Why We Need Our “Girlfriends” Back

June 19th, 2012 - By madamenoire

Source: jetmag.com

Joan Clayton

She Was A Boss In Her Career

Joan was a lawyer up for Senior Partner in a predominately white male prestigious firm in LA. For a while she was the only black woman there. We watched her go through the same things we go through working in corporate America. Remember the episode she kept getting talked over, then when she did speak up she got dubbed as the angry black woman? Epic moment! How many times have you felt invisible in corporate America? It felt good for a character to be in tune with us. We could also admire a black woman with her own home and everything else.  Remember when she decided to leave the firm? She did not leave because she was a quitter. She left because she was not happy there. She pursued the J-spot and it had a few struggles but became successful. Joan’s approach to her career exemplified tenacity and audacity. To top it all off she was not angry, loud, or any form of a stereotype she was just Joan. Joan who listened to Enya and couldn’t say no. Her little quirks proved that not all black women are exactly the same. Most of all, her success (finances) and her kind heart at times caused her friends to drain her financially and emotionally. At some points they leeched off her, which forced Joan to learn to tell those who she loved NO!

Her Love Life

Joan had a 3 month rule. I love the fact she valued and respected sexual intimacy. However she was a little over bearing and in a rush to get married. She dated a married guy, a sex addict, a man with big hips (too funny), a guy who did not want children and even an older man (he was really older). In this she displayed the importance (especially as black women) of never settling or giving up on what we know and want in relationships in order to keep a man. Each time the situation became too much she walked away.

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  • Msmykimoto2u

    I am definately a Lynn mixed with some of Joan’s motherly behavior and my bestfriend is aaalllll Toni =)

  • Msmykimoto2u

    I am definately a Lynn mixed with some of Joan’s motherly behavior and my bestfriend is aaalllll Toni =)

  • Msmykimoto2u

    I am definately a Lynn mixed with some of Joan’s motherly behavior and my bestfriend is aaalllll Toni =)

  • Msmykimoto2u

    I am definately a Lynn mixed with some of Joan’s motherly behavior and my bestfriend is aaalllll Toni =)

    • Msmykimoto2u

      I think one of my favorite LOL moments was when Joan was substituting for a highschool class and one of the students walked in, looked at Joan and started to walk back out. Joan: Um, miss? I dont think you can just walk out like that. Student: B***h, be glad I walked in….*rolls eyes and walks out* Joan’s face was hilarious!

    • Msmykimoto2u

      I think one of my favorite LOL moments was when Joan was substituting for a highschool class and one of the students walked in, looked at Joan and started to walk back out. Joan: Um, miss? I dont think you can just walk out like that. Student: B***h, be glad I walked in….*rolls eyes and walks out* Joan’s face was hilarious!

    • Msmykimoto2u

      I think one of my favorite LOL moments was when Joan was substituting for a highschool class and one of the students walked in, looked at Joan and started to walk back out. Joan: Um, miss? I dont think you can just walk out like that. Student: B***h, be glad I walked in….*rolls eyes and walks out* Joan’s face was hilarious!

  • SY_Boogie

    This article was absolutely ON POINT! I seriously Netflix the entire series just to reminisce on the awesomeness that is Girlfriends…even though I’ve seen every episode twice already. This show tackled issues that we as women come in contact with everyday ….including meeting men with “womanly hips”! ;) I would just love for this show to make a comeback however if its comeback is anything like “The Game” ‘s comeback then I want no part in that :/ In my perfect little world, the show would come back, same cast (even if Jabari is probably like 45 now lol), and the same original writers. AHH, what a dream that would be. :)

  • cathyd

    Yes bring back “Girlfriends” young black girls need to see a positive group of women that have problem of the real world. Not all the bullying, they disagreed and they taught us how to resolve our difference and still have love for one another. I hope they can bring them back and maybe add a few more but don’t change anything just continue it. Please please please, pretty please.

  • BBBEE25TEE

    I miss this show dearly but if they brought it back on the air, I don’t think it would be the same. We do need more shows like it though.

  • thomasclemons5

    It would be nice to bring back that show once again being that it defines black individuality.

  • dauphine young

    I love love love girl friends. I have the shows recorded on my dvr, two come on every night. I support this article and think thst girlfriends should have more seasons. These girls were beautiful and kept it real all the time. It also showed how each girl can grow and blossom because when show first aired everyone except Joan needed to find their characters. Hell even Joan needed to get out of those business suits all the time. This shiw gives me courage to be a better me

  • Anonymous

    I couldn’t stop nodding my head in
    agreement while reading this article. It took me back! While it was airing, I
    was unable to relate to it at the level that I do now that I am older and
    facing similar issues in my career. I do agree that we are in need of positive
    representation and that reality shows are only hindering progress within
    society. Think about it… all they do is fight, drink alcohol, have sex and
    display a lifestyle that is unhealthy overall.
    These are the images that our youth and undeveloped minds are exposed
    to. I will say this again, WE NEED
    POSITIVE REPRESENTATION NOW!

  • K.MIke

    Girlfriends was a great show and I really miss it. Hope it comes back!

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