Why Did He Disappear After Our Third Date?

May 30th, 2012 - By madamenoire

Source: Bossip.com

From YourTango.com

By Julianne Cantarella

Let’s face it, dating can be discouraging … especially when the men you go out with all seem to disappear after two or three dates. Fortunately, help is on the way. In this video, dating coach, matchmaker and YourTango Expert Julianne Cantarella explains how to understand this all-too-common phenomenon.

“Please keep in mind,” says Julianne, “three dates does not a relationship make. Now, I know that you feel that you’ve invested yourself here, and you probably have, but keep in mind that he’s dating you and probably others as well. The tip here is that you should be dating more than one person, too.”

Wanna learn more? Check out the video at YourTango.com. 

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  • NikkitaMichelle

    Okay so you’re young. Wrap it up.

  • Love_Sexy

    Personally I have to agree with the author that its best to date more than one person…….Don’t get to emotionally attach to quickly……Just keep your options open until you feel you have made a true connection with a man…….I always felt if a man disappear then he just not that interested…….I am only referring to people who is seeking a serious relationship otherwise if you are not then that is another story.

  • GM_I

    Why Did He Disappear After The Third Date?  Becuz if the first thru third date didn’t involve his dyykk in her pucci, why the h311 would us men stay or stick around wasting our time & money, subjecting our ears to hearing things we dont give three fukkz about at all…y’all broads stay wantin complicated answers to simple questions smh.

    • RedButterfly81

      And men like you are the reason why STD and unplanned pregnancies rates are through the roof! How about getting to know the woman first before you lay up with her? If you want to stick your pee pee up in a woman that bad, get a prostitute! Have a nice day!

      • GM_I

        unplanned pregnancy & STD rates are thru the roof becuz broads smash dudes unprotected willingly, knowing full well if they’ve taken their birth control properly or if they even use it at all (thats why its women who make up the majority of those statistics)…thats why its u women who make up the majority of those statistics, duh…and in order for me to even want to get to know a woman first, i need to first have sex with her to see if i even like the byytch to even want to attempt gettin to know her.

        • Jean_Harlow

          If you need to get into a woman’s pants just to get to know her, you sir are a fcktard! Grow up faaaaaaaaag!

          • GM_I

            But thats the thing ur vagina keeps u in denial about, I dont have to get to know a woman to get into her pants, I dont even need to know her name, let alone her hopes and dreams…dont get me wrong, im not sayin women cant have an opinion, im sayin I dont want to hear it, I just want ur right leg at the 12 and ur left leg at the 3 lol ;^D

      • LaLaLaMeansILoveYou

        There is no use in arguing with someone that possesses the mentality of a
        18 yr old boy about an article that was geared towards grown women.
        From most of that person’s comments it’s very easy to deduct that he has
        been hurt TOO MANY times by women (may or may not have been his fault,
        not our problem to figure out) which has resulted in his apparent disgust and hatred towards us that is so obvious in every words he writes.

        Case in point: You see how below, he tries to blame unplanned
        pregnancies and STDs on women alone, as if it only took a single egg to
        create a child, or lesbians are the only people catching diseases
        through unprotected sex? If that isn’t agenda pushing at it’s finest, I
        don’t know what is.

        • D. Rose in the paint

          But you black women LOVE THUGS and IMMATURE ACTING MEN!!! Why get mad at him now especially when he’s telling the truth!

          • Jean_Harlow

            Not all black women put up with thugs and immature men, only women with low-self esteem, no father figure, and hood rats get with thugs. Now go have several seats and STFU!

            • GM_I

              Nobody said all blk women put up with thugs and immature men..not all white ppl are racist and not all cops are dirty, does that make the large amount of them any smaller, does that mean racism isn’t a big issue in this country, does that mean police brutality and racial biases really dont exist to a large degree just becuz not all white ppl are racist or not all cops ar dirty cops who abuse their power??? Of course not, ur vag just doesn’t allow u to process logic to the point where u could understand or comprehend it…in ur mind, becuz not all blk women or women in general do this or that, than its alway gonna be a minority of the women who do and never increase over time no matter what…its a mentality like the one u and many of ur kind have that proves the point many men have about females; that most of y’all are dumb-asses.

