleman, I suppose, considering it feels right to do/refrain from such things. A gentleman is a hard find, lost in a swag ridden world.

  • Nees

    So I’m the only one who likes jackhammer sex? Oh…

  • Black Mamba

    Ladies understand something
    We have the ability to please u if we wanted, if were not doing so its either because your to restrictive, to lazy to put in work, or just plain boring, oh I forgot selfish, women what u won’t do another women will,
    Advice: go to a strip club just to see what a man wants at home,
    Not in the street don’t get it confused.

  • Veratta Pegram-Floyd

    Honestly, selfishness and other negative behaviors manifest themselves even before you enter into the bedroom. If you haven’t seen the behavior prior to the bedroom, you haven’t been paying (enough or any) attention.

  • http://twitter.com/GGooDei GGooDei

    Very good article and so true. This is why my dating game is on pause. If you are not a romantic man…there is no need for us to talk. Period!

  • Team Nymphis

    If we’re naked in bed and you say no then you’re either suqin or leaving…and if you wanna phuq while my homies are in the next room when we finish I’m walkin out the room and tappin in the next dude cause you’re obviously a bustdown

    • DommyMars

      You’re disgusting and have absolutely no class. All you would attract is a bustdown!

    • shain17

      This is an example of who this article is written for right here….smh

  • Kayo

    A woman can learn early on if a man will take her ‘no’ in a sexual environment seriously. If he can’t take a ‘no’ in a nonsexual setting then he definitely won’t be able to take it in a sexual setting.

  • AnnelliDAREAL

    Stay out the bedroom until marriage……

    • amansview

      The voice of reason. Excellent comment!

    • Lark the Dark

      Where am i suppose to sleep until then?

      • Kayo

        The couch.

    • gallen408

      So you both wind up in a unfulfilling marriage? What about that moment once you realise that sexually you’ll never be able to please each other Do you both get an open marriage at that point?

      • http://www.facebook.com/greg.pouliot.7 Greg Pouliot

        I agree. So many people freak out for whatever reason about sex before marriage. If that’s your choice great, but I choose to know if my partner and myself are going to be compatible.

  • gabrielle

    Men need to take a Woman 101 course like they said. Some men just don’t know what they’re doing…maybe have a class at the college. Seriously, it wouldn’t hurt. :0)

  • BigTyCizzle

    With ALL due respect, as a community we should discuss these issues with each other and not assume that men know ALL these rules that some women have established… and another thing, where are the rules for women!?! Everything is not about the pleasuring of women, it takes two to tango!

    And we wonder why black men continue to date outside their race.

    • darcampb

      Hey, the White, Asian, etc women of the world can have the men who pull these moves. No loss to black women at all., thanks!

      • DommyMars

        Pow! Thank you!

      • Kedz

        I call it cleaning out the race. We don’t want the type of men that dont want us.

    • darcampb

      Also, the article isn’t about women being pleasure or catered to , it focuses on over the top disrespectful moves that only a fool would pull

  • nick

    I almost knocked a dude out the other day for trying that “head push” maneuver! How rude! I had to let a niqqa know that I’m NOT bout that life.

  • gracie

    All these apply to most African men!

    • bigdawgman

      Dayum, you’ve slept with ALL of them? Yikes!

  • HOUSTON

    I had a jack hammer once. We never finished and I didnt give him a call back either.