Are You Marriage Material? 8 Signs You May Not Make a Good Wife

June 30th, 2012 - By Brooke Dean

theglobenewspaper.blogspot.com

Some women have dreamed of being married since the age of baby dolls and pigtails, so once they begin dating, every guy becomes a potential Prince Charming. As romantic as the notion of marriage may be, most people don’t stop to think if they are actually “marriage material.” Many think that simply because you fall in love and date for a year or two, marriage is the natural next step – but it’s not for everyone. If you DO decide that marriage is in your future, make sure you’re honest with yourself about what you bring to the table. After all, you can’t attract a man who possesses the traits of a good husband if you don’t display those traits yourself (and of course the same applies to men). If you’re unsure, these signs may indicate that you may not make a good wife – and have some work to do on yourself before you walk the aisle.

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  • casey

    whoever is making it seem like all black women are hoes are ridiculous. white people are also ghetto and trashy and having babies out of wedlock…any episode of maury will reveal this. black people may have a higher rate of teenage pregnancy but thats cause white teens get abortions instead. also socioeconomic status is the main factor of all these situations…most teen pregancies are in lower income/low education areas regardless of any race! blackpeople are also more likely to be in a disadvantaged socioeconomic situation.

    now im not making so many excuses. black people like to blame everyone else for their problems, but we need to take responsibility. i was watching the bet awards last wek and was laughing at all those ignorant buffoons. some fools like swizz beatz and rick ross are middle aged and still walking around with gold chains and their pants off talking about nonsense! black people glorify idiots like nicki minaj while real lyricists are never heard of. they plaster fake video vixens and b.s. rappers on their walls but couldnt tell you who marcus garvey was. sad part is kids worship these clowns. black people need to stop being retarded, stop buying rim and chains when you cant even pay your rent, get some priorities, go to school, dress themsleves and conduct themselves with pride. if you act ignorant youre going to get treated like so.

    • Big Mike

      This is the most sensible post on this entire thread.

      Thanks, Casey

  • janthonyrose

    Well, in reading the article, it wasn’t just about cooking and cleaning, it was about traits that men AND women should possess to be good spouses – it just happens to be wriiten for women.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_WUGLV57QFFE6LIKX56IOOC7FNI T

    Then why don’t the bum hoe bm use a damn condom???

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

      this man ain’t sh*t remember.. Do you really trust him to use sound judgement? At the end of the day she allowed him to sweet talk her, say nice things to her, enough to the point of her opening her legs…

    • HonestBrotha

      Ummmm…he’s a bum. It’s funny how you blame the retard for being a retard but not the person willing to make a retard a father. Some sistas have it twisted beyond belief.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_WUGLV57QFFE6LIKX56IOOC7FNI T

    BM ain’t marrying nobody anyway!! Almost 70% are single and never married!!
    When you talk about single mothers don’t forget to speak on SINGLE FATHERS!!

    Face facts most BM are bum hoes, hiv carriers, jailbirds, etc.
    Colorist and crazy picky fools coddled by mama cause dad was an absentee bum!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Shanin-Nichelle-Jackson/1306961447 Shanin Nichelle Jackson

    I know I’ll be single for life. I am faaar too set in my ways to let some chic’s random son tell me anything about living my life. The only males I want to deal with full time are the 2 I gave birth to. Single, proud, and free: dat be me.

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  • jt

    Women have most of the reproductive power. They determine when and if they become mothers and when and if men become fathers. Men can’t decide to make women mothers against their will. They have the power so they get the blame.

    • juilie see

      rape? hello?

  • janthonyrose

    Articles like this are in women’s mags because only women read them. And MN HAS written articles on how to spot a man who man NOT be marriage material. If this article was titled “Signs You May Not Make a Good Husband” who’s going to read it? Women will, not men…because men typically don’t read women’s magazines, so the message will be lost because it doesn’t apply to women. Women get bent out of shape when these artlces are written, but there ARE some women out there who WANT to get married, but maybe shouldn’t, or have some maturing to do before they do if that is THEIR wish. If this list doesn’t apply to you, then why be mad about it? There are articles written everyday on MN about how to maintain or products to use for natural hair. I don’t have natural hair…so should I be mad that they wrote an article about it? If you don’t want to get married, then skip over this article because it doesn’t apply to you. There are some women (of ALL races) who may not be ready to get married, or who want to but are wondering why they’re not in the right relationships – so they may read this to get some understanding. All the women on this thread who say they have no desire to get married, shoudlnt’ have read it in the first place because it doesn’t apply to them.

  • Peach

    Thank you for wasting 5 minutes of my time with an article full of common sense and common knowledge

    • Courtney

      You assume all women have or USE their common sense. Clearly there are people who get married anyway, despite having traits that are contrary to being in a marriage situation. Not everyone can be you.

