Love Is To ‘Love & Hip-Hop’ What Real Wives Are To ‘Basketball Wives’: Ain’t None

June 19th, 2012 - By Brande Victorian

Source: gossippond.com

You’ll have to excuse my grammar on that headline, but after what I witnessed on VH1 18 hours or so ago, it feels appropriate. Last night “Love and Hip Hop Atlanta” premiered on VH1, and yes, I watched, and no, I’m not ashamed. Aside from the fact that there were points where I needed an interpreter or at least subtitles and Lil Scrappy’s mother (Momma Dee) being a former pimp and the embodiment of Frankie and Mama Jones rolled into one (they did have to use subtitles for her by the way), in my opinion the show wasn’t so much a detrimental exploitation of black women as it was a sad representation of naive, lovestruck women in general.

I tuned in maybe three or four minutes after the show started so it wasn’t until I’d sat through all of Stevie J, Mimi, and Joselin’s disturbing love triangle, that I caught the opening segment of the show on the 10 pm viewing and realized Stevie and Mimi had been messing around for 15 years. And messing around is exactly what he was doing last night and likely for the entire decade-plus that she’s been calling him her man because there’s no way a guy could suddenly be that bold when the cameras start rolling. And the fact that he was that obvious with High-Definition film capturing every moment tells me he just doesn’t give a damn. He came into the situation that way—and from the sounds of things, Mimi always knew it. I wanted to call them the Jim and Chrissy of the show, but even Jim wasn’t that bad and he managed to put a ring on it in about half the time that Stevie has—if he ever will. You could say he bought Mimi a house but it was clear that home was like hush money: Stay out here in the burbs with the baby while I do me in the apartment in the city.

Not far behind Mimi was Erica Dixon who admitted that rapper Lil Scrappy essentially left her as soon as he blew up. And then when we forgot about A-town stompin’ and the allure of Lil John went away, so did his fame and his replacement chick, Diamond, and surprise, surprise, he came back “home.” I’d like to point out that after 10 years with this woman, Scrappy made it clear last night he wasn’t 100 percent sold on the idea of being with the mother of his child, while she somehow thought she won the prize because this man eventually came back to her. No, hun. No one else wanted him.

What was bad was as I watched the show I wanted to say, women like this don’t really exist but they do. I’ve seen them. I’ve nearly been them, except it only took me three years of off-and on-ing with somebody to be like, oh, ok so you’re just never going to have your ish together, huh? Good to know. But I’ve seen the friends who have done seven years, had a kid that they think gives them top priority amongst a slew of other women who were smart enough not to let this man plant his seed, and thought they were top notch because he always came back. What’s a bigger shame on this show is women in their 30s and 40s don’t know any better and they don’t mind if millions of viewers know they don’t.

This is the point where signing up to be exploited comes in to play because this show isn’t really revealing anything to Mimi or Erica, they’ve known all along that the men in their lives weren’t even making half-a**ed efforts to be with them. And I’m sorry, it’s one thing for you to do me dirty and I find out, it’s another for you to embarrass me in front of my friends with your shenanigans, and it’s a whole other beast to sign up to be made a fool of on national TV. But really it all goes hand in hand. If you don’t think enough of yourself to not waste your time on a man who isn’t even trying to front like he’s monogamous, then you certainly won’t see a problem looking like a fool in front of the general public.

I was going to say I need one of these chicks to have an Emily B. epiphany like within two episodes but I forgot she backtracked down the Fabolous lane too. (Sigh RIP to  that whole independent woman spiel.) Regardless, I’m going to need the Atlanta ladies to get a clue and some self-respect ASAP and realize the only love these men have for them is loving the fact that they can do what they want to do when they want to do it and they won’t go anywhere, i.e. no love.

Check out a few clips of the love, or lack thereof, below. What did you think of last night’s premiere?

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  • Anonymous

    I used to get frustrated about these type of shows, and ask why is it on TV. Now, I realize these women need to see themselves play on the screen, so they can see how ridiculous they look and sound. And, to hear us criticize them. For example, even if Tami or Evelyn don’t change overnight, they saw how stupid they looked and how the public didn’t agree with their behavior. So, at least you have an idea, and aware of your own life. You can be blinded from yourself, until someone else enlightens you.

  • janietb94

    Funny that Johnny Depp put it so well- “if you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if
    you really loved the first one, you wouldn’t have fallen for the
    second.”

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    Johnny Depp

  • Freebird2012

    Yes, I too saw the first episode and I was shocked. I felt like I was watching a “Passions” or “One Life To Live” The drama definitely intensified and the behavior unbelievable but there are people in real life who will/are going through this craziness. What surprised me most was the way the (for lack of a better word) jump-off was acting on the screen and off. Too bold it almost comes across as stupid! Another sad moment for women smh!

  • http://twitter.com/MizzJazzyPeach J Mc

    As sad as this whole thing is if anything it’s a learning tool for young girls everywhere, hell even some grown women! This is a time where parents every where need to sit their young daughters down and teach them that this IS NOT how a man should treat you if he really cares about you. Stevie J is a joke and the side chick is a bigger joke! This is just the first episode I can just imagine how the rest of the season is.

    On the other hand we can talk about how stupid these women are but maybe now that their personal lives are on blast for the whole world to comment on, maybe what the public is saying will sink in and show them that they deserve better and hopefully it will help them to get out of these pathetic situations that they find themselves in.

  • MrsBrown

    All of the women, with the exception of K. Michelle, are exactly what people expect to see of black women on TV theses days. I don’t know what worse, being portrayed as the angry, take no mess black woman or being portrayed as the stupid, degrading, slory, dumb rats. Shaking My Head in Real Life.

  • sam

    Those chickens in the A look dumb as hell. They makin the women in the A look bad. I mean the fly honeys on the NY show dident play themselves as bad as these ducks…..

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