Decoding Your Downstairs: 8 Things Women Need To Know About Their Va Jay Jay

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May 20, 2012 ‐ By Julia Austin
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The first thing you should really know about the vagina is that you should get yourself a group of girlfriends with whom your comfortable enough comparing notes and experiences! But, if you don’t have that group yet or the below issues just haven’t come up, then read on.

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  • Kenneth Sapyta

    The queef is as I call it “blowing up the balloon” then when you take your lips away from the vagina peerrfeeect pppuuuurrrrr QUEEF. Yum.

  • http://www.facebook.com/bill.lapinskas.3 Bill Lapinskas

    Yep their supposed to smell that way, yums .

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  • Wm Thomas Capps

    I love Va Jay Jay

  • Kiesha Pinky Makins

    well Ladies know Ur VAYJAYJAY

  • mikinzla

    I once dated a BLACK WOMAN WHO SNORED SO LOUD SHE MADE ME COME.

  • http://www.friv2friv3friv4.com/ friv 2 friv 3 friv 4

    I have, it’s called XBOX, Nintendo, and music! My girlfriend has mood
    disorders, anxiety disorders, and other mental health things that I have
    dealt with and have (had) myself, so I am helping her through that
    chaos because unlike her ex I know what is going on. The sad thing is it
    presents itself predominately with a significant other…

  • Quarty

    IDK, maybe bringing you closer to the person you are with, just enjoying the moment.

    And like the article said not all women can reach their peak through intercourse. So do you feel that those woman should just never consider having sex, because according to you there is no point?

    • ladyy

      i agree with youuu, you really dont need to climax for you to enjoy

  • MIRON1

    super

  • Burnie Rubble

    Nothing could be finer than licking Halle Berrys vagina in the

    morrrrrrr ninnnnn

    Nothin would be sweeter than her lips around my peter in the morrrrrr ninnnnnn

    If I had a dollar

    you know what i’d do

    I buy a box of MAGNUMS

    and i’s use um on u!!!!

  • SD

    I’m Glad The Quiff Is Normal….I Was Embarrassed When That Happened To Me LOL.

  • Dan

    #1 You can still get an STD using a condom… Really? How dumb do you think your readers are that you think it’s a good one to lead off with… While we’re at it we better remind them they can still get pregnant even if they are on top, gravity isn’t strong enough to be an affective birth control method… (sarcasm)

  • Jeffrey Gee

    You didn’t mention inny and outty va jay jay’s? I wonder if child birth has anything to do with it? Women don’t need to douche, but you have to keep it clean and fresh. I am sure you wouldn’t want to go down on a man with sweaty balls…

  • fibble

    It’s REALLY difficult to take anything seriously with the words “va jay jay” in the title. What, are we all in middle school??

    • Cranium

      lol, I was thinking the same thing., But then again look who the author is.

  • Miles Hagen

    Good article. As far as #6 goes regarding smells I’d just say that the article is entirely correct. However bathing beforehand is mandatory (use the 8 hour rule). I say that ’cause I’ve been with several “one-nighters” who seem to have missed that memo.

  • wombstretcher

    smells like fish,lovely dish,smells like cologne,leave it the hell alone

  • You’re

    You lost me at your.

  • Brenden Le

    Did this list seriously just suggest you don’t “need” to douche. Yes a vagina can smell like a vagina but some vaginas are a little suspect…fish if you will. Don’t complain about men not eating it right if you don’t take care of yourself. Can’t believe I just read that….

    • Krazilia Love

      are you a man?

  • wills

    Are women self-conscious about the way it looks? Do all women shave?

  • sanid

    Thank you thank you for telling people that you can still get an STD with a condom due to contact outside of the condom-protected genital area. So many people still don’t know this!

  • sanid

    Regular douching is actually not OK – it can throw off your pH balance and make your vagina more susceptible to UTI’s or yeast infections.

  • Constance

    Anyone else hate cutesy nicknames for the vagina? I know our culture is ages away from calling any “private” area by its actual name, but “va jay jay” doesn’t help matters.

  • naoma

    EGADS. Our daughter knew all the correct words at age 3. A friend of hers was with her on the porch and I heard the little friend say: “My mommy is having a baby and it is in her tummy.” Daughter came in slamming the door and said “She knows nothing of the womb.” Yes, she knew all the words, etc. but was not allowed to divulge info to friends whose parents would probably come after us.

  • Justin

    Needing KY jelly is normal!? What? Lets include the fact that most American males are circumcised, that being a condition where the lubricant sealing foreskin that contains mucous membranes are ablated and the coronal ridge draws out lubrication habitually.

    Nature devised a mutual system that doesnt include a need for external lubrication via sexual selection.

    Way to sell to the readers.

  • Jackie PutridyCorpse Breedlove

    You won’t need lube if your man had foreskin.

    • Alexis

      you’d need multiple visits to the clinic for UTI’s! foreskin is unsanitary

      • Just Noticed

        That is NOT true at all. Foreskin NATURALLY grows. Maybe you have just sexed dirty men. A man with bad hygiene with or without the foreskin… is going to be a problem. Also, that is such common knowledge it prompts to advise you to take a sex health education class. ….. your welcome in advance.

  • Vincent Byrne

    Careful of the grammar. It should be ‘you’re’, not ‘your’ in the first sentence.

    It should read: “….. the vagina is that you should get yourself a group of girlfriends with whom you’re comfortable enough ….”

  • Aaliyah

    Hi, Im Aaliyah, Im 29. Never had sex, how do I go about taking care of my vagina, properly take care of it ..what products to use…keep it clean and healthy?

    • chrystine

      Nothing but soap and water on your vulva and inter/outer labia. There is no reason to douche. It’s not necessary and upsets the body’s natural pH. Check with your doctor since medical advice is best.

    • IMJSANYUmad

      DUMB HO^

  • Sienna

    what was the statement about if you dont have sex your vagina shrinks?

  • AlabamDeb

    You’re right. And in that situation it wouldn’t be their penis…more like scrotum. I don’t want to hear children use that word either. It just sounds so uptight “we teach our children to use the proper terms”…get over yourself!!

    • naoma

      We believed in always telling our only child the truth. She has grown up to be a fine and wonderful young woman.

  • Steph

    Can we grow up, behave like adult women and stop using cutesy names like “vajajay” for our vaginas? It infantalizes women.

    • Bhakta Jim

      I agree! I prefer to use the standard medical term, “pootang” or “bajingo”.

    • chrystine

      Agree 100%, thank you.

  • Scott H

    Some women can have an org**m from stimulation of the ni**le alone! So try
    having your man do some o**l stimulation on that during intercourse. :( surely this will help you girls!!! Good luck! — On the same note, when that is done to me, and only that, I can feel sensations down there! It stimulates the same area in the brain in the pleasure center that intercourse does.

    It keeps blocking my messages -_-

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  • Jen

    Don’t douche! It kills the good stuff that takes care of the bad stuff, making you smell worse in the long run.

  • Jennifer J. Majors

    Some good points!