          • LaLaLaMeansILoveYou

            Simple. Because he is NOT telling the truth. For the last time, quit lumping all black women into one category because right now YOU are the one “immature acting”, and believe me when I say that is very unattractive (which alone disproves your idiotic assumption). 

            Did you and GM1 both drop out in the 2nd grade from the same backwoods grammar school and derive most of your “theories” about black women from watching “Basketball Wives”? Why don’t you come and join the rest of us in the 21st century…because 90% of the black women that I personally know are STD free, married BEFORE having children, intelligent, and even before getting married would run in the opposite direction if they saw a thug coming their way. Please take your ignorance elsewhere because it isn’t welcome here.

            • GM_I

              LMAO at u saying 90% of blk women u know are STD free…lets see, im sure you know less than 100 blk women (becuz we all know its impossible for u to know the entire blk female population) who u would actually know their medical history or somethin as personal as that…so, lets say u know 100 blk women medical history, at most u can only be aware of 90 women who are STD free if 90% of the blk women u claim to know are STD free…90 blk women in a country with over 20 million blk women makes that 90% comment pretty irrelevent and goes to show how much of a failed attempt to use the percentage of 90% as a means to make it sound like a lot of blk women dont have STD’s lol/smh…good try, but not really ;-)

        • GM_I

          I didn’t blame unplanned pregnancies or STD’s on women alone…I mentioned why its more women who are effected by those things compared to men (STD-wise of course since men cant get pregnant)…women aren’t fully to blame but its women who are in the driver seat of both those issues (so its females who have to shoulder most of the blame)…women dictate who with and when they have sex, they share a choice but have the final decision on if sex will occur with or without a condom & they have the ONLY choice on whether a child will be born or not…if having that type of authority is too much for u br0adz to handle, hand it over to us men and give us the legal authority to make the final decisions about those things.

          Case in point: no man is gonna turn down some pucci if u tell him to wear a condom…condoms are primarily used to HELP (not STOP) an STD from occuring and its secondary function is a form of birth control, somethin women have 12 different forms of compared to the one or two men have (and Vasectomies are to be considered permenant procedures, so men who want to have kids later, its not a viable option for them).

    • Sandraflowers74

      You are a douche bag.

      • GM_I

        I pride myself on that (and being an azz-hole), its a deal closer with a lot of you br0adz lol ;^D

    • November Rain

      If it was in fact you who disappeared then you did her a favor.  Be gone.

      • GM_I

        Its my pleasure to disappear on a woman, especially after I busted my load…I cant get to & out the door fast enough in some cases lol XD

    • Jean_Harlow

      You’re a faaaaag! RB is right, go bang a prostitute, have several seats and slap yourself!

      • Mia

         Using Gay slurs, you are no better than his immature behind if you ask me.

        • Jean_Harlow

          And blacks don’t call themselves n8ggas, GTFOH! I’m not using the word faaaag as a gay slur, I was using it as an insult to this dump piece of crap you fawking dumba**! Now go play in traffic!

    • D. Rose in the paint

      He’s giving it to you honest and truthful…brutal but truthful!

      • Herm

        Exactly the truth hurts he was being honest with no filter you see how women react this is why they are lied to sold a dream and gassed up

      • GM_I

        And we all know how much women hate the truth…females better start accepting the truth or appreciating the lies lol XD

    • NikkitaMichelle

      Either you’re young. You’re grown and some chick broke your heart.  Or you’re young and some chick broke your heart.  Either way sounds like the tirade of a bitter brother who is scared of being hurt so is into the quantity of women and not a quality woman.  Get your mind right.  Be blessed.

    • Herm

      First night or nothing I don’t want to get to know you your career don’t care about your kids or ex take this shot let’s hit the crib

      • Jean_Harlow

        Both you and GM_I need to be shot! I bet if you have sex, especially unprotected on the first night and she gets preggers, you b*tches will run for the hills and then blame her for getting preggers as you typical black men do. #ThisIsWhyIMarriedAWhiteSuccessfulMan

        And of course you don’t care about women’s careers, you pieces of garbage don’t have one yourselves. Better yet, why don’t you and GM_I go fck each other!