  • No.1

    wow!!!! it is so amazing to me that most black women here are using character flaws in some black men to justify their behavior, after dating and studying black women I think a lot of sisters moral compass have sort of went to the left, The black woman used to be proud, strong, respectful and chaste even when the male counterpart failed the black community. The black woman used to be praised by every race for her ability to maintain a household, nurture children, maintain her dignity even when wronged,and also for their common sense (intelligence) but somewhere along the lines some young black women have shunned and shamed the mantle left behind by their mothers and grandmothers proudly as if the burden just got too heavy to be a dignified black woman. I won’t go into details but dignified and good women just don’t do certain things (some are on the list above), of course people make mistakes but I’m just gonna say to my sisters that I love so dearly, please just respect yourselves and don’t stop being the best you can be professionally or morally because of your differences with black men and please stop speaking negative of black men at every turn. if you don’t want it ignore it…..

    • GeekMommaRants

      Sir, I most take your thoughtful comments to task. The level of violence in our community has made me, (I will speak for myself) rather shy. One really cannot expect honor when terror is the name of the game. Thank you for your comment.

  • Bianca

    I think number seven is a bit much.

  • HaHa

    It is funny how many females get angry when someone dares say they are not as desirable as they think they are. Grow up and get over yourself.

  • customcalendars4u2

    I’m not even curious enough to scroll through all them pages….For What? Because there are no magic answers! People fall in & out of love everyday and many Never get to the core of what that type of commitment means.They don’t even look at compatibility issues like sleeping habits, communication,respect,family history medical & mental,money and RELIGION being a Big issue in some marriages.Great Sex fades and then what,are you really in it for the long haul? People change some for the better and some for the worst,but there are some Key things you wanna find out before you take the plunge.

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  • THE GATEKEEPER

    i m glad you ask this question most black woman are good woman they work and provide for their family sometimes her mate is decease or incarcerated and her man has experience hardship he leaves sometime because he can’t provide for his family or maybe he saw his father leave his mother when he was young so he carry that hate with him when things get tuff he gets mad and leave and go to the next woman when that does not work he goes out and find an easy yes yes woman even through he is wrong— all woman have attitudes—-every black women is not trying to have babies with these lost men okay the people that put black woman down are bitter with self hatred they probably didn’t have fathers at home so they blame the black woman they never talk good about a black woman who is paying her own bills educated travel around world knows how to handle an intelligent conversations not living off a baller’s money there are black women who pick there men up when they were down on their luck she polish him up for the next woman and she love that man how do you think she feels? some of u punks on this site talk very bad bout black women it is wrong but good thing about the computer you can say anything because you are hiding and scarce could u look me in the face and talk bad about blk women? good black women don’t have time for you bums and nonsense

    • CowCow

      Lord, give this person some PUNCTUATION. Good women of any race should know how to speak and write their native language.

  • http://twitter.com/rdingram_us Reba

    They forgot to mention if you want to kill your significant other or their kids it may be best not to get married.

  • Thank God

    Im almost glad I have no desire to get married!! If your young focus on you and you only..and if a man comes around thats WORTH getting married to..the marry him… if not you will already know how to enjoy YOURSELF..not being dosent equal being lonley..you can still have meaningful relationships with the opposite sex, you just dont have to bind yourself to him legally or for any other matter..unless that is what you really want..but not all women want that and for good reason..some people just refuse to believe that you can be single and still be happy and fullfilled..most of them are to scared to find out..or they find out when its too late..there is much more to life than relationships ladies..please understand this and find what makes you happy and whole..no one else can or will do that for you..men are not going anywhere trust me!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Thank God

      #not being married dosent equal being lonley

    • jane

      AMEN!!!!!

  • guesswho88

    i agree with most of the comments. they’re constantly talking about bw or women in general need to stand on their head , and all of the above to get married. but men today have no grooming articles. especially bm whew lawd just sad. a lot of bm don’t have a clue as to what a real man , husband,and FATHER is. some of them think having a bunch of kids is being a man lol. some think because they’ve got a big member and a bunch of low self esteem brawds running behind them thats being a man. tsk tsk. and what dramatic typing said was nothing but the truth, the real reason hardly any of us are married is because BM DON’T WANT TO GET MARRIED. that is unless they can throw all their back child support and bad credit on you. married men ask me what i do for a living. and i can tell their wives is the breadwinner and they just do the bare minimum thing. and their silly wives brag to everybody about how perfect their fake , UNFAITHFUL , marriage is. i look at the wives and just smh. marriage today seems like a crock of sh**!

    • http://twitter.com/LuvinAllOfMe83 Tiana Rivers

      THanks!!!!!!!You said it best!!!!!!!!!!!

  • koffybrown

    Well I’ve known for years that I’m not marriage material…lol Trying to satisfy a man needs is too much freaking work. I’d whether die old and happy,than old and bitter.