It’s Been 7 Years and He’s Still Playing Me…

May 24th, 2012 - By madamenoire

Source: HelloBeautiful.com

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I’ve been in a relationship with a man for the past 7 years and we have a son together. His family has never been supportive of our relationship and they don’t like me. Though we’ve been together for so long, and I don’t like some of his ways, he has made some changes and has enrolled in college and stopped hanging out every night. But, there are things that haven’t changed like him wanting to play around online and texting other females behind my back, and making a fool out of me.

I’ve dealt with lies, dishonesty, and just straight games with this man. Every time I think our relationship has reached another level and think that things between us has gotten better, I will find out that he is online talking to other women, and finding numbers and text messages from random women in his phone. I have been more than a good woman to him. I have showed him nothing but compassion, love, honesty, faithfulness, and loyalty. What have I received in a return is a bunch of lies and games and I’m so done.

I forgive him time and time again, and thought he changed. He says he is in love with me and only wants to be with me and he says he wants to get married. But, I feel that its all about actions and his actions shows otherwise. – Tired Of Waiting

Find out what the gay best friend, Terrence Dean, has to say about this situation at HelloBeautiful.com.

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I have to say the only person allows this happen is you. You keep forgiving him, that sends him a message it’s OK to lie to you. Stop him from do so even it might be hard for you. However, if you can’t be tough about this issue, you will have this issue all the time.
Pivyque

?? I won’t say much because I have a LOT to say. I will say this…you need to set some standards for yourself. IF he wanted to marry you, he would have by now. YOU have let him be this way and demanded nothing more from him. This is YOUR fault. Live with your situation or change it.
TRUTH

“Too long inna that, come outta that”
http://twitter.com/prfectisshe myprfectimprfections

very sad but imho this woman is in a toxic relationship. anytime a man plays games with a person’s feelings it means two things if you stay , you don’t know you self worth and he doesn’t love you . he also has a problem his self esteem is not in tact either. and low self esteem is contagious believe it or not. get out this relationship, rebuild your self esteem, and never forget your worth.and one more thing when dealing with men use logic instead of “love or lust” because they’re damn sure gonna use it when dealing with you. good luck !
Jabryant007

Earlier yesterday, Kevin Hart’s post/quote of the day was this, “when there’s no trust in a relationship, its like a cell phone with no service, you can only play games!”
http://pulse.yahoo.com/_ZK34QCWL4NGU2CQSTHBBGU56CM Tri Tri

“ His family has never been supportive of our relationship and they don’t like me” That would have made me stop dating him off the back. “I” could not date a Man and his family do not like me. That mean it will always be issue in my home.
Tressie24

Seriously??? Did you run out of articles to post? I’m sick of hearing women talk about how good they’ve been to some man and asking for advice on what to do or how to make him change. My final answer..HE WON’T he doesn’t have to, try being good TO YOU, men respect a woman that respects herself, why should he treat you any better than you treat yourself and why should he respect you more than you respect yourself. You won’t be the woman he marries, he’ll marry the woman he loves, likes, respect and is afraid of losing, the one that HE wants to do and be better for not the one that demands it. Get confidence, therapy, a back bone and move on
Whitemary658

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Ladybug94

Wow. After all the glowing things she’s said about him, does she still need advice on what she should do?
http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

Fool me once shame on you…..fool me for 7 years shame on me…. !
November Rain

These “letters” have to be completely fabricated. Nobody is this stupid. Really?
- Chile please
  
  Girl no, people are this crazy…. Desperation would have these women out here walkin naked on the freeway for a man…
  - http://profile.yahoo.com/HB2EZDGOE26ZXUUUH666QOL2ZQ Lola
    
    Hahaha! Truth, sadly! Oh the ratchedness!! SMH.
  - November Rain
    
    I stand corrected. Walkin naked on the freeway? Wow!
- http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla
  
  I said the same thing, but then again this is a big world you would be surprised how many stupid people reside in it
- http://madamenoire.com/ Believe
  
  yes people are really this stupid I’m saying this cos my best friend is almost the same situation. She’s been with this guy since 2007 she got pregnant the day her family went to leave at the guy’s house(African style lol) they found his ex with his pants on cleaning the house. they left my friend and she stayed since she was pregnant. He lied to her they broke up. At 7months she lost the baby bcs of the stress that girl calling her to tell her to leave her man alone. She still stayed with the guy then in 2008 his ex got pregnant by him while living at hers we forced her to kick him out and left. but he was still coming behind our backs to sleep with her promising her that he’ll break up with her while living with the girl(his ex). Last year he broke up with her and then my friend took him back and moved in with her again. We have done all we could but she doesn’t care she loves him not she’s obsessed with him it’s crazy. I have spoken to the guy countless times he’s told me he has no plan on marrying her saying stuff like ” your friend is a nice person the guy who will marry her will be lucky but I’m just not the guy’ I’ve told my friend all that but she doesn’t care. some of the things he says to her even in front of me are awful no man who respects you would say stuff like that. Her family cannot stand him the guy doesn’t even like to meet her family not even the kids every time her nieces come to her place he hides in the bedroom he doesn’t even talk to the kids they call him ‘anti-social’. two months ago they had a huge argument he told her he’ll get his own house and she’s not the type of woman he sees himself marrying cos she’s not his ‘type’ and she told him to move out ASAP my friend called me crying i told her she was too stupid and i don’t wanna get involved with her bs cos she’s gonna forgive him anyway. And she did a couple of weeks later he was still there and as usual she started making excuses for him about how he was just upset he didn’t mean what he said. But the guy was house hunting when he got the house he moved out two weeks ago despite her begging him to stay. he told her that he loved her and that they still together but he just needs his own place. yesterday he came to her place they had sex.
  Sorry for this long essay but we don’t know what to do with her we’ve been there for her during countless sleepless nights, crying herself to sleep text messages from girls telling her they slept with him. One of the girls he slept with when he first moved out is even rumoured to be HIV positive. i don’t know if this is love but as a friend I’m tired of being there for her and I just wanna know how do you deal with someone this stupid. It’s not like she doesn’t get asked out she has ruined one too many promising relationships over this fool. she will start seeing someone for some time and then just grows out of it and tell them that she’s ‘taken’
Yeah….OK

You a fool…. THE END. POINT.BLANK. AND THE PERIOD. If a man ain’t showing u he love you with his actions what some fkn words mean… I’m sure he saying the same thing to all them hos… It’s easy to talk…Dont u think he saying all that so he can keep gettin what he gettin???? . Chile, and THIS FOOLISHNESS is the reason I will remain single and complete with GOD.
Details

After reading the comments on this site concerning how so many women love Nas it’s not surprising women fall for the okey doke.
- Yeah….OK
  
  Hunty they fall for it because our generation is so thirsty and think they are complete only If they have a man/woman foolishness be damd

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