Sharing is Caring – 5 Things You Should Never Keep From Your Boo

July 1st, 2012 - By Brooke Dean

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1. Debt/Big Purchases

If you’re simply dating, this may not apply to you. But if you are discussing marriage or ARE married, debt and major purchases should never be hidden from your significant other. People have a right to know what they’re marrying into, and if you are already hitched, then hiding debt from your spouse could land you in the poor house…and divorce court. It’s called “financial infidelity,” and struggling to hide credit card debt, investment losses or sneaking shopping bags into the house is a sign of guilt.

If you are a team, you should be able to be honest about your spending habits so that you and your partner can work through any potential financial issues or help one another budget individually or as a family. Even if you don’t agree with your partner’s spending habits, perhaps you can come up with rules that’ll help hold you both accountable – like telling your partner about any purchases that are $100 or more. Whatever you decide – joint accounts, separate accounts, or both – you need to support one another to help you get through any money troubles that will inevitably arise in any relationship. Be courageous, face your finances head on and tell your partner about any debt you have and it will make your relationship stronger.

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  • PSTREET

    The correct quote is “Those who have nothing to hide,hide nothing.” Come on MN.

  • IllyPhilly

    This sounds like a good formula for another “reality” show! Get on it VH1.

    • bluekissess

      Please No. I can’t take another show

  • lalatarea

    i agree with everything except for the abortion part, that is a private decision between a woman and her doctor which doesn’t effect the man, their money or anything else like that.

    • Nope

      And we assume that it’s happened at least once anyway, especially if it was a longterm relationship.

  • Lin

    Thank you for the list! My loser boyfriend (we live together) made me think that I was the crazy one, and that I was overreacting! He constantly contacts women online through facebook (without telling me), makes inappropriate comments to them, has I don’t know how many emailadresses. When he is on facebook and I approach, he clicks away.. ! But nooo. I’m the crazy one.. !!!
    LOSER!

    • SMH

      If he has a history of doing this sort of stuff during your relationship and you’re still with him, you ARE the crazy one.

      • Lin

        Haha, this recently happened, we are no longer speaking to each other!

    • facebooker

      i found out mine was cheating on me thanks to facebook saw tags of his other chick all over his photos and photos of them at dinner through a third party, i left his sorry behind

  • bluekissess

    I was going to read-BUT- then I thought about why MN always have list on how to act, what to say or what to do. Is there a list about being ourselves? And that it’s okay to be ourselves. It’s always a list about a man.

    What makes MN such an expert? I’m sure half of your staff is single, in a relationship but isn’t married, married but isn’t happy. The point is NOBODY IS PERFECT!!

    • MedPassion

      This list or many others that have been posted from this site is casual advice or light reading. Something that may come to you as common sense may be just what another woman needed to hear/read. It’s one thing to dislike a post. It’s another to say that you’re “sure” about half the staff and their currency relationship status. There was no claim in the article that their advice or tips would produce a perfect person. Or that it came from people in perfect relationships. This is a website catering to the many facets of todays Black Woman. Whether is job interview advice, homemade skin care advice or relationship advice – The point is read at your leisure and apply at your own risk…. It really isn’t that serious ;)

      • bluekissess

        I’m sure you feel great standing on your soapbox telling it like is. Glad you expressed your opinion BUT it wasn’t needed. I’m afraid that women rely on these list. Most seems like common sense mixed with life experience. IN MY OPINION this list and the many other lists aren’t informative. I haven’t lived on this earth long but I can decipher right and wrong.

        But whatever. I’m not taking this crap serious. I’m good. You can step on your soapbox now

        • MedPassion

          If you don’t want people to give opinions on your opinion , I advise you not to place your opinion over a button that says reply. Please and thank you. And I think I may just leave my soap box here in case someone else needs it.

          • bluekissess

            I really don’t like to go off topic especially over nonsense. The soapbox reference wasn’t the only thing I expressed. Agree to disagree have a blessed day

            • MedPassion

              You have a blessed day as well!! :)

        • fanniedavis

          You don’t have to read the lists or anything else on this Web site if its just that bad. And I don’t have a soap box I just think your ignorant

          • bluekissess

            The beauty of OPINIONS no right or wrong answer. Agree to disagree have a nice day.

      • fanniedavis

        Thank you!!

    • Courtney

      This list isn’t about a man, it’s about not keeping important things from your man. How can you possibly comment on an article you did NOT read? That’s silly. If “being yourself” involves hiding STD’s, money problems and pregnancies, then this is an article SOMEONE needs to read in order to get a clue – because I’m sure there are people out there doing this foolishness. Of course no one is perfect, but that doesn’t mean we can’t all benefit from some helpful advice from time to time. And if no one is perfect, then why are you even reading articles on sites like these if you feel you can’t benefit because no one is perfect or “an expert.” You’re no expert, but you clearly think YOUR OPINION matters…or else you wouldn’t have taken the time to write it. None of the authors of this site claim to be experts at anything, but if their opinions on certain subjects help someone else, then why do you care? It’s not that serious.

      • bluekissess

        Yawn.I’m sticking to MY OPINION. HAVE A SPLENDID DAY