Loving a Lame: Signs You’re Dating a Jerk

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June 2, 2012 ‐ By Brooke Dean

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We all know them when we see them. Clowns, jerks, douche bags – any of these names will do. What I find interesting, and annoying, is that either these people have no idea that they are this way, or they simply don’t care. Some even take pride in it, and wear that title as a badge of honor. But this list isn’t really given so that you can identify one, but more-so provided so that if you are blinded by love…or the long stroke…you can run…and run fast! Lames can be men OR women, but since this site is geared towards women, let me help the sistas out.

If for some strange reason you really don’t know what a lame looks like up close and personal, male OR female, let me help you out with just a few of a myriad of traits that define a jerk. Feel free to add your own.

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  • http://www.vanndigital.com/ VannDigital.com

    so from what im reading: any man that aint acting like no robot aint nothing but a loser. yep i get it now smh

  • Cay Jay

    Didn’t you use these same ones for another post about a year ago? Wow, rehashing old stuff. Getting a bit slow huh?

    • akha1784

      I was just thinking like hmmm some of these characteristics seem awfully familiar.

  • Justme

    My ex turned out to the guy who doesnt like anyone….go figure…thankfully he is the past!!!!

  • TheTruth

    He’s a jerk if he says he’ll call you back and doesn’t repeatedly & you’ve asked him nicely to please stop doing that and he says he’s working on it but he still keeps doing it!!!!!! so mfing annoying!!!!!!

    • akha1784

      truth

  • rattlethatraas

    Women are hypocrites. They’re doing the same dirt men do-but always play the victim. Their secrets are kept by their relatives and girlfriends. For men; the bigger a jerk you are-the more puntang you’ll get

    • http://www.vanndigital.com/ VannDigital.com

      hells yea!!!

  • NarutoFriendOmoi

    I like the new disqus comment section.

  • Tiffany Astin

    I know a couple of men that this apply to

  • http://twitter.com/SpliffHux Jawhan van der Sloot

    this list is crazy because it seems like these are the qualities that hoodrat chicks are attracted to and if a man displayed the opposite of these qualities he would be considered a “lame”

  • Mary

    What if he thinks other girls are pretty but calls you average looking? Does that qualify him as a jerk even though you’re not dating?

    • Ms. Blue

      Yes it does! But if you really want to know the truth, he DOESN’T think you are average looking. He thinks you are beautiful but he knows YOU don’t think you are beautiful. So he says dirty stuff like “Meh, you’re average.” just to keep you in check. Trust me I have dated a few of those jokers.

  • Mc Hammer

    Some of these characteristics pertain to some women. I once dated a female that talk down to waiter/waitress, and that was a huge turn off for me. There are a lot of females out that are creeps as well.

  • OnlySpeakDatruth

    The number one sign of a jerk is someone who is abusive (mental, physical and emotional)… That is an EXTREME jerk tendency..

  • OnlySpeakDatruth

    How about getting his date to pay dinner? Another one, a guy who is materialistic!! A major turn off… I am not saying dress like a bum, but if everything is a designer label and you still live at home with your mom, oh yeah that’s a problem…

  • Melle

    Really, I can’t get mad at the remote thing. You women shouldn’t either. If the game is on, I’m not interested in watching Lifetime.

    • ab

      that shows you’re a jerk! keywords: you can’t SHARE or COMPROMISE

      • Yaya

        Disagree coz I’m sure if they can watch all the soaps and shows we watch everyday (that they probably have noo intrest in) a woman should be able to compromise on watching ONE football game without having to change the channel every now and then

  • IllyPhilly

    If he goes by Lil’, Young, Big, or any adjective for that matter in his name is a jerk.

  • IllyPhilly

    If he goes by Lil’, Young, Big, or any adjective for that matter in his name is a jerk.

  • yey

    We all have dated someone like that once u live and learn

    • OnlySpeakDatruth

      Preach…. Yeah, been there and done that, now I am with someone who has zero qualities on that list!!!

      • NVAdamzz

        He even gives you…*gaaaasp* THE REMOTE!!!???? Lolz!!

        • OnlySpeakDatruth

          Lmao, yes…

  • Fashion lover

    Obnoxious to waiters is a deal breaker for me

    • L-Boogie

      Me too. It indicates a lot about how he views people. And if you are with him long enough and do things for him how he will treat you.

    • L-Boogie

      Me too. It indicates a lot about how he views people. And if you are with him long enough and do things for him how he will treat you.

  • bluekissess

    This list isn’t informative

    • Berry

      Oh yes it is

    • KourageousKya

      Ikr! Its really not, ALL women should know when a guy is being a a**! It’s not rocket science!! All of these sounds like a guy that should be by his d*m self!!

    • KourageousKya

      Ikr! Its really not, ALL women should know when a guy is being a a**! It’s not rocket science!! All of these sounds like a guy that should be by his d*m self!!