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  • Nino Rekhviashvili

    Va jay jay? Can you not say Vagina? Isn’t there enough same associated with that word to begin with? Grow up, people! People have vaginas!

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  • tenisha charmin

    …..how should a vagina smell??!!

  • Ednar

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    Why Italian Fathers and Grandfathers
    pass their handguns down through

    the family.

    An old Italian man is dying. He calls his grandson to his bedside,

    Guido, I wan’ you lissina me. I wan’ you to take-a my chrome plated

    ..38 revolver so you will always remember me.”

    “But grandpa, I really don’t like guns. How about you leave me your

    Rolex watch instead?”

    “You lissina me, boy. Somma day you gonna be runna da business, you

    gonna have a beautiful wife, lotsa money, a big-a home and maybe a

    couple of bambinos. ”

    “Somma day you gonna come-a home and maybe finda you wife inna bed

    with another man. “Whatta you gonna do then? Pointa to you watch and

    say, ‘times up’???

  • Ednar

    HOW TO CALM A MAN >

    A woman goes to the
    Doctor, worried about her husband’s temper.

    The Doctor asks:
    “What’s the problem?

    The woman says: “Doctor, I don’t know what to do. Every day my husband
    seems to lose his temper for no reason, and it scares me.”

    The Doctor says: “I
    have a cure for that. When it seems that your husband is getting angry, just
    take a glass of water and start swishing it in your mouth. Just swish and swish
    but don’t swallow it until he either leaves the room or goes to bed and falls
    asleep.”

    Two weeks later the woman comes back to the doctor, looking fresh and reborn.

    The woman says:
    “Doctor that was a brilliant idea! Every time my husband started losing
    it, I swished with water. I swished and swished, and he calmed right down! How
    does a glass of water do that?”

    The Doctor says:
    “The water itself does nothing. It’s keeping your mouth shut that does the
    trick….”

  • Ednar

    Subject:
    Fw: A good friend! Bachelors Beware!!!!

    A man brings his best buddy home
    for dinner.

    His wife screams at him. “My hair & makeup are not done, the
    house is a mess, the dishes are not done,

    I’m still in my pajamas and I can’t be bothered with
    cooking tonight! What the hell did you bring him home for?”

    “Because he’s thinking of getting married….”

  • Ednar

    Subject: The ex-wife

    Tim decided to tie the
    knot with his long time girlfriend.

    One evening, after the
    honeymoon, he was assembling some shell reloads for an upcoming hunt.

    His wife was standing there at the bench watching him.

    After a long period of silence she finally speaks. “Honey, I’ve been
    thinking, now that we are married I think it’s time you quit hunting, shooting,
    hand loading, and fishing. Maybe you should sell your guns and boat.”

    Tim gets this horrified look on his face.

    She says, “Darling, what’s wrong?”

    ”There for a minute you were sounding like my ex-wife.”

    “Ex-wife!” she screams, “I didn’t know you were married
    before!”

    ”I wasn’t.“

  • Ednar

    THE ITALIAN WEDDING TEST

    I was a very happy man.

    My wonderful girlfriend
    and I had been dating for over a year.

    So we decided to get
    married.

    There was only one little thing bothering me, her beautiful younger sister,
    Sofia.

    My prospective sister-in-law was twenty-two, wore very tight miniskirts and
    generally was bra-less.

    She would regularly bend down when she was near me. I always got more than a
    nice view. It had to be deliberate, she never did it around anyone else.

    One day she called me and asked me to come over. ‘To check the wedding
    invitations’ she said.

    She was alone when I arrived. She whispered to me that she had feelings and
    desires for me that she couldn’t overcome anymore.

    She told me that she
    wanted me just once before I got married.

    She said, “Before you commit your life to my sister.”

    Well, I was in total
    shock and I couldn’t say a word.

    She said, “I’m going
    upstairs to my bedroom.

    If you want one last wild
    fling, just come up and have me.”

    I was stunned and frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs.

    I stood there for a moment then turned and made a bee-line straight to the
    front door.

    I opened the door and headed straight towards my car.

    I then noticed my entire future family was standing outside, all clapping!

    With tears in his eyes, my father-in-law hugged me.

    He said, “Sergio, we are
    very happy that you have passed our test.

    We couldn’t ask for a
    better man for our daughter.

    Welcome to the family my son!”

    The moral of this story is:

    Always keep your condoms in your car.

  • Ednar

    Subject: Fwd: Trust
    your Husband

    There comes a time when
    a woman just has to trust her husband…

    A wife comes home late at night, and quietly
    opens the door to her bedroom.

    From under the blanket she sees four legs
    instead of two.

    She reaches for a baseball bat and starts
    hitting the blanket as hard as she can. Leaving the covered bodies groaning,
    she goes to the kitchen to have a drink.

    As she enters, she sees her husband there, reading
    a magazine. “Hi Darling”, he says,”

    Your parents have come to visit us, so l let
    them stay in our bedroom.

    If you get a chance, say
    “hello”?

  • Ednar

    Jake was dying. His wife sat at the bedside.

    He looked up and said weakly:

    ‘I have something I must confess.’

    ‘There’s no need to, ‘his wife replied.

    ‘No,’ he insisted,

    ‘I want to die in peace.

    I slept with your sister, your best friend,

    her best friend, and your mother!’

    ‘I know,’ she replied.

    ‘Now just lie back and let the poison work.’

  • Ednar

    Subject: Romantic

    A couple was Christmas shopping at the mall on Christmas Eve
    and the mall was packed.

    As the wife walked through the mall she was surprised to
    look up

    and see her husband was nowhere around.

    She was quite upset because they had a lot to do.

    Because she was so worried, she called him on her mobile
    phone to ask him where he was.

    In a calm voice, the husband said, “Honey, you remember the jewelry store
    we went into about 5 years ago where you fell in love with that diamond
    necklace that we could not afford and I told you that I would get it for you
    one day?”

    The wife choked up and started to cry and said, “Yes, I remember that
    jewelry store.”

    He said, “Well, I’m in the bar right next to it.”

  • Ednar

    Subject: watery eyes after sex

    Watery
    eyes after sex

    Two black guys were in
    a bar talking, and one says to the other, “You ever notice after you have
    sex with a white woman that your eyes burn, your nose burns and you get all
    teary-eyed?”

    The second black guy
    says, “Yeah, all the time.”

    The first one asked,
    “Why is that?”

    The second says,
    “I’m pretty sure it’s the pepper spray.”

  • mo

    Va jay jay? Really? It’s a vagina for pete’s sake! If you can’t bring yourself to call it what it is, then why are you discussing it in the first place?
    VAGINA…say it!!!!!

  • Destinie Indy Starr

    Douching is BAD for the vagina. You’re actually pushing everything up/inside when you do that. Plus those douches contain chemicals that could disrupt the normal microbiota in the vagina and that will make you more susceptible to various infections.

  • MNEditor2

    The WordPress program we work with flags certain words with sexual references. It’s nothing personal, we don’t want to talk like like kids, but it’s just how we have to occasionally label things. Thanks.

