I know sometimes it hurts to be the odd girl out when your best friend starts associating with a new group of friends. But is this really grounds to end a friendship? Of course not! Granted, it’s not the most comfortable position to be in, but ending a friendship because your friend has new friends is sort of “high school” and shows a jealous streak. If she’s still a great friend and hasn’t switched up on you, the mature thing to do would be to learn to share. If you find her to be amazing and fun to be around then it should come as no surprise when others do too. But being possessive and falling out because you might not be feeling her new buddies isn’t necessary.
Money comes, money goes. Money can’t buy happiness. Money is the root of all evil. We hear these quotes constantly and while certain philosophies like to downplay the importance of money, we can all admit that it is a pretty important factor in our lives, especially in a recession that is keeping folks without it. So important that it is another common reason that friendships go sour. Money is a touchy subject. I believe I would find it a tad difficult to rekindle a friendship where the person stole from me, but I would be more forgiving of a friend who is slow to pay back a loan. Let’s be honest, most of us know our friends pretty well. We know them and love them for who they are and who they are not. If you know your friend isn’t so reliable, maybe it isn’t the smartest idea to be the one to loan them money unless you are giving it realizing that you may never get it back. If you know that your friend has poor money management skills, it also probably isn’t in your best interest to get an apartment or make any major investments together. It would be a tragedy to lose a friend over money drama, but it seems to happen very often.
This is a common factor in the disintegration of friendships, although few actually admit it. Maybe she beat you down the aisle and got married first or she got that big job while you are still trying to keep your head above water at your own place of employment. Maybe she’s starting a family when you wanted to. It is natural sometimes to envy what a friend has or has going on, but it is how you handle it that makes a difference. Don’t come off like you’re not happy for your friend, and that happens when folks start missing baby showers, come late to bridesmaids engagements or just start going MIA. Be happy for your girl, and don’t worry because your day is coming. What blessings she has are for her, and what blessings God has for you will come your way soon enough. Talk it out, or better yet, suck it up and be there because if it was you, you wouldn’t want your friend to bail out on you over jealousy.
What small things do friends fall out about often in your opinion?
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