A Dream Deferred…Are You Running From Your Goals?

May 15, 2012 ‐ By Toya Sharee



What happens to a dream deffered? It waits patiently in the recesses of your mind, building resentment and taunting you unendingly with, “What if…”  and “Shoulda, coulda, woulda.”  If you’re lucky, your dream job and day job will be one in the same, but how do you deal when your everyday reality seems to be making your long-term goals slip farther and farther away? The following tips may provide you with inspiration and insight on how to live your dream or live with letting it go.


1.  Check the expiration date on your dream.

On any given night, you might catch me sucked into the vortex that is Youtube catching up on the latest choreography.  In fact just the other night I was rating routines made to Beyonce’s “Dance for You” (of which the original I must admit is damn hard to top). My latest obsession, Dance Moms: Miami has me revisiting adolescent dreams of being a professional hip hop dancer, Fatima Robinson-style.  But the talented tiny dancers on that show make me realize one thing more and more each episode:  You can’t just wake up at 20 years old and decide you want to be a professional dancer.  Certain dreams require cultivation and training over a span of several years.  You could treat expiration dates like some people and use them simply as a guide (after all Jay-Z released Reasonable Doubt at 27).  But some careers have a short lifespan and if you haven’t met certain marks by a certain age, your dream may no longer be within reach.  Be realistic, if you’re 30 and considering trying out for America’s Next Top Model, you may want to catwalk to a career change.

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  • I am currently at crossroads with my career and life…I’ve got the degrees but still stuck…

  • Kisses

    Ooo..that was the TRUTH! Especially the part about watching the company you keep, because when you start doing more than what people are used to, you’ll find out real quick who wants to see you succeed and who wants you to stay at the level they’re not able to leave themselves!

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  • TickyTock

    I want to print this out and put it in my notebook of Goals, but it will not allow me too. It’s a very positive read. thanks so much

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  • Ms Chu the Deejay

    Great post!

  • KC