Not Just Another Bullying Victim: Why Does Karen Klein Matter So Much to Us?

June 26th, 2012 - By Brande Victorian

Source: Schoolbullyingcouncil.com

When you hear about someone being bullied, you usually picture the victim as a child—unless of course we’re discussing an episode of “Basketball Wives,” and even then, the victim and the perpetrator are at least in the same age group. But the case of Karen Klein has turned all of those commonalities on it’s head. The 68-year-old school bus monitor who was verbally abused and bullied by a group of seventh-grade students last week has not just gotten the entire nation in an uproar, she’s sparked action. What was at first a tiny campaign geared at sending this working woman on a much-needed vacation after the verbal abuse she endured has grown into a massive outpouring of financial support to the tune of $650,000 courtesy of 16,000 random Americans who don’t know this woman at all. They’ve only heard her story as it’s been reported in the media or contributed to one of the 7 million views on the Youtube video showing her being taunted on that school bus that day. The question is, why has her story resonated so much more than all of the other countless instances of bullying in this country?

There certainly have been other high-profile bullying cases, Tyler Clementi’s suicide at Rutgers most notably. That situation certainly gave way to the anti-bulling video campaign that launched around that time, but even then, the circumstances surrounding Tyler’s death had people on the fence about whether he was really bullied and what, if any wrong, had really been done. When it comes to Karen, the distinction that I think has garnered so much support is the fact that this woman was berated by kids more than 50 years younger than her. That time of realization doesn’t allow for the “kids just being kids” excuse so many teachers, parents, principles, and school officials use to justify the same behavior when it goes on between two seventh graders. When you hear the things these kids were saying to Karen and how they poked her stomach and called her names, you see this is far more than a kid being picked on on the playground. There’s more than an air of mean-spiritedness and an obvious lack of respect for one’s elders that suddenly doesn’t make people want to sweep this under the rug.

This situation also doesn’t allow for the dismissal of that type of taunting as just being “apart of life.” So many adults are bullied by their superiors every single day on the job, particularly in competitive, male-dominated industries, but subordinates are told to take it, to pay their dues, and to play the game if they want to excel. Mark C. Crowley of Fast Company says it’s the fact that Americans see themselves in Karen when they watch her cry on that bus, that has brought on this type of collective support. He says there’s rarely a person who can’t identify with being put down on the job, often by the very people you are serving and sometimes even protecting, as she was—and not to mention for a measley wage. Karen Klein earned just $15,000 a year monitoring those Upstate New York kids on that yellow bus.

“[M]any of us feel disrespected and under-appreciated for the work we do everyday,” Mark wrote. “Consciously or unconsciously, we’re projecting our feelings about our own jobs onto the experience of Mrs. Klein. We’re hurting at work and are suffering Mrs. Klein’s pain as that of our own.”

If that’s the case, then this story of support is much less about bullying and much more about the general state of unhappiness among the American workforce. One could easily argue that’s a far greater epidemic than bullying, but I don’t think the fact that the perpetrators in this case were children should be lost on the fact that this type of thing goes on every day. The thing is, little bullies grow up to be big bullies and so the motivations behind this fast-growing initiative are one in the same. If we want to stop adults from being berated on their jobs, we need to stop children from bullying one another (and even adults) while they’re young. What’s seen as harmless at 12-years-old looks quite different at age 40 in a seat of authority inside of a fortune 500 company.

There’s obviously an element of group thinking and peer pressure evident in this bus bullying situation, as evidenced by the fact that several children engaged in the taunting and not one came to the woman’s defense or thought to tell his peers to stop. But that type of behavior was learned before those kids got around each other on that bus and I think actually seeing and hearing the type of behavior that goes on among teens, pre-teens, and even younger is making people realize sticks and stones break bones but words hurt a lot too. For many, the reality of bullying just got real for the first time and if people are willing to put their money behind Karen Klein to right these kids’ wrongs, hopefully they’ll put their mind behind their own words and curb the examples of bullying they support consciously or unconsciously—and stand up against the real-life instances they witness every day.

Why do you think so many people are showing support for Karen Klein in this situation?

Brande Victorian is the news and operations editor for madamenoire.com. Follow her on twitter @Be_Vic.

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  • Kaye

    Sadly, the students on that bus
    represented the lack of humility and the increased level of narcissism that
    exist in American society. Unfortunately, parents are no longer teaching
    their children to respect their elders, others, or the interconnectedness
    within us all. As a teacher, several, if not all of my colleagues have
    endured some sort of verbal abuse or threat, and the underlying message is that
    as a professional it comes with the territory.

    As an educator, I feel as if no one
    seems to care. I find it hilarious and baffling, that I can walk into a state
    building and see signs posted about harassment. Belligerent customers are
    escorted off of the property, banned from buildings, but minors are taught to
    live by a different set of rules. If a student disrespects his or her
    teacher, the consequence is minute.
    Teachers in some cases are professionally stigmatized as being poor
    educators, that lack classroom management skills. Education is the only
    sector of society in which professionals are disregarded and openly subjugated
    to abuse. Hospitals, police stations, government offices, etc… which of
    these places would tolerate negative or offensive behavior? People need to wake
    up and start asking why? Parents, you must do better!

