I think the second thing, this idea of “Diva Dudes” is sort of ridiculous. Everyone grows at their own rate for one. And for two, just because you are an adult does not mean you become automatically uneffected by your own past or by the emotional decisions of others that can effect you. I think one of the biggest myths in the modern era is that 1. there is a magical age at which we all become adults and 2. that becoming an adult means that we no longer allow ourselves to be effected by anything harmful or damaging to us. The truth of the matter is that the majority of us (talking 95% or higher) do not change very much once we’ve passed our early twenties. For instance, those who are irresponsible at 23 will most likely still be irresponsible at 50 but it simply wouldn’t be as noticeable to those around that person. We need to stop treating adulthood as a cure for things we don’t like in our lives. It is not a cure for drama, nor anger, nor foolish decisions, nor ignorant thoughts, nor an evolution for the emotional matrix which we all possess. In fact, the human brain tends to think a certain way until it is drastically altered from outside forces. The very fact that Jessica asked this question shows that she is also stuck in an emotional matrix just as the men she speaks of because she is unable to see the men who don’t do this or those same men in a different way.