Single Black Male: Stop Giving Up the Cookies Ladies, Men WILL Wait for Sex
I don’t know how this idea that men won’t wait for sex came about, but on behalf of men everywhere, I’d like to thank the creator. The greatest trick man ever pulled was making women think men will not wait 90 days or whatever arbitrary amount of days.
In 2012, it’s clear men don’t have to wait for sex. However, just because they don’t have to doesn’t mean they won’t. This scenario is the equivalent of saying a child won’t wait for dinner because you offered him dessert. The child ate the dessert because you offered it to him. Had he no other choice, I assure you he would have waited patiently for dinner. He might have fussed, whined, and even cried but that is not a logical reason to reward this spoiled child’s behavior. This is the state of affairs between men and women. Women are offering up their dessert before dinner, and when the man leaves, they declare men aren’t willing to wait instead of accepting maybe it’s because you spoiled his appetite.
Once upon a time, like almost a whole generation ago, it was traditionally accepted men and women would not have premarital relations. Unbelievably, the world didn’t end. Women didn’t offer up the cookies and men waited for dinner. It was that simple.
Since the end of that golden age, men no longer have to wait for sex. In fact, a number of women believe men will not wait even if they wanted them to. Therefore, they offer it up to him as soon as possible to satisfy an inaccurate assumption. Sex has become like a bank that gives away money to keep customers. Yes, such a strategy will keep customers it will also attract thieves. If you leave the vault door open on the theory that the “due on to others” principle will prevent people from taking advantage, then I can only admire your faith in the goodness of man.
I’ll let you in on a little secret: Many men are (pleasantly, yet alarmingly) surprised by how little work they have to put in, because after a certain age, most men aren’t driven by sex anyway. Sex is not a need; it isn’t like air – men can live without sex.
Besides, what have you lost if a man leaves because you made him wait? A man who only wanted sex from you? Why else would he run the second you mention that he will have to do something as crazy as get to know you as a person before you share an intimate encounter with him? If he is more interested in sex than getting to know you, then what happens when he loses interest in the sex part? Any man that leaves simply because you won’t have sex with him on a schedule he defines isn’t worth the hassle.
Men will wait for sex. Many of us are adults here. For many of us, once we lost our virginity, sex became a foregone conclusion; we know we’ll have sex again. However, it doesn’t mean you have to have sex to keep a man’s interest. That is ridiculous.
Whether you make him wait 90 minutes, days, or years is up to you. He’s not waiting to have sex. He’s getting to know you. There is nothing wrong with that. Any man worthy of possessing your body should be patient enough to possess your time until you feel comfortable letting him in the cookie jar.
WisdomIsMisery aka WIM uses his formal training as an internal auditor to provide objective, yet opinionated, qualitative and quantitative analysis on life, love, and everything in between. As a Scorpio, many women wish death on WIM and some have attempted to hasten its arrival. WIM is not a model, a model citizen, or a role model. See more of WIM at SingleBlackMale.org and on Twitter @WisdomIsMisery.
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