Up Out My Face, Boy: 6 Signs You’ve Checked Out Of Your Relationship

May 10, 2012  |  

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A wise man once said that if you take the amount of time a couple has been together and divide it by two, you’ll get the amount of time that they’ve been breaking up. A relationship never just ends the moment both parties agree to go their separate ways. Just as it takes time for a bond to be formed, it also takes time for a bond to be broken. Women are infamous for holding onto relationships well after they’ve started falling apart, even if they themselves have checked out of the relationship. Here are a few signs that you’ve done just that.

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Communication has severely slowed down or ceased

Remember the days where the sun was shining, the birds were chirping, and the flowers were blooming all because your man just called to say “I Love You”? You know the days where you couldn’t take two steps without texting him all of the significant as well as insignificant details of your day? Now that those days are long gone and you can barely recall the last time you’ve spoken to your significant other for more than five minutes (and done so without arguing), it may be time to reassess the relationship. Women are big on communication, and if you could care less about chatting it up with your man after a while, chances are you’ve checked out.

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You’re entertaining male suitors a little more than usual

There was a day when you’d shut down any man trying to get next to you, letting it be known that you are in a committed relationship and uninterested. You now find yourself laughing a tad harder at their jokes, being a bit more flirty at the bar, and even accepting a phone number or two. You also begin justifying your actions by telling yourself, “There’s nothing wrong with meeting people and making friends.” That’s right, girl. “Friends.” *Does severe side eye*

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You no longer desire to be touched by him

Someone once said, “Affection is the glue that holds relationships together.” Whether it be intimate touching or an affectionate embrace, when a touch from your man is no longer desired and the thought of being alone with him is no longer exciting, it’s clear that you’re not feeling him like you used to.

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You are no longer willing to compromise

Healthy relationships are comprised of an even balance of give and take. No one person can get everything that they want all of the time. When you are no longer willing to meet your man halfway and find yourself becoming more and more stubborn when it comes to issues that arise in your relationship, you may want to consider throwing in the towel and calling it quits.

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Admiration turns into disgust and resentment

The things you once found hot about him do nothing but turn you off and the characteristics that you once admired are now extremely annoying. When it seems as if he can do nothing right and you begin to question why you were ever into him in the first place, your feelings have obviously changed. Don’t be cruel. Just let him know what’s really going on and how you’re really feeling.

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You’re no longer willing to fight

As strange as it may sound, passion is normally what drives arguments. While constant bickering is unhealthy, some arguing is good because it shows that both parties are still emotionally invested. When you find that your guy is pouring his heart out or screaming at the the top of his lungs and you are sitting there as cool as a cucumber only offering responses such as “okay” or “whatever,” you’re just about over it. At this point, you could probably care less about getting your point across and having him see things your way. Fighting for a relationship only works when both parties are willing to do so. When you don’t care, that’s not a good thing.

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  • scott laura

    i contacted bobenewton1@yahoo.com because when i was so heartbroken and don’t know what to do with myself but after 3 days of contacting bobe newton , my lover came back to me, this is unbelievable

  • lakayla

    The fact that I clicked on this article, speaks volumes, I put myself in a very complicated relationship. Its long distance, and I don’t know if i should end things over phone or in person. I know deep down ending it in person will be so hard for me because my partner has a strong reaction to the littlest of things. The point the writer made about not caring anymore is me. I do not know how to begin and delaying this is making it worse , sigh

  • lakayla

    The fact that I clicked on this article, speaks volumes, I put myself in a very complicated relationship. Its long distance, and I don’t know if i should end things over phone or in person. I know deep down ending it in person will be so hard for me because my partner has a strong reaction to the littlest of things. The point the writer made about not caring anymore is me. I do not know how to begin and delaying this is making it worse , sigh

  • TbeeZ

    OMG! I’m going thru this! And I feel and have done all of this and still! My man even say I don’t care! I’ve checked out.

  • Ayedwards1

    Wow, this article is dead on!! I’m lmao @ the last 1!! Everytime my ex get 2 screamin n yellin @ me on the phone, I jus hang up now!! Lol, I remember the days i use 2 b screamin n yellin back!! Now i jus hang up!!

  • Breezy

    This where I am now!! #ITSOVER

    • TbeeZ

      Me too Breezy! Damn this is some true ish!

  • ItsmeNeysha!

    yup i agree with this article 100% going thru it now i just dont know how to end a four year relationship especially now that we have a two year old kid

    • guest

      I’m going through the same exact thing.

      • Mimi

        9 years marriage and three kids here and I wish i could just walk out of the house or kick him out and start new with my kids, but he is not willing to admit that he is not into me anymore. All just to make me miserable and never give up the house, etc.  

        • scott laura

          I recommend the love spell of bobenewton1 @ (yahoo) . com to anyone in need of help. Use his services, and you will have your lover back.

      • Mimi

        9 years marriage and three kids here and I wish i could just walk out of the house or kick him out and start new with my kids, but he is not willing to admit that he is not into me anymore. All just to make me miserable and never give up the house, etc.  

    • guest

      I’m going through the same exact thing.

  • Andre Dre Cotten

    6 signs of checking out is a very good read. I thought it was well put together and looking forward for  more good reads from Jazmine Rogers. Just simply loved it!!!!

  • These are also good points to look out for on the flip side. Being able to tell early on when your partner has checked out of the relationship can save you a lot of wasted time, tears, and unnecessary grief.

  • justme

    Wow after reading this I can see that now I was really on the verge of checking out of my last relationship…wish i had done it sooner instead of holding on to something that was never truly there…..humm food for thought.

  • Noni

    I have experienced this for sure… its not the best feeling