Success Is The Best Revenge: An Open Letter To Basketball Wives’ Jennifer Williams

May 21st, 2012 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers

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Dear Jennifer,

We’ve watched you transform from the docile and soft-spoken woman (and minion to Evelyn) whom we were introduced to during season one, to the absolutely fabulous, outgoing, fashion-forward, business-minded woman we see before us today. As a fellow introvert who has recently broken out of her shell, I say, “Go girl!” You have gracefully emerged from the shadows of your former NBA playing soon-to-be-ex-husband and your insane ex-best friend and are truly standing on your own two feet, as your own woman. Watching you come into your own and watching you be so free from the drama (at least mentally) is truly liberating. As you learned pretty quickly, the people around you are not always happy for you and ready to embrace the new you, especially if you’ve changed for the better (and realize that they’re not good for you).

We shuddered last season as we witnessed Eric act out by throwing a drink in your face as if he were one of the chicks from “Bad Girls Club.” I try my best to refrain from swearing, but it’s like, come on, son! That was a B.A. (b****h a**) move. There’s no other way to properly describe it. I remember sitting and wondering, “What on earth would make a man do that to his wife on national television?” The only thing that I could think of is that it was in an effort to humiliate and break you down. One, because you had finally stopped sitting around waiting for him to change his ways and began taking steps towards filing for divorce. Two, you didn’t appear to be all sad and solemn about it. Yeah, you had your moments, but you cried, sucked it up and kept it moving. You didn’t allow that situation to break you. Instead, you put your efforts into your business, which like you said, you’ve built from the ground up with your own money. You were becoming known as Jennifer Williams, the reality television star as opposed to Jennifer Williams, the wife of former NBA player Eric Williams. It didn’t matter whether or not being married to him got you there because honestly, if it weren’t for “Basketball Wives” most of us wouldn’t even know what the hell a Eric Williams was anyway! No, seriously. Google him…exactly.

It seems as if the finale of season three was only the beginning of the adversity that you would face because season four was outright ridiculous. Most of it surrounded your beef with Evelyn, and I still can’t seem to figure out how a friendship that lasted so long could go so ridiculously wrong so fast, but whatever, that’s neither here nor there. Season four was known as the “Let’s gang up on Jen” season. I personally believe that friends fall out all of the time and it’s up to them to decide whether or not they’re going to work it out. Her hitting you with her clutch and constantly throwing threats was a bit extreme, but what I find more ridiculous is the fact that the moment you and Evelyn fell out was the moment a few of your cast members who had absolutely nothing to do with the situation began to subtly throw shade your way. What I find even funnier is that they clearly decided to side with Evelyn but tried to claim neutrality in the whole fiasco. *side eye* Shaunie doesn’t exactly surprise me because the more controversy arises, the higher the ratings, and the fatter her wallet gets (Well, not so much anymore). She’s the madame of the “Basketball Wives” enterprise and has thus far exploited the hell out of any and every ounce of friction between cast members. It’s clear that she’s childishly taken sides with Ev. Tami is the one who is a little shocking and pathetic in this matter since she was just fighting with Evelyn a season or two ago for sleeping with her ex-husband and being indifferent about it. How she can find it in her to take sides is beyond me. But then again, when people want to be liked or in the “in crowd,” they lose themselves. Real women don’t claim to be “neutral” but then make snide remarks the way that she has all season. Get right or get left, Tami. You’re either hot or cold, black or white, but you my dear are what we call straddling the fence at its best. Then, there’s the famous slap from Ev’s assistant who to me seems as if she was just seeking to get her 15 minutes of fame. Too bad it cost her criminal charges and a lawsuit. No one should be subjected to abuse like that, and if pressing charges gets a few folks hot under the collar, enough to boycott folks, so be it.

You are making strides towards bettering yourself and we say “Good for you.” Many people fail to realize that when you go through major life changes such as a divorce there are some things about you that do change. From the way you value yourself to the people you want around you. You haven’t always been a positive cast member on the show, but I do believe that your story (in some parts) as it played out publicly can serve as motivation for other women because through adversity you still manage to come out shining like new money (while others just looked more and more crazy). All of the negativity surrounding you doesn’t appear to have broken you and that is an accomplishment. Independence fits you well, honey! Do your thing girl, allow the haters to be your motivators because it appears that the more successful you become both in your sense of peace and with your business ventures, the saltier they get. So don’t fight with your hands, fight back by leading a positive lifestyle because success truly is the best revenge.

 

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  • MissJamaica

    i totally agree. Cudos to a well written letter and i just love how Jen keeps her cool and remain a true LADY. Evelyn and Tami need to take a page out of Jen’s book!!!!

  • emily

    What a fabulous letter!!  I’m proud of jen too.  i believe the cast member who did not really know her but hit her was probably already jealous and just found the opportunity to hit jennifer.  she handled herself like a well mannered pro.

  • Beanjack123

    No one seems to recognize the real instigator in most of the Basketball Wives drama.  Suzie is the “run and tell” and “step and fetch” in the whole saga.  All appear to remain cordial with her in spite of what happens, but she is the biggest troublemaker in the bunch…..and Shaunie!  Oh, dear girl.  Shame on you.  This war against Jennifer is the first time I have truly seen you for who YOU are…not a neutral person
     as you claim.  Shame on both of you.

  • Heart Soul2003

    Tami slays me.  In the second season, she was clowning everyone else because “they” wanted to be in the “circle” when the fact is all along it was her wanting to be in the circle of sluts. 