  • CeeEllEff

    The Director of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children recommends we teach our children to use the proper terms. Typically, pedophiles will use cutesy names for body parts. If your child knows the right term and suddenly starts using something cute for “it”, it’s an immediate red flag that something is up. A molester isn’t going to talk to your daughter about her vagina, he (or she) WILL however, talk to her about her “cupcake” in order to make it sound fun or like a game. For anyone who wants to dog me for this or argue about it, this isn’t my personal opinion and I could care less what you call it – I’m just sharing a recommendation from an expert who deals with this everyday.

    • Zone11

      Uhh, two weeks ago, my grandson told us his teacher took the class into the school garden and they ate cupcakes. And he said he saw a bird eat a butterfly. Trouble in River City?

  • FlipFuzion

    Please ALL women don’t listen to that part where it basically says douching isn’t a big deal…yes it is, there is nothing worse then a fishy smelling you know what!

    • Guest

      Douching is BAD for the vagina. You’re actually pushing everything up/inside when you do that. Plus those douches contain chemicals that could disrupt the normal microbiota in the vagina.

  • blazinsun69

    You women reading this please remember it… you should smell/taste like a woman.. not a bottle of perfume.

  • dalewynn

    This writer is a retard.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100004127918716 Jack Taylor

    Natural is better, perfumes, deodorants, or sprays ruin the taste. A healthy vagina has a sweet airiness to it, with a very slight hint of sexual musk. On the other hand there are some you wouldn’t want to touch with a ten foot pole. And it makes you wonder why they don’t notice it or won’t do anything about it. As the Pssy Nazi would say, “No more dates for you”.

  • Nene

    To get pregnant.

    • Justin_Igger

      To keep the welfare checks/food stamps rolling in. Negro abortions are already at about 51% in America, if not for the free negro handouts that number would go way up.

      The world does not need one more negro, that’s for sure.

  • Copper

    Regarding #6, you actually shouldn’t ever douche because it can mess up the pH of your vagina and cause infections. If you keep your vulva generally clean it shouldn’t smell that bad anyway. Also, taking OTC probiotics (look for anything with Lactobacillus acidophilus in it) can help get rid of or prevent yeast infections… just a useful tip.

    • sweethoney

      Instead of douching soak in a tub with 1 cup of apple cider vinegar after sex or your period.

  • tintin

    i like the queef one. I thought it meant you had a big hole

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  • http://med.health lucy g

    Good conversation! And what about clearing off the pubic hair? How good or bad is it?

  • http://med.health lucy g

    Good conversation! And what about clearing off the pubic hair? Ho

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  • http://www.facebook.com/shunta.kimbroughbrown Shunta Kimbrough-Brown

    Talk about it with friends. U might learn something.

  • NONNI

    for a nice and fresh smell wash your vagina with natural (non-sweetened) yoghurt daily if you like or a few times a week rinse off with cold water or you can add a dash of lemon juice ( use the fruit) in the rinse water as well it is a natural antiseptic…works in combating thrush as well

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  • Injynqbs

    Nice article and I say call it [almost] what you want. It’s yours. Embrace it and if you want to name it Marla you can. Men embrace theirs. I mean I bet you could think of 10 different names for one right now. ; o

  • QueenOfPharaohs

    Ok….SOOOOOO too many ppl are getting hung up on the actual word used in the title when no1 is focusing on the entire article itself. I enjoyed it very much! It was insightful, educating, and relatable. Thank you so much. And for the record ppl, maybe she used Va jay jay becuz their are still ppl (even adults) who find the term “vagina” alil strong..Just like most ppl are finding breast feeding in public offensive…Be appreciative for the article in it entirety verses blasting the author for choosing a word.

  • Tempestcater

    Douching is awful for your vagina. It rips sensitive tissue and may make vaginal infections increase. I am really disappointed by this article. If you are going to talk about our sexual health please do a thorough job. 

    You also could have put up a stat about condom usage and how often that vuvla and scrotum infection comes up vs….Not using a condom at all. When our community is facing huge problems with STDs and unwanted pregnancies to put that Condoms wont protect you when for the most part they do is just redic. I speak to Black women who think that condoms wont prevent pregnancies…so they have babiees they dont want and open their bodies to STD infection. 

    Would it have been awful to have aOBGYN  write this article. 

    • sweethoney

      If a woman has a latex allergy she can use a condom made of polyurethane. They sell it at most pharmacies.

  • CARAMELBEAUTY92

    “A  vagina is meant to smell like a vagina.” <<<—uh yeah every vagina has its own distinct smell. But. i shouldn't be able 2 smell your downstairs. Mild soap and warm water please!

  • Psylocke_2001

    That line “a vagina is meant to smell like a vagina” reminds me of a line from The Vagina Monologues.  

  • LOL:)

    I feel bad for women who have never achieved orgasms… My only complaint during sex is that my husband gives me too many. You have to push down and tighten your keigel muscles during sex if you want to have an orgasm. You are just as responsible for your orgasm as he is.

    And who didn’t know this about their vagina?

  • Guest

    Um…I really hope this isn’t new information for some of you grown women. Everything presented here should have been known back in high school. If you don’t know how your vagina works then something ain’t right!!

  • Mls2698

    For the record, I don’t know about you, but I don’t go around imagining how any woman’s vagina smells.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

       I was thinking the EXACT same thing. Why are you imagining how the writer’s “kitty cat” is smelling. Find something to do!

      • Mls2698

        I just spent two semesters taking anatomy & physiology classes complete with cadavers ( we had to study it from the hooter to the tooter) and this chick is going to tell us we are dumb. Those classes were hard as h*ll, but I guess I should have just logged on here and let a monkey explain it to me. smh

        • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

           LOL, you remember that cadaver smell (~_~)? Baby oil ?? I just can’t figure out where she got that idea. Why would she think she need to do that? Why mask a funk? Fix the root cause! You shouldn’t be smelling like a skunk crawled up in you & died, or Pappadeux’s weekly special can be served straight from the middle of your legs, or the back of Long John’s Silver’s, Red Lobster, and Planned Parent Hood combined. All I tried to say was wash & eat right, you shouldn’t have any problems. 

          • Mls2698

            I think we finally ran her away.

            • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

              LOL, maybe…. though I have a feeling she may be back. I feel sorry for her. I think she was under the impression that the natural scent of a vagina is stinky so you HAVE to douche. Hopefully she stopped being mad long  enough to actually learn from these comments.

              Maybe she has more male influences. They say they like it, but don’t know she is destroying herself. it’s like she has been too worried about making sure she give a man what
              he wants, rather than make sure she is not harming herself in the long run.

              oh well, she’ll wise up…hopefully…lol

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  • pashunfruit

    I’m one of those women that do not orgasm during intercourse, I’ve gotta do a little extra to achieve one….I used to think it was just my issue but I’ve learned even before this little blog that I’m not….but still enjoy sex very much!

