1. Because He Asked
It’s hard to say no when a man is on bended knee flashing a shiny diamond in your face. The more carats the ring has, the more you’re inclined to say “yes” before you’ve had a chance to ask yourself if he’s really someone you love enough to commit to for the rest of your life. You may love him, but are not ready for the next step, or there may be some outstanding issues you need to resolve before you make that decision. If you didn’t see the proposal coming and you feel blindsided, simply tell him that although you love him very much, you feel that you need to take your time and strengthen your relationship before you talk marriage. If you don’t love him, then tell him that, or that you’re not there yet. You shouldn’t feel obligated to get married simply because someone asks you to be his wife. If he truly means it, he’ll ask again – or you can ask HIM next time if you’re non-traditional. And if he’s not the one, then the right man WILL ask one day.