Who Believes It? Tami Roman Sheds Crocodile Tears On Wendy and Vows To Do Better

May 29, 2012  |  

Tami Roman is the latest member of the “Basketball Wives” crew to throw out a promise that I’m doubtful she’ll keep regarding her behavior on the show. Evelyn has already promised to do better, Shaunie says things will change for season 5, and after a brief Twitter hiatus and some self-reflection, Tami is saying the same.

Today she appeared on the Wendy Williams show and got down to business about how she’s behaved on screen. From her words, Tami wasn’t so much worried about the overall representation of black woman as much as she was how her actions have affected her daughters—which is something we’ve all been wondering about through this whole mess. She told Wendy:

“I am raising my two daughters and this particular incident [with Keisha] really taught me a valuable lesson. I wasn’t really acknowledging the platform that VH1 and Shed have offered me and I wasn’t really being responsible and for the first time I looked at my daughters  and they weren’t really proud of me as a mom and they were embarrassed of me.”

Tami got a tad teary eyed and her voice broke as she made that comment before adding:

“They take a lot between the social media networks and everything and I said you know what it’s ridiculous that I’m on TV, I have a huge platform, I should be responsible, I should be accountable, and I haven’t really been honoring that.”

From news that the show has still been picked up for another season, it seems the launched boycott may not have fully accomplished it’s true goal but by putting pressure on the network and the cast, it does appear the women will at least be cleaning up their act—just a little, so they say. In a monumental move, for once, Tami blamed herself and not the show’s producers for her shenanigans. And like the other girls, she promises to change.

“At the end of the day, the only one I have to blame is me because I was the only one who got up there and acted a fool and I am admitting that,” she said.

“I can’t speak for the other girls, I can only speak for Tami, and I’m making a personal vow that I will never see that look on [my] girls’ faces again.”

Who wants to place a bet on that?


Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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  • bebeebaerd

    Tami is a very pretty woman. I just wish she would stop being so ignorant!

  • Mrvardot

    I don’t believe one word that comes out of this ghetto skank’s mouth. As for Shaunie, yes YOU ARE A GHETTO HOT MESS!!!!!

  • Valrieregina

    I’m not shocked they are keeping this fiasco on the air, what I am suprised about is the fact that they are allowing these bullies back on the show.  It makes you wonder why is bad behavior rewarded by allowing these clearly disturbed women back for another season. Are we suppose to believe that after four seasons, these women woke up and said, this is not who I am, I’m sorry for what I represent?  I really feel that these women should not be allowed back.  They need therpy not a camera in their face.  No one changes over night, so don’t expect us to believe a fake apology just because your crying.

    • Tallchiick

      I think Tami is kidding herself if she thinks she can control her anger and still drink..does anyone ever notice how anytime she acts a fool, she blames the alcohol…well obviously she has a drinking problem…b/c if alcohol causes you to act ignorant…you shouldnt be drinking.

  • immaguest

    ummmmm hmmmmm (side eye)

  • Jaida Bang

    I really don’t believe she will do any better.

  • RedButterfly81

    Okay Tami, do better and then STFU! Tired of hearing about you and the other BBHs (Basketball Heauxs)!

  • Kitsy

    I’m surprised Wendy didn’t “go in” on her about her behavior, especially after she was one of the first to publicly denounce the show. I was very disappointed with the interview and Wendy not holding her more accountable for her behavior. 

    The crocodile tears did nothing for me. Tammy is a pathological person – she’s going to try to manipulate you to believe she’s changed when its all an act she’s secretly laughing within.

    I didn’t see her when she was on ‘Real World’ but she evidently has a history of this behavior and at her age, it is unlikely she will ever change.

    *Sigh* Now I’m just gonna say it: Does anyone really doubt Tammy’s daughters are just as ratchet as she is? With a momma like that? I’ve seen women like Tammy in real life and true, the apple never falls far from the tree. There I said it! *Putting up shield waiting for the stones to be thrown at me*

    • Girl no one is throwing stones at you because I agree. It truly makes me wonder. Our children look up to us and look at our behavior at all times. We are shaping their futures whether we are consciously or subconsciously knowing it or not. 

      This show is a hot mess and I want it off the air immediately. Are there more petitions that I can sign? What does a sister have to do?

