My Man Wants it All the Time…What Do I Do?

May 2, 2012  |  


The saying goes “Fake it till you make it,” but that shouldn’t apply in the bedroom. If you’re not in the mood to get down, but your husband always is, it can create serious tension—and not the good kind—in your relationship.

In this video, Psychologist, Sex Therapist and YourTango Expert Dr. Megan Fleming answers the question: I feel like my husband badgers me for sex all the time. Is it better to give in and fake it, or be honest and wait till I have that luvin’ feeling again?

As Dr. Fleming points out, it sounds as if there are only two options here, but really, there are plenty of ways to solve this issue. She suggests making time in your schedule to turn yourself on, whether that requires thinking about “fantasies, remembering past sexual experiences, anticipating pleasure and how good that feels,” or something else. This way, you’ll be primed and ready for your husband’s constant urges.

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  • Negress

    Take the kids to grandma’s for the weekend. High tail it to a weekend get away. Give it to him every hour on the hour. He’ll be hiding after a few takes. True story. Original advice given by a Christian counselor to a tired wife…

  • Ladies this is 90% of why men cheat. After marriage woman try to use sex as a weapon. You can’t do that do a dude who is use to getting it when he wants it. I don’t care how much I love you, if I can’t get it when I want it then we have a problem.

  • Mystique

    Give it to him if you want to keep him.  I mean………

  • Coco Black

    If my man wants it…he gets it!! Denying him will mean he may just seek it elsewhere. Plus, I wouldn’t want to deny him anyway.

  • thomasclemons5

    If the married woman at home is not satisfying her man at home, then you only invite the other woman on the side to provide his sexual needs.

  • Honeybee30

    Are you kidding me? That’s a great thing.Who is the lucky girl? My man is out there in Afghanistan and will be coming home soon. When he comes home, he knows he is going to get it at home. I miss him. There is no way that I am not turning down sex or making love to him. He has already told me he wants it . He is going to get it from me.

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  • IllyPhilly

    You give it to him until y’all get dehydrated then make some beef bologna sanwiches and watch Martin reruns. “Shut yo’ punk a$$ up!” LOL

  • Herm Cain

    This is why that chick on the side exist he may love her but if she can’t fulfill his needs he’s entitled to other p***y

    • Mls2698

      Too bad herpes doesn’t stay ” on the side.”

    • Zan


      Thus sayeth the man who apparently thinks with his d***.

  • Tarsha260

    what is the “real” problem, just tell the truth

  • Ms_Mara

    Sorry but I can’t relate. I WISH I could meet a man like that. lol

  • Lyndon

    Was talking about this with a friend today. Why do women get stingy when we live with or marry? We get it whenever we want when we live separate. Strange. Or maybe it’s strategy

    • Mls2698

      Its the latter. Also, maybe it isn’t that great when its there all the time. * blank stare *

    • all curls

      maybe men don’t try as hard when we live together.  when we lived separate we dated more, were romanced more, there was more of an effort made throughout the day to get/keep us in the mood so that when we did come together it was on and popping.  now that we live together you think all you need to do is tap me on the shoulder…ijs

      • Lyndon

        I feel you completely. You can’t deny that a part of “your” willingness to give it up comes from a submerged desrie to secure a permanent-to-semi permanent spot in his life, and once you have it you don’t feel as obligated.

        So in summation (lol), we’re both guilty of taking our feet off the gas.