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Ashley-Sykes/1065177536 Ashley Sykes

      right! it pissed me off how on the TMZ show, one of the people on there said that it was her fault for being a teacher and she should expect kids to act like that. SMH excuses excuses excuses!

  • SMHgurl24

    The most important thing people who see this going on is to stand up. You don’t need to stand tall but you do need to stand and it makes all the difference in the world..

  • shame on you

    because…[that how white people] say im sorry you can use this money and in return dont press charges on or ” rude” kids it helps but i would want them to learn a lesson let them see how it feels to be bullied like that…if that was a ”’BLACK ”’ WOMAN ”’ IT WOULD have been a different story

  • sammi_lu

    Screw a vacation..take the money and RETIRE boo!

  • http://twitter.com/unque43 LaVerne

    Parents need to grow up and raise their kids. Yeah I know you can’t be with your kids 24/7. But when you are with them give them rules set boundaries. These kids went past all boundaries. Parents have gotten younger and have become friends with their kids instead of their parents. Grandparents are even younger now due to babies having babies. Young people who have become parents before they have had a chance to finish being kids. Parents who don’t have time to raise their kids because they want to have fun. Not all some young parents do step to the plate and do the best they can. But the one’s I am speaking of don’t know how to be parents. They don’t know how to set boundaries or make rules for their children. DCF raises the children although they are not in the home. I was talking to a young lady I told her that she needs to instill fear in her kids she looked at me as if I was crazy. Not fear that you will hurt your kids never would I say that that but fear of disappointing the parent(s) . My sons never wanted to disappoint me. When they had behavior that was not appropriate, I would say I am so disappointed in you for the behavior you exhibited and that would be enough and when their behavior was good I let them know how proud I was of them and today they are men Never in trouble leading good lives and respectable. I talked to my children. I encouraged them to be children while they were children they dressed as children. not as small grown ups. I had the final say in how they dressed. With good leadership they made the correct choices. Parents need to get back to the basic and moms and dads tell your children you love them hug them and spend time with them. Buying jordans and merchandise does not say I love you. Read to them let them read to you, Give them chores expect good behavior and when your child has less than perfect behavior let them know this behavior will not be excepted. and don’t let them think that you will stand for their bad behavior.

    • Kaye

      LaVerne you hit the nail on the head: parents want to be their children’s friends. They see parenthood as a means to right their own past parental disappointments. Go to therapy to deal with your issues and raise your children. Otherwise don’t have any, because in this day and age unless you were raped, you don’t have to have children.

  • http://twitter.com/MizzJazzyPeach J Mc

    Honestly as sad as this situation is it’s nothing new. i remember in high school we had these sisters that moved from Africa and they smelled BAD!!! There was a rumor that they don’t use deodorant in Africa so with that and the combined fact that they put on perfume on top of that you can just imagine the smell on that bus. I’m not gonna lie I was one of the ones talking about how bad they smelled but I never went out of my way to taunt them like some of the other kids did (I was cubby/fat growing up so who am I? lol)

    But I do remember one of the more popular and respected girls standing up for them and even the older sister stood up for them one day and the taunting stopped. If anything thing it taught those girls, and others on that bus like them including myself, not to take ish from anyone and how you need to stand up for yourself no matter what.

    Unfortunately for that lady I don’t think it was the case because she’s an elder and how I grew up you respect your elders. I ain’t gonna lie I’ve kinda changed the rule for myself because there are some elders who don’t deserve respect, but this lady seemed like she didn’t do anything to warrant this behavior. I feel the reason behind the outcry for this lady is that she’s an elder. Even though kids bullying kids is also a problem on the same level as what she had to deal with in this day and age only a few stories out of millions get told. This story is nothing new. Doesn’t mean that there shouldn’t be a change just because her story isn’t the first.

    • MLS2698

      Wow! Americans are really heavy on the deodorant and perfumes, so I can only imagine if it were true about the girls not using the same hygiene methods. My nose can’t take a musty person who smells like hot dogs with extra onions, but I won’t say a word to them if I’m not in a close relationship with that person.

    • Kaye

      Every elder deserves respect. The fact that they’ve made it to a certain point in life is respectable. Even people who disrespect you deserve respect. You must ask yourself: who are you to determine who deserves respect versus who doesn’t? Not only that, are you a person who should be respected at all times…? Your post above, would be evidence for no. As humans we are all flawed, and at any point in time we could be the one offending or being offended. No one’s perfect, so to say there are some older persons who don’t deserve respect is nonsense. Respect does not mean a person is beyond reproach or a hundred percent correct… it simply means at all times you deal with them with compassion, love, and fairness. The way you treat people illustrates your character, not there’s.