  • U_envy_me12

    a lot of these comments are hilarious! I dnt knw if I would call this article informative, but thank goodness I knw how to take care of mine. douches are bad m’kay and so are all those “feminine” washes and body wash. It just needs a regular mild soap, nothing fancy. and they should of mentioned how to correctly wipe after going to the bathroom b/c it’s grown a** women out here wiping back to front and not front to back like ur actually supposed to. fellas need to start asking in the gate “how well do u wipe?” I dnt even sit on other chicks toilets…and I flush with my foot….yes in yo house lol.

    • http://www.therapyiseffinexpensive.wordpress.com Zan

       I’m glad SOMEBODY brought up the wiping issue…and that loon up there commenting in all caps must be one of the females who thinks it’s okay to wipe back to front because can douche all the fecal matter out of her vagina. *eye roll*

    • Chanda

      I was with you but why not just flush (the toilet) with your hands, you have to wash them anyway?

  • Rene

    There are 5 holes not 3 in case some of yous did not know.

    • Mls2698

      I’ve got three, did you MAKE more holes? Unless I count my mouth and ears……….IDK 0_o.

      • Mls2698

        And nose.

  • Chanda

    MN, you should’ve mentioned that not everyone bleeds their “first time” because a girl can pop her cherry from wearing tampons or vigorous sports.

  • Jobsgivsyy

    Call it by the correct name. Its VAGINA. not VA Jay Jay we’re not 3

  • Nitty

    Are some people actually arguing about vaginas?
    C’mmon ladies.

    • quick quads

      dumb, right???????????

  • Terra

    The smell issue comments are killing me. LOL.
    Real Talk, a man who doesn’t love the smell of a well taken care of pussy/vagina whatever and who would rather it smell like some fruit and flowers might be a little fruity.
    Literally have had a man grab his shirt wipe it of, smell it and then keep going. 
    Douche is bad for many people and unnecessary. If you find yourself using it often then something must be wrong with you because your body was created to repair itself… when it smells “musky” then you go check that out or clean up and let your body do it’s job. 
    Oh, and keep it dry.  Cotton seats and all of that.
    The End.
    And whoever Jerri is, you must be an idiot. 
     

    • Mls2698

      Had no Idea you could say ” p***y” on this blog.

  • 08033

    the QUEEF!! i feel a little bit embarrassed when it happens ..i just laugh it off 

  • CriticXtreme

    You’re wrong about this one. If it smells like fish, you’re about to catch something. Some serious itch-e-poohs or worst. 

  • JERRI MALONE

    PLEASE DON’T SAY A VAGINA SUPPOSE TO SMELL LIKE A VAGINA…..AND YOU SHOULD NOT DOUCHE???………… OR TRY TO CLEAN IT OUT WHAT THE  F??? PLANET DO YOU LIVE ON LADY FOR THE RECORD IT IS ALWAYS SUPPOSE TO SMELL LIKE ROSES AND STRAWBERRIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND IF YOURS DO NOT LET ME GIVE YOU SOME ADVICE  FIRST OF ALL SIT IN A HOT TUBE OF WATER WITH SOME BABY OIL THE SAME FINGER THAT YOU USE TO CLEAN YO G SPOT USE IT TO CLEAN THE ENTRY OF YOUR VAGINA IN A CIRCULAR MOTION NUMEROUS TIMES AND THEN SOAK SOME MORE AND WHEN YOU GET OUT YOU WILL BE SMELLING A BED OF ROSES LADY OKAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! P.S. YOU GIVING WRONG ADVICE SOME PEOPLE MIGHT TAKE IT AS LEAVE IT LIKE IT IS AND THAT MIGHT BE GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

       Wow! ummm, why can’t you wash down there the same way you wash the rest of your body and it smell the same as the rest of your body. Your vagina is not a rose or strawberry, so it shouldn’t smell like it. If you have an “off” smell or a “bad” smell (ie fishy) you probably have a ph in-balance or infection and should do something about it. See a GYN or buy some RePhresh ph balance pills. You can maybe change the smell, and I’ll go ahead and say it, taste, with diet. Drink lots of smoothies with lots of fruits & yogurt or purchase you some Sweeten 69, but to suggest somebody wash they coochie out with baby oil ??

      • cmh1978

         FROM  a man point of view I love strawberries so with that being said if it smell like strawberries. then I will take my time and slowly lick and kiss it like a sweet strawberry.

        • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

           Woah Now! LOL, well for you then your lady could make sure to: “Drink lots of smoothies with lots of fruits & yogurt or purchase you some Sweeten 69″ You both get what you need.

          • JERRI MALONE

            IN YOUR CASE YOU NEED SOME OIL IN THE BATHWATER CAUSE YOUUUUUUUUUUU  LOOK ASHEY AND THAT COMMENT WAS FOR ME FROM 1978 CAUSE YOU THOUGHT WHAT I SAID WAS A BAD IDEA  MS. SMOOTHIE

            • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

              Look up, you will see that my reply was to cmh1978, I ain’t a bit more thinking bout you.You are just disrespectful. As Tamar would say “Get Your Life”, from now on, you will be talkin to yourself.

              • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

                 ….and cmh1978 was replying to me, see where it says: “in reply to Que Stevenson” he probably ain’t worried about you either.

            • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

              BTW, the word is spelled “Ashy”! How are you gonna insult someone and can’t spell?

              • Tracey

                are there certain medicines that keep you from being aroused, ie: you go from wanting sex all the time to just going through the motions to please your mate.

        • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

          I don’t need to use your bogus method to get a man to take his time & slowly lick and kiss it like a sweet strawberry….I bet you looked up “sweeten 69″ didn’t you? hahaha, don’t lie! I’d rather be Ms. Smoothie, than Ms. I-have-used-so-much-mineral-oil-in-my-snatch-i-destroyed-my-coochie.

          • Kristina Tramel

            LOL!!! @ Que

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_ARWCN44TE6LUWK5KGBO3XZZIUI Status Quo

        @ que stevenson, i was thinking the same thing. why would you put something foreign such baby oil in the birth canal. the vagina wasn’t meant for that. the vagina has its natural juices and it should be smelling like a vagina. You should be concerned when your discharge has an odor and your discharge is yellowish greenish in color. Thank God I don’t have any of these problems.

        • Mls2698

          Pick one for your sentence: To, Two, or Too. Still can’t figure it out, huh?

        • Mls2698

          And I ” see dead people” with all that wh*ring and MEN you speak of.

      • JERRI MALONE

        AND FOR THE RECORD I DON’T NEED TO BE TAUGHT I ALREADY KNOW WHATS GOING ON WITH ME OKAY……………………..WHO YOU SHOULD BE GIVING ADVICE TO IS THE REPORTER OF THIS ARTICLE  WHO OBVIOUSLY DOES NOT KNOW THAT IT IS OKAY TO DOUCHE   AND YES I DID SAY SIT IN A TUB OF WATER WITH SOME BABY OIL TO NOT ONLY SOFTEN YOUR SKIN BUT TO MAKE YOU SMELL GOOD AS WELL  I DO NOT NEED TO GO TO A GYN CAUSE MY VA J J  SMELLS GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

        • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

           My advice was to you because the advice you gave to the author was ridiculous. You go ahead and douche, and finger yourself with baby oil if you want to. Come back and read these comments when your coochie is all dried out and smelling like ROTTEN strawberries cause you have become dependent on mineral oil. That’s probably happened already. Why else would you assume the author meant your vagina is suppose to stink, when she said “your vagina is suppose to smell like a vagina”? A normal, clean, and healthy vagina, doesn’t stink. Doesn’t smell much different than the rest of your body.

      • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

         I could have a tattoo on my face and you wouldn’t be able to tell from the pic to the left of this comment. You just wanted something to say, and that is what you came up with? From the gitty up, you have made no sense at all. I dare you to say something intelligent…I’ll wait.

      • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

        Looks like you are getting all riled up because you see how out of line you have been. Maybe you should just delete your initial comment. Pretend you learned something.

    • Kris50

      Who told you this? Your great grandma? Umm back in the early 1900′s they use to douche with Lysol…are you gonna do that too?
      Douching makes any smell you got WORSE. That’s why you have to keep doing it, because it kills the bacteria and interupts the ph balance needed to keep your vag healthy. And a bath with baby oil??? Girl are you kidding me??? Ok, keep pushing all that nasty stuff UP, FURTHER into your business and your cervix or uterus is gonna be all kinds of f****d up.

    • Mls2698

      Roses and strawberries? Maybe if you’re a diabetic with uncontroled sugar levels.

      • Mls2698

        Celibate for six years. Only wh*re hopping women need to invent strategies to keep their vagina fresh. Summer’s Eve has an intimate wash, but it may cost more than the $1.59 you pay for baby oil. And stop typing in all caps like an untrained monkey.

      • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

        bahahahaha. Trust & believe, if my man is whispering behind my back, it’s because he’s hitting it from the back. “it doesn’t make sense for me to try to explain myself” You just aren’t capable…it’s too late. You had the audacity to post what you did, now accept the feedback.

    • Melanie

       Douching dries vaginas out.  You may want to talk to a doctor about this before you insult someone else s intelligence or cleanliness.  You vagina naturally cleans itself.  God knew what He was doing.  And bathing in soap and water is not going to have you smelling like strawberries.  If it does, you may wanna think about changing soap, cause you’re doing more harm than good.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

       To my daughter: “Here’s what NOT to do!” To my son: “See here is why you need to watch who you sleep with. Broads like this who think they are clean & smell like roses and strawberries because they masturbated with baby oil in the tub”

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_SCV2NFHLMLXKJSLD3UC5BCOAJ4 Lady Jane

    That came off the show “Grey’s Anatomy” and it has taken over the proper term Lala….people are not comfortable or adult enough to face reality and talk about what is necessary for their health.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000081211233 Jess Ica

    Everything I’ve ever read or heard from a gynecologist has told me NOT to douche. Although the packaging says that it balances your pH, it actually does the opposite. It removes the “good” bacteria that is needed to keep your vagina healthy. Douching can actually lead to BV, and the smell from that is very strong and fishy.

  • Noirevixen

    Foreplay guys is for both of you.  If you get this part right, the oven will be nice and warm to stick the bread in.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Theresa-Sutton/1165779943 Theresa Sutton

    Madame Noire – I believe it is called a vagina

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  • http://www.facebook.com/moon.child1 Moon Child

    Lastly, I would LOVE to see some slides concerning men and their sexual health and activities. Why is always just the women who are targeted? Hmmmm? 

    • bishop

      Maybe because it’s a female site with articles directed to females. Why can’t women like you appreciate being a woman and stop worrying about men and what we doing.

      • http://www.singleblackmale.org/ Slim Jackson

        Bishop said what I was about to say…albeit differently.lol. This really is part of the problem. Spending pointless time worrying about the opposite sex rather than ourselves. 

      • http://www.facebook.com/moon.child1 Moon Child

         That didn’t even make sense and the 24 likes scares me.

        • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002118369491 Traceyann ImaSurvivor Lumsden

          am i the only one reading moon chid’s comments, like a sex therapists usually does on t.v

    • JERRI MALONE

      AND YOU ARE???????????????  AND WHO YOU REPRESENT????????????????? OH NOBODY JUST LIKE I THOUGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/moon.child1 Moon Child

    As a sexologist, I would like it if bloggers black bloggers would please stop calling a woman’s vulva “vay jay” it’s annoying. It would be nice if your going to quote anything that you use stats to prove how many women don’t have orgasms by intercourse alone. It’s over 70%. Trying different positions and different techniques can help with all of that. 

    Although you mentioned the G spot you didn’t say HOW to gain pleasure from it. Why not?

    All of the other information was shallow at best but hopefully it will get black women to think about their vulva (vagina). The cancer slide was a gem.

    I did like the slides showing white men with black women.. nice diversity.

    • http://www.facebook.com/moon.child1 Moon Child

       Oh really?! I didn’t ask for a science journal I asked for respect of the female body. The only way people are going to learn is if you provide them with accurate information. That is what is wrong with the black community now and yes I am black. We come up with all of these “nick names” for body parts that should only be used in the bedroom or when talking to your girls or boys. Part of a blogs responsibility unless it’s personal is to EDUCATE THE PUBLIC not buy into immature names for the female body or male body for that manner! I bet if I asked the editor or pres of this blog if they wanted to be taken seriously, I bet they would give a “hell yeah”.  Now did I have to look THAT up in a science journal to figure that out?

    • Anch30

      The blogger being black should not even be an issue. If there is something YOU want to see in a blog, YOU do your own.

  • noodle

    take care of every part of your body! 

  • Live_in_LDN

     My vagina aint handicapped

    • noodle

       lmao

  • VampireBill

    A vagina is supposed to smell like a vagina, but only like a human’s vagina. Nobody wants the smell of one on an octopus or wildebeest. When wild cats start following you around the neighborhood then you know you have some problems. Then, keep the hair tight because I don’t want to feel like I am reaching into a bag of popcorn. That is just me, you and yours can make your own rules.

    • http://www.facebook.com/moon.child1 Moon Child

       As a sexologist.. yep I am one. Natural washing everyday should keep wild odors away. However, douching actually is damaging to a woman’s ph balance and can bring a host of infections and irritations. Keeping the pubic hair trimmed or not is a preference not a necessity, if the hair wasn’t meant to be there it wouldn’t be.

      • noodle

         i was just thinking that, my GYN told me not to ever douche, bc im very sensitive

      • Mls2698

        What’s a ” wild ” odor, kind of like a muskrat? Can I plait my hair instead of trimming?

        • http://www.facebook.com/moon.child1 Moon Child

           You can do whatever it is you want creatively with your personal hair. Keeping it washed is the most essential thing. I like the idea of women choosing creative ways to handle the hair. I know clients that shave it in very interesting ways and a couple that have it shaved with tattoos! They seem to think it’s powerful conversation starters! lol

      • http://www.therapyiseffinexpensive.wordpress.com Zan

         Thank you thank you thank you for bringing up the douching issue…that stuff is SO bad for the vagina!

