You Can Do Better: Your Standards Are Too Low If You Accept These 6 Things

May 8th, 2012 - By Julia Austin
"Woman turning away from her boyfriend"

blacklifecoaches.net

Unconstructive Criticism

Men speak harshly to each other—it’s true. They say, “You’re a dumba**” and that’s the end of that conversation. But, any smart man knows that’s not how you communicate with a woman. A man should never criticize you purely for the purpose of being malicious. If a man criticizes you harshly and constantly, ask yourself this: “Did he end it with a suggestion of how I could be better? Or how I could make my life easier if I made certain changes?” If he just says it out of malice, then you know what you’re dealing with. He wants to make you feel bad about yourself so he can have some control over you. He doesn’t want to improve you or your life.

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  • joanna

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  • Hiddenlustre

    I had a guy like this.. I hated it but I just didn’t like myself enough to be alone. but once I finally started enjoying being the single girl, his exact opposite sashayed into my life.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/RP7XWSIVF6RGOHIP7KGPNQLNQE ann

    Madamenoire what’s up with the interracial couple? You are helping to perpetuate the myth on no Black couples. President Obama and Michelle has shown the truth of Black love, long-term relationships, and marriage, but still you call feel compelled to deny brown skin women their place next to the brown skin men. Why? What’s wrong with you people? You deny your own existence and create further disrespect and marginalizing of you in society.

  • Injynqbs

    Well fantastic these 6 haven’t been an issue for me but now that I find myself dating again for a while (or what ‘feels’ like for a while) I’m not finding anything/anyone “lasting”. I am apparently missing an article. lol

  • KJ23

    I needed this, thank you.

  • Van Sertima

    I almost forgot…DO NOT call, txt, or email your significant other all times of the day. This is annoying especially if he’s in meetings all day. Your calls become a burden because his suit is vibrating while he’s at a project meeting and that’s just not professional. If you must call, call at lunch and after work. Txting maybe cute once in a while ( 1X per 2 days) but don’t txt anything that requires a response because he simply doesn’t have the time and now you’re actually making his job more difficult. Now a well timed picture of you in lingerie can work wonders. Remember quality not quantity. Email, unless it has to do with the business of the house, apt, etc; forget it. But please for the love of god keep those “honey do” emails to a bare effin minimum. Your man is not an errand boy, don’t treat him like one or there will be a problem. No one that has a decent office job has the time, luxury, or liberty to return crazy emails. Btw only kids do that “constant communication” bs.

    • Hotgirl

      U sound stupid

    • Hotgirl

      U sound stupid

  • Van Sertima

    Imo women should take a second to think about how men communicate instead of attempting to force their methods of communicating into the relationship. Just because women have the need to communicate more frequently doesn’t mean their way is the only way to communicate. I understand women don’t communicate well and men have to pick up on their women’s physical hints and nuances to figure whats wrong with a bit of detective work. Because, by the time a women expresses her concerns it’s an argument. From her point of view she’s been trying to communicate her concerns for weeks. From a his pov this is the first time he’s hearing about it…at all. So blow up time becomes the only time she communicates after the subtle hints go pretty much ignored. Imo should take inventory: Do you talk about anything else besides “the” problems? Does every problem have to be a cataclysmic problem? Were your hints that something was wrong maybe a little too subtle?

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