I’m a Little Uncomfortable With Michelle O’s Love For Beyoncé, Are You?

May 28th, 2012 - By Marissa Ellis

Source: hellomagazine.com

I know, I know; you’re already assuming by this headline that I’m hating on Bey. Well, although there’s a lot to be envious about, my issue with Beyonce and the First Lady’s romance has less to do with Bey and more to do with Michelle Obama.

As reviews start rolling in of Beyoncé’s concert at the Revel Casino in Atlantic City, it’s become apparent that Michelle’s attendance, along with her two daughters Sasha and Malia, added an umph factor to the already-highly-publicized festivities. Just days before, the First Lady had told People that if she could be anyone else, she’d be Beyoncé. Huh?

But my confusion with Michelle Obama’s infatuation with the pop star didn’t start there – it started when she commented about how good of a role model Beyonce is to young women. I don’t know about you but although I do think Bey is the greatest performer out there today (as her hubby Jay tweeted over the weekend), I wouldn’t hold her up as the gold standard for young girls.

Sasha and Malia are both under 13. To uphold this woman, who has partially gotten to the top by dressing scantily and gyrating in music videos and engaging in a competition of whose the hottest amongst the pop princesses, as their role model just seems kind of funny to me.

To be honest, I’d be more comfortable with my kids watching Kelly Clarkson videos any day. But again, that’s about understanding what it means to be an appropriate role model for young girls. Michelle Obama is an example of a wholesome role model. Beyonce definitely deserves respect but her career is not something I’d be comfortable for my kids to admire.

While I’m sure Michelle appreciates the Carter’s support of her husband’s election campaign, I do think she needs to draw the line when it comes to her fandom of Queen Bee. President Obama has been accused of being too Hollywood and the gushing of the Carters, a family who is better known for their musical achievements rather than their philanthropic efforts, doesn’t really help to keep them connected with the average American. I admire the Obamas, and I admire the Carters on a very different level, but I do want them to stay in their lanes to an extent. I admit it!

What do you think? Should FLOTUS keep her love affair for the Queen on the low or continue to espouse her as a great role model?

 

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  • sholla21

    People perceive things differently. Some see Bey as a scantily clad star shaking her stuff for hits. Cool. I’m finishing grad school and while I don’t see her as a role model for academic achievement, I find her fantastic in other areas. She’s talented, gorgeous and unapologetic in the way she uses her femininity. To me there’s nothing wrong with taking over the world in high heels and a freakum dress. You don’t need to be frumpy or dress conservative to prove you’re smart. 

    She has incredible work ethic, discipline. She never had a messy personal life, bed hopping, falling out of clubs on drugs or in and out of rehab. She behaves with dignity and class when the circumstance calls for it (some call her robotic, I call it being raised to act like a lady); and she unleashes her inner goddess when it’s time to entertain. She worked tirelessly on becoming a one woman empire, got married, then had a baby while always looking like a million bucks. She’s a role model IMO but so are my mother, and other women who have nothing to do with showbiz.

  • Gmarie

    Role models come in many different forms. Beyonce has worked hard for her success and works harder to maintain it. She exudes confidence and positive body image as well as promotes it. Aside from her music career she’s a business woman and family woman..much like their mother. To top it off her product, her brand, her image is about positivity, being gracious and enjoying life. She doesn’t weight us down with sob stories and tragic energy. I guess I’m missing something here because I see no reason Beyonce couldn’t serve as a role model and inspiration to anyone. Even to older heads like Michelle..

  • Elisa

    Parents should raise their kids and not expect celebrities to do so. I grew up listening to Britney Spears. When Britney changed and started to dress provocatively, I was only 10. But even at that age, I knew what was wrong and what was right because my parents taught me that. Michelle herself said that the POTUS and her always talk to their daughters. So she’s raising her kids and doesn’t expect Beyoncé to do it. I’m not a Bey stan but I like how she’s focused on her work and that she knows exactly what she wants. People always say she’s fake but she’s just shy. Plus, people aren’t perfect. Beyoncé’s a high school dropout. But how many successful businessmen are also college dropouts? Bill Gate’s a college dropout. People need to stop hating on Bey. I admit sometimes she is all over the place and I’m even sick of it. But I don’t deny the fact that she’s a hard working woman and completely dedicated to her passion. I hate the hypocrisy of this. People are acting all like she has to be perfect when she’s human just like us. 

