Party of One Please: Things I’ve Learned To Enjoy By Myself

July 4th, 2012 - By Blair Bedford

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Eating Out or Going For a Drink Solo

Happy hour isn’t the same without some friends or co-workers to enjoy it with. It might feel awkward to sit at the bar alone (and might even seem a little bit desperate), but nothing beats a good happy hour or dinner like meeting new people along the way. Especially if you like to network. Going to a happy hour or eating dinner solo could open up the possibilities of meeting new people. I have been able to meet a lot of great young professionals, like myself, at networking events or happy hours that I attended alone. Sometimes, it’s also a great way to enjoy the company of one, yourself, and enjoying a new restaurant or cuisine.

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  • Honeybee30

    I like the article very much. I used to think doing things alone was crazy. It is ok to do it. After ending a long tumultous relationship, I realize that Iost myself in a relationship. I have been alone for two years. I can be alone and still have fun. I don’t have to answer to anyone or anybody because it is all about me.

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  • http://twitter.com/RadBrownBeauty Michelle

    Amen to this. I totally enjoy going to the movies, shopping and just spending time by myself. I have to have that balance. Thanks for the reminder.

  • miche

    I don’t like too much me-time, as I seem to drive myself crazy when I do. I looove to cook and entertain, and nothing brings joy to me like watching those I love enjoy a meal that I prepared. I do however steal away minutes during my day just for a little time to myself…keyword here: a little. It’s true that one isolating himself will seek his own selfish desires..balance is the key. We were created social beings. It’s soo sad to me that there are so many lonley people in this world that someone saw a need to write an article to persuade the lonley that’s its okay to be that way

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1446412136 Paula Woods

      Did we read the same article or am I to infer from your response that you have co-dependency issues and the inability to spend time alone with yourself? Generally people who cannot do things alone have much greater issues than those who choose to do things alone. It doesn’t mean we’re lonely; it just means we secure enough in ourselves to go out and do what we wish without having to rely on others for our own happiness.

  • Nehemiah53

    All the above is OK a “little bit”, however it’s a natural fact we human are social being and to much trying to enjoy by myself will lead to mental and emotional problem, remember the highest from of maturity is interdependents NOT independents! Think about it when you are working out of town and eating out by your self why do you find yourselves looking around hoping someone would come and sit down at your table and eat with you, I will tell you why it’s because loneliness is no good for anyone it leave you vulnerable and unprotected, it is very unhealthy mentally and physical that’s why lonely people dye sooner.

    • missUk

      I agree 100% with what you are saying. sometimes when we do things alone, we often drive ourselves crazy thinking about stuff that are not worth thinking about. But when your with people, especially people we are close to we become more relax.

  • BeeBee

    Good article. I do most of this alreay. I want to travel alone. I always have the opportunity but never take because I don’t want to go by myself. The main thing is safety.

    • PowerPuffGirl

      I travel alone, and sure there are places I wouldn’t dare venture to without a group of people, but there are other places where you are in no more danger than you would be at home. Do some research, then pack a bag and go!

      • BeeBee

        Thank you for replying and the advice! I will definitely do my research and just go! Where are some places you traveled alone ?

    • vdizzle

      I highly recommend solo travel! I’ve traveled throughout Bolivia…..alone. I met so many other travelers (solo and in pairs) from all over the world, it was amazing! Truly liberating. I was so nervous at first but had confidence in myself. And while I’m fluent in Spanish, I met so many other travelers who barely spoke the language but did not let that deter them.
      Go for it! Maybe start small, then go international!

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1446412136 Paula Woods

        I traveled alone in South America a well and my Spanish is shaky. Must say it was the best vacation ever! Just go for it!

      • BeeBee

        Thank you for replying and the advice! That is amazing! I love the idea of starting off small then going international. Thanks, I will definitely start looking into some places in the US to travel to get a feel of it then go international! :)

  • courts

    i love this article!!! esp since i have a whole month to myself and so busy missing my son the days are dragging!! this will give me something to do and enjoy while i have the opportunity

    • Nehemiah53

      Good to have some me time, but to much me time leave you lonely and longing for company, to much me time is not good mentally!

  • bluekissess

    Good tips. I’ve never been to the movies by myself or a bar (I don’t go to those places often). I honestly don’t like been alone. I’ve tried it and I don’t like it. Lonely can mean being in your own thoughts which could lead to more stress and even depression. But it doesn’t hurt to try them.

    • Nehemiah53

      bluekissess you are right to much loneliness is no good for anyone mental of physical health. I think they are trying to push this “I can be happy all by my self ideal on the young single and successful sisters” but it want work because we live and operate in the natural world, we humans are social beings loneliness is against natural law.

      • SMHgurl24

        We have been surpassing the natural law for the past 100 years. Nowadays Peoples definition of being social involves sitting at a computer all day on twitter or fb arguing about what people say. The article isnt saying to live out alone in the Woods its saying instead of worrying about what people will think of you if your not latched at the hip of someone or yabbing on the phone, why dont you take personal time out to discover your own abilities w/o someone hampering you down. I find that i do a lot more things alone that i like then when im with my friends. i find my social life is waayy better then my friends who text me their bored all the time

        • Nehemiah53

          The first thing is nothing can never surpass natural law human included,
          natural law supersede everything man/women made or created.

          • SMHgurl24

            Comparing human nature and natural law is a sensitive place to travel because frankly if you look around we have gone over and above our natural instincts to survive. yes humans are social animals and no it isnt unnatural for some humans to live in solitude. People do it and live normal lives. Just because you or i cant do it doesnt mean others cant

            • Nehemiah53

              You right!

  • Numero Uno

    I couldn’t go to the movies, go out to a bar or out to dinner, nor travel by myself. Lol. I went to the movies by myself one time and it just felt so weird seeing all the couples coming in together. And it felt weird not having someone to talk to during the movie. Lol. At least I can say I tried. The others like going to the gym or being home alone don’t bother me.

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