Don’t Be His Fool, or His Doormat: Excuses Women Need to Stop Making For Men

It’s a good thing he’s gotten comfortable with me

So comfortable that he doesn’t feel the need to put on a whole song and dance of planning dates for you. Now, all you do is order takeout and watch TV, and have sex in your usual positions, finishing in your usual time, every single night. UM…planning dates and special activities for you isn’t supposed to be so that he can impress you. It’s supposed to be so that he can do something that will make you happy! It’s about him doing something completely selfless, so that you can enjoy yourself. Thirty years into marriage you should still be occasionally planning special surprises and activities for one another. And you sure as heck should still be doing it only a few years or months into dating.

He’s just not a good communicator

Women will say this like it’s the same as, “He just doesn’t like ketchup on his burgers.” Like it’s no big deal. Like it’s incidental, and really doesn’t affect the relationship…HELLO? A man’s communication skills dictate the overall feeling of happiness you will get every single second in that relationship. Whether you realize it or not, you will just not be as close to a non-communicative man who shuts down easily as you would be with one who is open to listening and expressing himself without freaking out. And, learning to be a good communicator isn’t just optional. It’s a necessity. It’s not your job to accommodate to his fear of communication. It’s his job to grow up and learn how to have good communication with his partners.