You Want What Now? 7 Subtle Signs From Women That Men Often Miss

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May 15, 2012 ‐ By jaebi

Men don’t do so well with subtleties. They work better on cold hard facts, viewing these as the best tools to make decisions, so they often miss subtle cues, clues and signs about what women want or feel at any given time.

You put it down, but he doesn’t pick it. Not because he’s being difficult, but because you’re not being straightforward enough for a man’s rather obtuse communication skills. At times, this may make him seem distant or disinterested, when really he has no clue what you’re getting at.

Here’s a run down at the types of subtleties and messages men often miss:

 

"Sympathy Sign"

Source: singleblackmale.org

The “I need affection” signs

Women are always asking their men for emotional presence, something viewed entirely different from physical presence in her eyes. But a man’s typical response to this is “I wouldn’t be here if I didn’t care,” so he’s not even tuned in to subtle cues you try to send that are supposed to say that you need more affection.

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  • Psylocke_2001

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  • Philatg83

    Lol, most of this stuff seems obvious. A guy knows when a girl is feelin’ him.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/H6MTFYUAVAK4VUEG4MJYHJMJOU Charles

    Page number 5: “But by PLAYING ALL THOSE GAMES you’ll be screaming before he figures [it] out…”

    That’s the point. Stop playing these stupid games and just clearly and openly TALK to eachother.
    I heard it said that women like for a man to just know what they (the woman) wants. But expecting someone who’s chemical make up is completely different from yours is immature and unrealistic. Somewhere throughtout history, people adopted the notion that you shouldn’t clearly convey your thoughts and feelings to the opposite sex. Instead, they chose to leave hints, clues, or as the article states, leaving “signs.” But such only serves to keep couples always guessing what their partner or potential partner are thinking — instead of just opening up through clear communication. It’s counter productive and quite frankly, dumb. It leads to unnecessary stress, doubt, distrust, frustration, arguements, infidelity, etc. The sooner both men and women stop playing these stupid games, the sooner men and women will truly understand eachother.

    • http://profile.yahoo.com/H6MTFYUAVAK4VUEG4MJYHJMJOU Charles

      I’m speaking from experience. My last gf never wanted to talk about anything. If I asked her how her day was, she would start arguing with me, saying “WHy do you need to know!” She never wanted to talk about anything. But then she would turn around and get mad at me for ‘not knowing what she was going through’ or for ‘not knowing what she liked’. She would say I ‘should just KNOW what she was thinking and feeling without her having to tell me.’ She said that ‘we weren’t meant to be because if we were, then I’d automatically know what she was thinking and feeling all the time.’ Yeah, seems like she’s been watching too many movies, cuz that’s not realistic at all.

      • Guest

         And I’m guessing that in the history of mankind, no man ever said:

        “If you loved me you would know…”

        • http://profile.yahoo.com/H6MTFYUAVAK4VUEG4MJYHJMJOU Charles

          I’m sure guys are just as guilty of expecting women to ‘just know’ what they want or what they’re thinking. But regardless of whether a man or a woman exects such, it’s still immature and unrealistic. Why should one have to guess what another is thinking, feeling, likes, dislikes, etc? That’s just a stupid game that people play and it’s destructive. Me, I’m completely open about everything and I like to communicate my desires, feelings, thoughts, likes, dislikes, etc. That way, there will be as few misunderstandings and as few questions/doubts as possible in the relationship. And isn’t that what a relationship is supposed to be: two people spending time with eachother and GETTING TO KNOW eachother? If two people in a relationship dont communicate openly, and have to guess what their partner is thinking, there will always be problems. First step is for both men and women to give up that wrong fairy tale notion that “Mr. Right” or “Ms. Right” will automatically “just know” you perfectly.

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  • L-Boogie

    Honestly, this ish is annoying.  Can we all act like adults?  Please. 

  • L-Boogie

    Honestly, this ish is annoying.  Can we all act like adults?  Please. 

  • fetchit

    Stop spending your timw trying to figure women out. They get away with way too much by using the “we’re emotional” rationale. Men are emotional creatures to.

  • fetchit

    Stop spending your timw trying to figure women out. They get away with way too much by using the “we’re emotional” rationale. Men are emotional creatures to.

  • MrTommysmallz

    I can sum up the article with these few words:  “Men are not MIND READERS”… the sooner you understand that, the easier it will be to properly communicate with us.

    • Yeah….OK

      And neither are women… So if u see us going out of our way to make a point such as showing interest can u step up and say yes or no so we can move the hell on already!!! Sheesh…. All the back and forth is pointless. Say what u mean for both parties involved.

      • FStubbs

         Unless you come right out and say you have interest, who can know? One woman’s “I’m interested” hints are another woman’s “Huh?! I’m just being friendly” mannerisms.

        • Guest

          You don’t even have to switch to a different woman. One woman can exhibit the exact same behavior outwardly but in her mind is expressing different intents. So yes, men need to be mind readers.

    • Yeah….OK

      And neither are women… So if u see us going out of our way to make a point such as showing interest can u step up and say yes or no so we can move the hell on already!!! Sheesh…. All the back and forth is pointless. Say what u mean for both parties involved.

    • Guest

      No kidding!

      And I like how the author writes seven pages describing the obtuse communication skills of women after accusing men of having “rather obtuse communication skills” on page 1. LOL

    • Miss Anonymous

      Hey mrtommysmallz I can do one better than that and I will be using one of your words: COMMUNICATION. *with sarcasm* Wait so I should tell him and talk to him instead of sending smoke signals, deep sighs and eye rolls to get him to do something and figure out what I mean? Wow who would have thought that actually speaking would do good instead of thinking people are mind readers.

  • MrTommysmallz

    I can sum up the article with these few words:  “Men are not MIND READERS”… the sooner you understand that, the easier it will be to properly communicate with us.