  • Alex

    Beyonce is not a great role model. She works very hard for her spot at the top right now and very entrepreneurial. BUT her dancing is risque and the songs are not all that wholesome either…we excuse her clothing because it’s on the stage…welp since she’s a singer that’s where we see her most often and her stage outfits can be quite skimpy. 

    However, like many people have said, the responsibility ultimately lies with the parents. The parents should teach their children that  celebrities are for entertainment value, not to serve as idols we should worship. 

  • Guest

    My comment got in moderation :( Oh well. I was just trying to say all the Beyonce hate has to do with some women having very low self esteem. Strong women who value themselves know they are the biggest influence in their child’s life. Not a pop star. I think more black women need to have some more Beyonce in them because there are too many sisters degrading themselves by having unprotected sex outside of marriage and as a result having babies out of wedlock and exposing themselves to STDS. Mmmmm.

  • Twinning

    How can  black women who are raising black women that have babies out of wedlock diss beyonce lmao
    Black people focus on your gutter communities first

  • ODD_1

    1. Beyonce and Jz visit the White house2. Beyonce and Michelle dancing to who run the world at the White House3. Beyonce writes an open letter to Michelle that everyone got to see4. People magazine named beyonce most beautiful5. Michelle grants People magazine an interview in which she says Beyonce is Her role model6. Barak openly supports gay marriage now JZ is no longer an Homopobe
    Election is coming soon. It called networking. The obamas need popular votes which are all the blacks and gay voters thats why they choose be close to Beyonce and JZ.
    4years ago she would have said Oprah was her role model while sitting on her couch when they need her get more votes.
    Beyonce is very talented but not a role model and look at the obama girls they know their real role models. Michelle would never let her kids be like Beyonce she will tell them to get their behinds to college. So ppl stop believing in this ppl n turn to God they dont care about U.They for popularity which brings more money.

  • DianeDT

    Thank you, I was very disturb when I read this as well. Thank you for writing this.

  • VJ

    This is so prudish. She’s a great role model. She’s an established business woman and artist that is always singing songs about the empowerment of women. Not only is she a boss, but she’s a devoted wife and mother. Thus telling young girls that you can indeed have it all and not settle for less. She’s never been arrested, she didn’t have child out wedlock (no shade to any one who has), she doesn’t bad mouth other people, she doesn’t embarrass the whole race on reality tv shows, she a hard worker and she does charitable work. She’s a dancer and she wears those outfits as costumes. And it’s not like she walks down the street doing the “Dance for me” video in the her bra and panties and garter belt. If you raise your daughter yourself and explain it to her she’ll be smart enough to know that Beyonce is a performer.

    And with people anaylzing Ms. Obama’s answer it is not that deep. It’s a hypothetical question. Calm down please.

  • Miss B

    I appreciate this article. I know some comments express that you’re “reaching.” But, I think it’s so necessary for us to question things like this. The government and the media (entertainers) sleep in the same bed, it may seem harmless but sometimes there is an undelrining agenda that is displayed so strategically that we can’t even see the truth. I don’t know…I think a lot of ish is going on and people just find it easier to act like it’s not. You can say I’m reaching too…but I’d rather reach than knowingly settle in any form of ignorance.

  • miche

    I digress from the topic at hand for a second in order to say…What the heck is up with everyone using the word SWEXY?…I mean, is this a joke or something?…what, it’s cool to have a speech impediment now?…what are we Elmer Fudd now?!…I’m just saying, when did it become cool to talk like a two year old?…sorry, I just had to say it cause I can’t stand seeing this word anymore…PLEASE  stop it!!…lol

    • Mrsadkiah

      I actually think the moderators change the actual word to that. I typed it once, got the message that my comment had to go through the moderators and that was the word they changed -_-

  • Maradebe2oo4

    As a mother, Mrs. Carter needs to modify her stage costumes a whole lot to reflect a certain value system. And yes, they are a wealthy family, but what they don’t do with their money is the issue. As a musical icon, Michael Jackson proved through his philanthropical activities that he could make a difference in the quality of life for many less fortunate people in the world. Here, you’re talking wealth generated by both husband and wife – and hardly anything heard of catalytic significance. I doubt that people who express this sentiment are envious. If the Flotus has chosen her as a role model that’s her prerogative, but it would make better sense if it went beyond a successful career as a singer. I read about an African-American woman who gave up her annual salary to send a whole high school graduating class to college. To me, that is an unsung hero and role model. There’s quality and substance in such acts of sacrifice and compassion.

