This year actually hasn’t been so bad on the attack on single black women front, but I’m getting a little bit of that vibe in a new documentary premiering in DC next month, “Qualified, Yet Single.” Case in point, one of the men interviewed for the film is quoted as saying:
“I think I’m on a higher shelf than certain people because I don’t have any of those flaws that some people do have.”
Um, I just found one.
The thing is, while this documentary had an opportunity to speak to the supposed 400,000 men they say are single, and help them figure out why they haven’t found the one, again the intended audience is women. The film is supposed to “provide women with the subtle red flags to look for in a ‘good’ man prior to jumping in a relationship” and “motivate attendees to look beyond a man’s surface in order to recognize that qualifications do not make a man qualified to be in a relationship.”
If the film is going to blow the lid and expose the fact that these men aren’t really good, I wouldn’t say the “qualified, yet single” title is exactly accurate. And why not change the focus to showing these negroes how to actually be good men and attract good women? Haven’t women talked about it being nearly impossible to find a good man for long enough, why give them more proof? Interestingly the most raggedy looking man in the whole film trailer made the best point:
“A lot of times men just aren’t right. A good man in his head is a good man in his head only.”
I’ve run into a few of those before.
One other man says a lot of men simply won’t put more than maybe 65%-75% of effort into a woman despite knowing she’s worth it, others mentioned not wanting to get hurt, which sounds like some brothers are in need of a support group and a Steve Harvey-esque book to me. Why is this film only being used to educate women again? Oh because it’s another gracious effort put together by a black man to school single black ladies on the real deal. Thank you Dr. Dwayne L. Buckingham.
OK, I’m done throwing shade on the film. I’ll let you check it out yourself and see what you think. If you’re in the DC area you can also catch the live premiere June 21 at the Avalon Theater.
Here’s the trailer below. Do you think this film will tell us anything we don’t already know?
Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.
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