    • Caroneisha

      “When wild cats start following you around the neighborhood…” LMFAO!!!! You are so crazy!!

    • Sweethoney

       If a vagina has a odd or strong odor it’s more than likely and infection. Go to Gyn. Some infection reoccur in some women. PH is a big factor strong soap, sexual intercourse and or your period can bring on an infection. Natural remedies are good also work for some women.

      • gabrielle

        My doctor’s have said that using simple home products like plain yogurt can cure some of the off balance your “V” might have. So putting it up in there can help with bacteria.

    • http://www.facebook.com/KalimbaJakenjuwha Kalimba Jakenjuwha

      Wild cats? LMFO!! OH wow… that was a good ‘ern.

  • Guest

    HOLD UPP!!! i’m a virgin and i don’t touch myself.. i did try to have sex once but it wudn’t enter.. (i’m happy it didn’t for now) but does it mean my vagina will shrink if i don’t do something? LMAO im getting scared here…. lol

    • San

      I hate blogs because they can have u so confused…stay pure as long as u can. This perverted society will have u messed up. I’m 33 and on partner 2 and i’m not ashamed. Is it worth opening ur legs all the time….hell no…..

      • Guest

         yea dats wat im trying to do.. i just hope it doesn’t shrink.. and all  LMAO

        • Coco Black

          It definately won’t. If you had a few troubles before..prob means you werent aroused!! So he clearly wasn’t worth it or the one :-)
          I was around 24 when I lost my virginity….so you keep doing your thang, there’s absolutely no rush. None whatsoever!!

          • Guest

            lol thx ill hang in there!!:)

          • Mls2698

            Gonna say this just for laughs, so don’t anybody get upset: There is no “one” who is capable of popping cherries. The “one” is who you marry.

            • Alcupid

              Lol so right n if you cherry gets popped dude was too rough n didn’t take his time! Ladies your the Captain, the DRIVING instructor! N ain’t no such thing as beatin it up unless he tryin to get lumped up there should be discomfort but not PAIN he going to treat ur body how u allow!!! And use it or it will dry out n cling together lmao is fact! I took some time off two years actually n I dried up like a raisin everything started sticking together doc said. She laughed @ me she said ur not using it r u? I said no I had to use vagasill moisterizer! Then I was fine. I share my story to help another! Ladies if u abuse her u will end up with a hysterectomy!!!! Make da men in ur life treat her with respect!!! Most don’t know but u r a WOMB-MAN

              • buckeye

                wow, that’s a hoot the alcupid… i can’t decide if that’s how yooz taukz, or whutall… but it was entertaining… i think i had to re-read each sentence to follow along…

        • Jadonnie-ava-marie

          Good for you girl keep your virginity for as long as you can my older sister is 27 and she is still a virgin.

      • Nene

        Thanks you. This world is so wicked. That’s why God is mad and will be bringing this evil world to a end soon.

        • naoma

          What a load of baloney. Don’t hold your breath for that “evil world to end soon.”

    • Mls2698

      My anatomy & physiology professor said that some women’s hymen is so tough that surgical intervention is needed (not trying to scare you). The first time can be tricky, anyway. But for now, continue to stay a virgin for as long as you can (marriage?). Nothing wrong with touching yourself, you should know your body before anyone else does; well, all that a solo act can teach.

      • Guest

        gosh u are scaring me tho lol i don’t touch myself because its awkward actually and my ex tried to do it and it hurt like a b***h.. so i don’t even think about going there again lol

        • akha1784

          The key is moisture.  Use your saliva  or his saliva to start off and be gentle.  I would suggest starting off on your own, so that you can know the pace and the amount of pressure that is good for you and then you can give him instruction.

    • Anna

      Girl, I was thinking the same thing!  I’m in the same boat as you and got nervous wondering if my vagina is disappearing as I type this!  LOL

    • Cuetojess

      YOu should please urself before someone else can cause then you won’t know what you are suppose to feel. The when you do finally have sex you will be just going in the motions to no where at least for urself.

    • Ffts_19

      Please re-read the post, it says post menopausal women.  

      • Anna

        It says “TYPICALLY…post-menopausal women.”  Meaning normally, but not written in stone. Though I’m sure that is generally the case.

    • Chanda

      But you’re not post-menopausal are you? I think they’re only refering to much older women because they dry up after menopause.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Camille-Selby/100000026654512 Camille Selby

      Yes. It’s called vaginal atrophy. Some use vaginal dilators to stay normal.

    • Chicpic

      yes, it will continually shrink until its closed all the way.
      You will know it’s shrinking by the sound it makes- a sucking noise; like water going into an unclogged drain…..

    • nichole

      ridiculous of course not, stay pure until the right husband comes along,,,

  • Lalatarea

    #1 STOP calling it a va jay jay, you are NOT a child and it is not a toy! i hate when grown ask women use such childish words like va jay jay to describe their body parts!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=193904139 Colette Mompoint

      Lol! Lala that IS getting annoying!

    • http://www.peridotdynasty.com/ Roni W

      THANK YOU. I can’t stand the word either.

      • guest

        your so right my older sister who isin her 30′s and normally quite grown up and mature about things still to this day calls it a fufu. it drives me insane

        • quickquads

          a fifi is what men make in prison to satisfy their urges……..have no clue what a fufu is…………

          • http://twitter.com/MadameGigglez ItsBitchPuddingBLAM

             
            where u hear that? Lock Up on MSNBC?

            • Aziza

              bwahahahaha!!

          • T_nyemba

             fufu is a starch, made from a number of different grains depending on what part of Africa you come from.

            • Kedara

              I was thinking the same thing..isn’t fufu an African grain to make a cream of wheat type dish? LOL

          • Thenji Maynard

            Fufu is a delicious carb meal of Nigerian origin. It’s made out of corn or cassava. I don’t know how the word relates to a female body part.

            • Prince

              ? its not Nigerian. The word Fufu is Ewe, and cassava can be found all over West/Central Africa. smdh.

              • NO_Name

                I can’t agree more. Fufu is EWE, pure west coast. You can use cassava, yam or plantain (banana plantain). Nigerians have it too but it’s definitely not Nigerian). Fufu isn’t vagina. it’s more about banging than the va jay jay itself LOL.

            • Scott H

              Whatever the relation is, it’s the corniest thing I have ever heard! While we are at it, who the hell coined the term “cookies?”

              • Chris F

                @Scott H It was limp bizkit

                • Lacey English

                  @Chris F I thought that was “Nookie”? LOL

    • RoyalQueen

      Tell’em why you mad son(Ed Lover voice)……

    • quick quads

      i call her cupcake…………

      • Drew Smith

        I don’t often call bullsh*t, but when I do, it’s because I smell it.

      • Drew Smith

        I don’t often call bullsh*t, but when I do, it’s because I smell it.

    • Makemsaydee

      Take a chill pill jack

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1181617897 Brad Skidmore

      You said

      “i hate when grown ask women use such childish words like va jay jay”

      How do you feel about adults and the use of proper English?