    • Love_Sexy

      I love your comment which is the best that has been written regarding the article.

  • blessed blessed

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    The first time I heard
    Michelle O. say Beyonce was a role model for her daughters was in winter of
    2009. I totally cringed but I let it slide because I really liked Mrs. Obama. I
    also had a bit of a problem with President Obama hanging out with people like
    Jayz a guy who at 12 years old attempted to murder his drug addicted
    brother because he stole a gold ring, then in his adulthood stabs a record
    music producer for leaking his record. Imagine if Hillary would have been
    hanging out with Madonna and saying she’s a “role model” for young
    girls or Bill Clinton would have been hanging out with someone like Charlie
    Sheen. Madonna as well as Beyonce are creative and talented, Madonna is a well
    known philanthropist and has given a great amount of time and money to various
    charities, but I believe her overtly sexual image would have not made her the
    best role model for young girls in the 90′s, that doesn’t take away her talent.
    Sasha, Malia, nor Michelle look nothing like Beyonce and I would hate to think
    the girls would use Ms. Carter as the definition of black beauty, since neither
    girl has blonde hair or yellow skin. I’m really starting to believe the Obamas
    will say and do anything for political contributions. 

     

  • True Reader

    I actually don’t agree with this article (and normally it is my inclination to agree with articles that touch on this subject). When First Lady Obama said that Bey is a good role model for young women I took it as from what she saw from her own personal relationship with Bey and not her co-signing her image in the music industry. (I will add though, for young ladies that have a goal of working a career in the industry- Who else would you look up or try to imulate besides Bey? ) Even if this is not your goal in life, I will say that from what we know in her personal life seems to be a good person to look up. In a narcisstic world she is very private, all we get are glimpses of the side that others like Michelle Obama might get a full view of. And She dated, got married, THEN had kids. I give her mad props for that alone. Also, The Carters do have a couple of philanthropic foundations that they fund and actively participate in- -the media just isn’t interested in displaying that part of their life.

  • sweetbabytami

    yea im def not the one that people will tell you like beyonce..and im certainly not a stan…but lets be honest…when last u seen a chick in the industry….wait to get married to have her mans child….how is she not a role model? sure she does what she does…but even when half dressed she is way more classy with it then other celebrities whom little girls uphold….

    • Guest1234

      Them some low standards, sweetbaby.  

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/BTKJNGIVEFD7EQNET4XAHJL5Z4 Mary

    WHY I’M A LOT UNCOMFORTABLE WITH YOU HAVING NOTHING ELSE TO WRITE ABOUT! 

    You must be the President and CEO of haters all around.  Get a life.  The First Lady is a fan of Beyonce….so freakin’ what!  Get some other important topics to talk about.

  • Santi

    You are ABSOLUTELY hating. Beyonce may wear short and flashy PERFORMANCE clothes, but she is always ladylike, professional, and hardworking. you really *are* a hater. silly article.

  • Darkcalon1

    Agree…We all know that Michelle O. is a young first lady & while growing up in the inner city of Chgo, I’m sure she identifies w/the inner city lyrics Beyonce sings about…..Hwvr, she can afford to closet her admiration and misinterpretation of B being a role model. I’m not sure if she’s really listening to the lyrics or just bouncing to the beats.

  • Guest1234

    Yep.  It’s getting a shade embarrassing.

  • MrsChristian

    Very hard for me to understand why a Princeton Graduate, Harvard Law Graduate, Lawyer, Mother of two beautiful girls and First Lady of the United States of America would WANT to be Beyonce.  I was floored…and this is coming from someone who loves both Michelle and Beyonce.  Has nothing to do with hating Beyonce…has much more to do with what we deem to be esteemed.  That is all.

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