  • Amy

    I feel sorry for her. It took her three seasons to come to terms with the fact that maybe this would be negativly impacting her girls? Oh Please, this sounds like an act of desperation, fearing the loss of a HUGE paycheck. I mean was it really that important to her to become a part of Evelyn’s world? Evelyn accepts blame for her actions, so goes Tami. She’s an embarrasment to herself. I mean I really tried to keep watching, just hoping that the episodes to come would get better. When that never happened I was forced to stop watching. I think the show should be taken off the air, period. The higher the ratings went the uglier they acted. It’s as if though they thought they would keep going higher until people really started pulling the plug and the ratings began to drop. They had a spectacular audience and fan base. So typical of my ppl to just not know when to quit.The only ppl still excited about this show are those whose lives in the real world mirror this, and where these behaviors are typical and also young impressionable girls who get a kick out of fighthing because they haven’t yet matured enough to know any better.

  • stop selling tshirts

    Tami is still selling T-shirts that qoute her during her rabid wolverine rant “you got two minutes” If she’s sorry why is she trying to profit off her bullying ? Liar

  • What really bothers me about Tami and her side kick Evelyn is they never took any responsibility for the public reactions to their behavior until now. When it was just three left at the table (Suzy doesn’t count) they gloated as if they had wow some great victory. I will never respect Tami Roman until I see a public apology to Keisha Nicholes From the heart!

  • Jay

    Okay so did anybody else watch the show?  I am just trying to see didn’t the last scene with Shaunie talking about how horrible the show has gotten seem like it was filmed not too long ago instead of with the rest of the season? It’s just too conveniently placed.  As for Tami,  we will see if she will change. I think she shouldn’t have been acting that way in the first place, especially since she has daughters who look up to her.

    • Miss_Understood

      OMG I thought I was the only person that noticed that! I was looking for a calendar or something in the background to show that she just met with her pastor last week lol…

      • Valrieregina

        Maybe, the show is going to be renewed and Tammy and Evelyn wont be on it. I got the same vibe. Why all of a sudden Shaunie would announce to her pastor that she’s thinking about distancing herself away because of the drama. It was a scene that just didn’t fit with the rest of the episode.

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  • Chile please

    Chile whatever…. The network is Sending them on a media tour to clean up their mess before anther season airs so this season will not tank…. What the hell they gon do next season sit and drink tea…. They don’t have ANYTHING to do unless they fighting… Lest we forget that NONE of them are married to basketball players so the show actually being about that now is OUT THE WINDOW!!!

  • Glasma

    Talk is cheap !

  • Rah Truth

    I respect her for admitting she was wrong, BUT….I have to wonder if she’s only apologizing because she now has to or because she wants to. Hmmm….

  • Rah Truth

    Tami will do whatever’s gonna keep her paid. She couldn’t care less about how her daughters feel. Keep it moving!

  • NewOrleans

    Give this animal a one way ticket back to those noodles.  She’ll treasure her next big break.

  • Zhazmin

    I will give her the benefit of the doubt. I myself have had some moments as we all have, people deserve chances, well… except when you’re a kardashian…

  • when your 6 figure salary is at stake, you cry… #Actress. haven’t cared for her since the Real World.

  • Sammilu1224

    Tami girl..gone on!  All of them are puppets on a string.. only the puppeteers (Shaunie and VH1) can really put an end to the madness they orchestrate and choreograph. those crocodile tears are lost on me.

  • Renee

    I don’t believe it at all! It’s all about money and I’m disappointed in Wendy for contributing to this foolishness after taking a stand! Sad! I still want that crap off the air!

  • CA Pullen

    If I was a betting person, I would place a bet that Tami will continued to act ignorant as long as they flash those $$$$ in her face.  I don’t buy any of what she says.  I know that her daughters should are embarrassed to see their mom acting a fool, having a foul mouth and being igonorant  just to make a few dollars.   I will not watch basketball ball wives or support any ventures their are trying to approach upon.  I don’t have any sympathy for her. I really, really hope one day she will get herself together.  The seed that Tami plant will eventually come back and bite her on her behind when she least expects it.

  • jay bee

    I am sooo appaulled that this show has been picked up for yet another season.  I’m curious as to what sponsers they will be able to secure.  Whoever they are, I will not be patronizing their business.  Commerce is a two-edged sword.

    • Thisis me

      unfortunately they will keep being picked up for more season as long as millions keep watching. people talk bad about the show yet so many keep tuning in. i proudly say i don’t watch that mess