Watch Your Mouth! 5 Things You Should Never Say To Your Man Out of Anger

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June 26, 2012 ‐ By madamenoire

From YourTango.com

By Carin Goldstein

I admit it. In the past, I’ve made a comment or two (or three or four) to my husband that if I were caught on camera, one would think, O.M.G. What a major b****! Yes, I know you’ve been there too, because what else are you b****ing about with your girlfriends when the topic of husbands come up?

I’m here to tell you that I’ve learned to tame my sharp tongue and reactions because to me, the damage my words can do is surely not worth it. Especially when my words deeply affect my marriage or any close relationship in my life. As much emotion, anger or frustration I feel in the moment, the idea of saying something that could feel attacking, rejecting, condescending, etc. to my husband makes me feel truly sad.

Obviously, what’s giggled over “Ladies’ Cocktail Hour” stays in Ladies’ Cocktail Hour, but you are accountable as to how you react, respond and communicate to your husband. Frankly put, it wouldn’t hurt for you to scrape up some compassion as far as how you talk to him.

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id="ad-incontent">That said, below are five comments that will surely erode the relationship:

1. “What’s wrong with you?” Honestly, it’s comparable to chopping off his penis. Saying it in fun gesture is one thing, but when you respond with this comment because your husband forgot to pick up the milk on the way home, I can assure you that he’ll never ever offer to pick up the milk again.

Attacking someone with words is a sideways way of expressing your feelings. If you feel frustrated that he forgot “the one thing” you asked him to do, instead try this: “I know you’re not trying to forget what I asked you to do, but when you do forget what I’ve asked you to help me with, I feel like my needs don’t matter. Will you please do what you can to remember next time?”

Check out the other four comments you should never make on YourTango.com.

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  • afewthoughts

    How about:
    (1) You’re a wuss
    (2) Even your own kids don’t like you
    (3) How come you’re not being promoted like everone else?
    (4) Think of all the other guys I could have married
    Having worked with divorced people, I know these things are all said.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Shavina-Luckett/546845242 Shavina Luckett

    I think I’ve ALMOST said SOME of these things. But really who cares, we all say things we don’t mean out of anger. It’s called being human and saying an apology and then doing it again. It’s the circle of life!

    • Tesa

      No its called self control. Its not OK to just blurt things out of anger especially repeatedly. Once is a mistake but we like to excuse our bad behavior as we are human. Sometimes we need to stop and think before we proceed. Yes we all make mistakes but it is just as human to learn to control ones temper and reaction and the words that come with anger. An apology doesn’t make it okay. Imagine the trouble we would avoid if we think before we act!

  • RedButterfly81

    What about “You ain’t the father of our baby!”?

    • TruBella

      Yeah. Its just out of anger because at that moment. They wish you werent. Gotta be really angry to say that one though. At that point your just feeling disgusted.

    • FromUR2UB

      Wow. That’s a low blow. And what does that say about the person who would even suggest that?