      • I CAN’T

        I think she used “ask” in place of the profane word for donkey because it might be blocked by the moderator.  Just a thought.  

      • http://www.facebook.com/people/Camille-Selby/100000026654512 Camille Selby

        Brad Skidmore you are the most thoughtless poster on this site. How do you feel about adults and the proper use of a BRAIN????

    • Kierah

      I call it “my pretty.”

      • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

         LOL,  I have my daughter (4yrs old) call her’s “butterfly”. When she gets
        older, she can call it what she wants. Right now, it’s better to hear
        “momma, I need some new panties, these ones are hurting my
        butterfly!”….ha

        • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003886685914 Chas Marie Keys

          That is cute I grew up just saying vagina str8 to the point we didnt have cute lil names for it…….. But now when I refer to it I call her Mrs. Kitty cuz I have 2 sons 9 and 6 

          • naoma

            To Stevenson: I cannot imagine these hokey words for body parts. But, that is just me — see my post below. Our daughter went to a doctor and she was around 3 at the time also and he asked if she could “wee wee.” She asked him this: “Do you not know the word
            ‘urinate’?” Ah, yes.

            • pepjrp

              Oh come on… 3 years old?

          • fibble

            No matter what you want to call it, a more important question is why are you discussing that body part in front of children??

        • WALTERWEBB

          freelance writer (walter webb) and curvy magazine

        • Spiritwoman

          My step daughter also referred to hers a a butterfly. I have also heard tulip. (haha- 2 lip)

          • pepjrp

            I guess these are all girl or female terms… guys never say those. Ha.

      • Deej

        I was raised calling “it” my “private”, meaning no one has any business down there but me, my Mom, or my doctor when I was a kid.

        • Chrissy Marie LaRochelle

          agreed, same here

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100004127918716 Jack Taylor

      It’s ok once in a while, I think it’s cute. Don’t get your panties all in a twist, girl.

    • kimaras31

      You need to stop, this post is old but I just saw it. I busted out laughing lmao because I agree with you 100% I bed its my pu$$y and on the streets its my vagina. Never my via jay jay, cu-co, Nana, or my juice box.

    • mo

      me too!! va jay jay is just ridiculous.

    • Steve Skinner

      The term “va jay jay” comes from Dr. Vijay Jalgaonkar, a famous gynecologist. His colleagues and the hospital staff just called him “Dr. J.” for short because some of them had a problem to remember his surname, but he supposedly didn’t mind this a bit. After a time, some people at the hospital where he worked started calling him “Dr. Vijay J.”, which – after the “Dr.” title was dropped – came to signify that part of the female anatomy which was the focus of his medical practice.

    • HarryArmstrong

      Who in the world thinks of these words? Somewhere in the USA someone’s greatest accomplishment in life will be they invented the word va jay jay. I think people need a life?

    • pepjrp

      It just plays into racial stereo-types. Funny where ignorance will appear… even in a oh so modern magazine.

  • http://twitter.com/RoniqueNicole Food And The City

    (DADDY DON’T READ THIS TWEET) A fulfilling sex life without orgasm? The devil is a lie!  You may not be able to reach orgasm through penetration but there are several other ways for your partner to take you there and he better! 

    • sweet & shower

      Damn skippy! I am living proof that good communication and getting her comfortable are the steps to cloud 9!

    • Scott H

      Stimulating the n**ple or***y is the solution since it stimulates the same area in the brain that is stimulated when intercourse happens, which is the pleasure center!

      • Chicpic

        and men can get pleasure from having their n*pples orally stimulated as well but theirs are not as sensitive as women’s

        • Scott H

          I’m pretty sure they’re not, my girl squirms around when I stimulate her and I barely feel a sensation down there. *shrug* Hell, I can stimulate her sensually with just my fingers! Again, me not at all… Hers are more fun to play with anyway!

          • nichole

            does anyone here ever think about …..God and sin ..??? sad it will be just a matter of time and……

            • Scott H

              I’ve thought about God a lot over my life, and where was he when I was being beaten near to death by my own religious family? Where was “God and sin” when they lied about it each time and I got in trouble with the police when it was my blood was all over the ground, I had bruises all over my body including ligature marks from being strangled? When no one did anything when my mom shoved me at age 14 causing a HUGE scrape on my back? When my dad almost cracked my skull? Where was your God when my mom did crack my skull and put me in a COMA?! Where was your God when I asked them for forgiveness and they yelled at me and beat me up some more including throwing a heavy object at my head 3 months after I got out of a coma?! When did anyone thinking about “God and sin” when they stole $20,500 from me to get out of debt when I asked for help to get out of the medical debt she caused? Doesn’t your God talk about not stealing from the sick, blind, and hungry? I can barely walk, my spine is messed up, and my right arm is useless, but my family steals my Rx painkillers! The injury from the coma made it so I can’t smell at all, and if certain chemicals are inhaled they cause a seizure in me but my family keeps spraying the same cleaners and using solvents around me… My family rarely stocks the house with food and never takes me anywhere to get some food, but when I manage to buy my own they always steal it and eat it!

              Does anyone every think about not shoving their personal opinions down the throats of everyone else as a passive insult? How about you finish your sentences and forget about the ellipses that you uses incorrectly!

              Do everyone a favor, and don’t insult others just because you don’t
              agree with them! I am sick of anyone and everyone especially how anyone religious is a weekend-warrior and is basically like someone who
              goes to the gym to learn how to exercise and then never does it! So please SHUT UP!!! OKAY!?

              • KayC

                Hi Scott,
                I sympathize with you whole heartedly but you shouldn’t let others get under your skin. Clearly that person is not in any way a “Christian”, “a soldier for Christ”, or any phrase that fits because as we all know…God will be the judge and therefor we are not to cast our own opinion towards one another (a horrible habit of so many in this world). I do hope that you have found someone to talk to or help you out/through that situation.
                Please, don’t allow others to influence your reactions and look forward to the future, and don’t dwell on the past. You can’t look forward if you are always looking back. I myself have been through a lot though I am not saying that my history was worse or that I know how you feel but I do hope you won’t take this the wrong way.

                On a light note…I am sure Adam and Eve and all of the great men and women had to procreate in order to have children, I do not believe that it says anywhere that you are not allowed to enjoy it with an significant other. Be blessed!

                • naoma

                  I left all church at the age of 9 and never looked back. Read a poem that was not at all religious and teacher at “Sunday School” praised me for it. (Thought he was ‘not too smart’). Then at Sunday Church service a handicapped man who heard the preacher pray for the roof to fall on the heads of sinners within yelled “Preacher you are full of
                  S**T.” I thought he had a really true understanding and walked out when he did. Never went back. EVER.