  • Anonymous

    Money will not solve the deep rooted issue. Bullying, is happening everywhere and it goes down to low self esteem. For kids, they think that’s cool because of what they see around them. To feel good, you have to put another person down is unacceptable. The one that still strucks me the most is when adults do it. These are children, and to me they are reflection of their parent. Parent, should take responsibility for how their children behave. My parent scold and puts my younger brother on punishment when he misbehave. When I was younger, I was at the store with my parent, and I laughed at this older lady. My parent didn’t say anything, but when we got home, I was punished so bad and they talked some sense into me. That was the last time, I made fun of anyone and learned to respect people especially my elders. Principal, teachers are tired themselves because these kids are also rude to them. I think the only power they have is suspend or expel a student for major bullying.

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  • mona

    I didn’t watch the video and i’m glad I didn’t. She was crying smh ? however my inquiring mind was beyond interested in why/how she was able to raise that kind of money….what are the people who’s giving the money motives ?. I think the article made some interesting points, but what I really want to know is how/why was George Zimmerman able to raise large amounts of cash considering the circumstances ? What kind of people are we dealing with ?.

  • Ash

    I wonder how long this has been going on and why she didn’t report it the first time or earlier. I know the driver is concentrating on their job but he/she HAD to have noticed this going.

    • Ladybug94

      It’s my understanding that she didn’t report it. The police were made aware of it on youtube and contacted her to get the kids names.

    • Kaye

      She felt she had no one to turn to, because in the education system when you can’t “handle students” you are stigmatized and deemed a poor professional. The belief is that they are children, you’re an adult, so you should be able to somehow magically reach them all and command the utmost respect. If you can’t do this, then maybe you’re not the right person for the job. Hence…you’re FIRED!!

      I agree the bus driver was wrong, but I am sure she felt the same way. The students of today know all of the laws, and know that they pretty much are above the law (some more than others). I will never understand why people think that children are ignorant, harmless, and innocent. Children are very astute and well aware of how things in society operate. They are sponges!! Lots of people are to blame for this incident, and I am glad it’s at the forefront. Now let’s see how long it stays there.

  • Ms. Spring

    Bullying occurs EVERYWHERE not just in school. Bullying even continues right after high school. In the workplace, some churches, and in other public places. This lady deserve to have our sympathy. However, laws need to do something about the daily bullying that students endure in school. Their parents are even starting to stick up for them more than the school administrators.

    • FromUR2UB

      Most schools have adopted zero-tolerance policies against bullying, and there’s a federal law called the ‘No FEAR’ act for the workplace. But, you and I both know the bullies would only become stealthy about their bullying, which makes it harder to prove and the person complaining about the bullying, appear like the troublemaker. People who were bullies as kids, grow into adult bullies. The reason it happens anywhere, is because most people are cowardly, so they laugh along and go along so that they don’t become the next ones persecuted. It used to be that if you could kick a bully’s a**, that usually ended it, because most of them are all bluster. But, now bullies are protected by the zero-tolerance policies because they know that anyone who physically defends themselves against them, will be in the same or worse trouble. Most people would try to avoid the trouble. This is how bullies thrive.

    • Kaye

      If parents would be parents, and teach their children love and respect for others, all of these laws and non-bullying movements wouldn’t be necessary. Administrators have their hands tied, because in more cases students don’t step forward to report incidents until they have gotten way out of control, and some don’t tell at all.

      Not only that, if a student is cited for bullying and they still choose to bully other students what should occur? The kid won’t get kicked out of school, unless something extreme occurs. Again, schools can only do so much with what they are given. If the law prohibits the school system from parenting and parents don’t parent, then who the heck is left to raise these undisciplined, unloved children? More pressure needs to be placed on parents or educator professionals need to be empowered with more authority.

  • FromUR2UB

    Those kids’ parents should feel very ashamed. I have NEVER heard of kids picking on an adult like that. The bus driver had to know that was going on. You can’t put your hands on other people’s kids, but he/she could have told them, “Sit down, be quiet”, or “This bus is not moving until you sit down and mind your own business.” Then report them.

    • Ash

      She probably gave up on trying to get them to sit.

    • L-Boogie

      They need to make laws that protect adults as well.

      • angel

        I can see how it was hard for this elderly woman to defend herself against these young kids BUT a grown person should know how to stand up for him/herself against their peers.

        • quest

          This wasen’t peers, they were students and had no business talking like that to a adult. I have 2 sons and the first thing I ask at parent teacher conference is how do that treat you (the teacher). Parents need to teach their kids how to respect there elders. What happened to respecting your elders, family members or not. This was ridiculous.

          • quest

            they*

            • Angel

              My commeny was a response to someone who said that adults need a law to protect then against bullies and i disagree. If someone on ur job speaks to u in a rude way or tries to mess eith u , u as an adult should be able to handle it.

              • Angel

                *with

    • Trisha_B

      Idk man, i think in a situation like this some hands may have to get laid. I’m 22, i’m still young enough to hit a kid right? lol j/k I can’t stand bullies, make me sick. & seeing this lady cry b/c some ignorant little kids wanna call her names. i’m mad not 1 kid stood up to those other kids. & i bet their parents brag about how good their child is psssh

  • L-Boogie

    Bullying occurs with adults as well.

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