  • Rachel91

    I never comment on blog post, but after reading this i felt as if i must as i concur with everything said. I’m from the UK and I use to watch this show religiously… I absolutely loved it. But this season has made me do a full180  turn. Everything written in this post is an absolute testament. 
    In this season we have all been witness to how impressionable Tami and Shaunie are when it comes to Evelyn, no loyalty for Jen what so ever – this truly saddens me because isn’t that their motto, loyalty ? Why would you expect Jen to act normal to you when evidently you are not? 
    I use to LOVE Evelyn mainly due to her feistyness but this season she truly has contradicted her self … I couldn’t comprehend how she could get so upset when Jen made those belittling comments to her assistant (which were wrong but she was heated – understandable) when last season Evelyn was the one calling Royce a ‘Bum bish’ . How can Tami then commend her on how loyal she still is to Jen as she hasn’t put out any of her business (Tami evidently edging her on due to her nosiness) then straight away Evelyn starts talking about ”oh you don’t care about your vagina you had sex without a condom” . Seriously these lady are in their early 30′s and this is what you bring up in an argument that concerns your friendship? 
    Sorry to be vulgar but if you weren’t the one riding his junk without a condom why does it concern you?
    Most of the bullies on this show have children of their own, i wish they would really take one minute to see how this could affect them and if they would want their children to ever behave in such an outlandish  manner. 
    I’m not saying Jen is a saint neither am i a fan of her on this show but she truly has been depicted as the victim on this show. No matter how much they proclaim ‘Y’all don’t get to see everything that happens’, the truth is the little we all get to see nationally says enough.

  • Cantale

    AMAZING LETTER! you addressed everything we have been talking about. so glad jennifer is rising above all the hatahs. Sure she made mistakes but shes moving past it…and oh btw I just saw an instagram pic of her, Nene and Mary j Blige hangn soooo bewwwwp! I commend her on trying to have goals and capitalize on her opportunities.  I’m disgusted with Tami and Evelyns childish and psycho behavior. And Shaunie, ugh to sit there are laugh and join in with the drama..to egg it on…disgusting.

  • Amrae

    An excellent overall view of the questionable adults in school kids role. Continue to hold head high Jen, and placing one step in front of the other.  If the show is not cancelled, Tami, Suzy and Evelyn  roles should be or replaced.

  • superwoman

    This is a great article. Jennifer Williams is a perfect example of “when you know better, you do better”. Now, for all of you that posted on this site that Jennifer was in the midst of the foolishness in the latter seasons you are absolutely right. Karma is a mother******, and Jennifer learned that the hard way. Is she bougie? yes. Is she arrogant? yes. but common on people she ALWAYS has been. Did she or does she deserve the terror that is Evelyn? no. Take it from someone who is going through marital difficulties, it does change you and makes you look at yourself (and those you surround yourself with). The only reason Shaunie, Tami, and even Suzie want to be around Jennifer is to keep the foolishness alive. Jennifer has been around these ladies (I use the term loosely) long enough to know how they operate and has chosen to remove herself from it. Kudos to Jennifer for not falling for it!!! . She realizes like I and many others that once you reach your 30′s and 40′s you really are a grown *ss woman and has decided to act accordingly. Go ahead with your life girl and do you!!!

    • emily

      amen.

  • Dollkennedy

    Amen.

  • LALABELLE

    Somebody clue me in ….but why is Shaunie Tami and Evelyn mad did I miss something. Shaunie is obviously closer to Evelyn. Shaunie and Evelyn only keep Tami around so she don’t snap on them. I would not be cool with them either because unless I  missed something the stuff Jen said about Chad was equivalent to the mess Evelyn use to say about Eric but all of a sudden Evelyn can not forgive Jen. THen she talking down to her like she child threatening to put hand on her all the time and Shaunie sitting sidle like Oooooh Jen you gonna get hurt. I would Fool with them either. THey not true look how they did Keisha sitting in her room trying to convince her that she did something wrong. Clue me in again did I miss something because I don’t recall Jen doing anything so TRAGIC to warrant this hate from Evelyn. But what is obvious is Eve Jealous that Jen want her own succes and doe snot want to be her Minion Evelyn all good with Jen as long as she below her but to try to be equal and GOD forbid better can bring out the Jealousy and Rage. Evelyn putting Jen on Blast for sleeping with guys caller her hoe and obvious attempt to sway public opinion. PUt Evelyn I will never forget you mess with Tami Ex Husband while they was married you remember the NO FACTOR CHICK..

  • SAKITOME

    Thanks Jen for teaching me that you can backstab your friend and get away with it by appearing classy and introverted.

    Good Tip. 

  • http://twitter.com/ravenssuperfan Yvette

    At this point I think Kesha, Royce and Jenn are the only three with good sense. Shaunie is a snake that rides the back of Evelyn and is as classless as the others. Evelyn is a thug hood rat from the gutter that thinks she is classy because she’s wearing LV. Suzie is a rat that ask you a million questions only to run back and report everything she hears and starts ALL the trouble. Kenya is a mental patient. PERIOD. Tami is the worst and a horrible example to black women and girls. I wonder about what sense I have since I continue to watch this mess and continue to allow these women to piss me off week after week. This show needs to be CANCELED today!!!!

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_LKQE4UQRBBVNOIRAL4EB2SPCWI Jen

      You have great sense.  The show is watched out of boredom when there is nothing on television, going out is becoming a chore and boring, you’ve read your favorite book and sometimes because you just don’t have shat to do!
      And I agree with you as well!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_VWNXVLNC2TGNKR52QDFV7QZEH4 RegineG

    Good luck Jen. I love your new line of lipsticks. The shape of them is awesome! Gonna have to get me some. Much success.  Be with whomever enhances your talents and ditch the baggage. Good day y’all. ;)