                  • Duck Dodgers

                    You should educate yourself then. Read the book “I don’t have enough faith to be an atheist” and find out just how much more faith you have to have to believe there is no God than there does to believe there is one. You can pretend there isn’t one, and who knows, if you are right, then no harm no foul. But, if you are wrong, well, I guess you can make excuses, but millions will be in your shoes telling the same sad excuses that won’t wash on Judgement day. You had plenty of time and plenty of people who tried to warn you to take a closer look than you are taking, and to look at our world, our Universe, and all life that exists just on our Earth, and to say all that happened by accident and by happenstance, sorry, you have to have a very small mind to say such things.
                    I will give one instance as an example. Scientists cannot figure out why the human body ages. There is no reason for it. Our cells, every single solitary cell, regenerates every so many days or so. Those dead cells come off in the shower (skin cells) and ear wax and other excrement’s that get rid of waste and old cells. Our bodies should never age, yet they do. You could take 100,000 super computers and they couldn’t do the things our human brain does without us even thinking about it (Breathing, beating heart, controlling the liver and kidneys, stomach digestion, etc..) but then me just using my fingers to type this message, those computers couldn’t be wired to a human and perform those acts all simultaneously, without fault or errors, and they say we only use 10% or so of our brains full capacity. I wonder why that is. So be an atheist and run from “Church” but not all church’s are bad, hate to tell ya. Just takes some looking to find the right one. But just denying God exists because you had a bad church experience is pretty sad.

                    • Tom

                      Yeah, you’re, uh, wrong. We know exactly why cells age. And believing in something for which there is zero proof is the definition of stupidity. Religion poisons human existence, and those that claim to have personal knowledge of a higher existence are either delusional, lying, or selling something. Typically, it’s a combination of the three. And it’s fine to believe whatever fairy tales you wish, but keep them to yourself. No none wants to hear people claim to know that which they cannot possibly know, and use that imagined knowledge to pass judgement on others. Religious belief isn’t necessary for a moral compass, and anyone claiming that is a simpleton.

                • Scott H

                  I have, it’s called XBOX, Nintendo, and music! My girlfriend has mood disorders, anxiety disorders, and other mental health things that I have dealt with and have (had) myself, so I am helping her through that chaos because unlike her ex I know what is going on. The sad thing is it presents itself predominately with a significant other… So she thinks it’s entirely me… Estrogen based psychosis is strange…!

              • Notnene

                my advise to you is to get away from the people who have hurt you and continually hurt you before the unthinkable happens. Please tell someone including the doctors caring for you or the police. God gives us free will and they’ve unfortunately used theirs to hurt you but I trust that God will perfect everything that concerns you in due time.

                • Scott H

                  I still believe in only what I can see, because believe in a deity is the problem that caused my so much pain. I have two good legs (kind of) so I am going to use them to get up and walk!

              • Chicpic

                Well they (your family) tried to destroy you but you’re here-alive. Maybe that’s where God comes into play….JS

                • Scott H

                  If God came into that situation, he did it through me, man, science, technology, and the theory of relativity! Look at the Bible, it says that god gave man knowledge (more or less) and the earth to use it. Man has to do what God told us to do, and regardless of religious beliefs the Bible has some damn good rules to abide by. Now if only mankind would stop hating on the bible, Christianity, religion, and just be good people. I mean I am atheist/agnostic (I forgot the definitions and I am too sleepy to look them up right now) and I like Christianity for the most part (okay I am too lazy to look them up!)

              • m.scott

                My heart goes out to you, and I am amazed at your strength after what you have endured. I wish I could remove the pain, suffering and memories. I too was abused – and still am even having MS. I don’t know you or where you live; I hope my thoughts of love and safety reach you somehow. You are loved by me. You are an incredible person. Also I wish with all my heart that you will align yourself with nice caring people and get far away from those that are abusing you. I love you so much.

              • Zone11

                Be careful; your family’s god will take away your internet if you get too uppity.

                • Scott H

                  How immature are you? I am 28 years old you early teenage drama queen… Go trolling somewhere else you idiot.

              • beenthereb4

                Scotty, wow, you are a survivor! You are truly deserving to be able to live without fear, and others ‘God”, ok. I’m sad to have read the torture that you’ve been thru, hopefully you will be able to get out of that horrible house! I want to help you, inbox me ur screen name, and not only will I email you back, I WILL Pray for you to live in a happy, healthy loving home! Happy Holiday to you!

              • Furino

                Gosh, that is the worst story i have ever heard, and my heart breaks for you. No wonder that you are so disturbed by the thoughts of God. I know you don’t probably want to hear it, but God had nothing to do with your horrible experiences. i am very, very sorry this happened to you. There is absolutely no justification for their crimes against you. You need to get an advocate that can walk you through the legal system that you may escape your bondage! Go to Child Protective Services and tell your story. You need much help. I love you man!

              • Mack Norris Jr.

                Scott, I’m sorry these things have happened to you. I don’t know how you feel except from what you have said. “Very” hurt, angry, trapped.

                It also sounds like you are angry at God. It’s OK to Tell Him so in the way you want to. God is The Big God. Since he knows how you feel let him know personally. This time expect the unexpected from him. I have prayed for you as I’m sure others have also.

                God Bless You Scott, More Than What I would Dare To Ask!!
                Mack

              • Patferr

                Scott,
                Dude, Sorry you are such a dumbass, that you keep going back to “family” over and over to get abused. After they abused me one time, I would be gone, and would have found some way to make it without them. You apparently kept going back for more, even let them have access to your $$, and you blame your poor choices on “GOD” lol, you are a hoot dude.

                What I hear you saying is “Where was your God when I stepped in front of that bus, and it hit me and damn near killed me? Where was your God when I jumped off a 3 story building and landed and broke my legs and arm trying to brace my fall, and was in the Hospital for weeks? Where was your God when I gave my Father who was convicted for embezzling $$ from his job, and stole my sister’s college scholarship money, but I gave my father my $22,500 to pay for my hospital bills, and he didn’t pay it, so don’t tell me about YOUR GOD, cuz he never saved me from my piss poor decisions. So just shut up already. No decent God would give man free will do make his own choices and live by the consequences of them….What a poor pitiful human you are to blame God for things you pretty much did to yourself. These days, just an accusation of abuse gets the kids out of the house in most cases until it can be determined what is actually going on so part of what you say I don’t believe anyway. Either way, did you ever pray to God to help you? Did you cry out to him or just not believe he existed? Lots of problems with your story and BS.

                • Guest

                  There are countless other reasons why I don’t believe in God. I believe in Jesus Christ but not in God. I believe that God is more the rules of the universe than a being like you and me. So yes I do not believe in God.

            • mikinzla

              GOD NEVER CAME.

            • Tom

              What was sinful here?

    • Padoryn

      He better? Really? Imagine if your man said some crap like that to you.

    • Justin_Igger

      The single most important thing for negro females to know is that nationwide, negro females have about an 80% chance of having at least one STD. 1 in 2 negro females have herpes, according to the Center for Disease Control. And these are just the ones that have been tested and diagnosed.

      • IFeelSorryForDumbPeople

        That’s a dumb, bold-faced, racist lie and you know it! Shame on you. Get a life!

        • Scott H

          You really should look at statistics from the CDC before you go around claiming racism like the boy who cried wolf -_-