Don’t Play With Me: 6 Things You Don’t Joke About With Black Women

May 2nd, 2012 - By Veronica Wells

Source: blackwomenfinances.blogspot.com

Our Money

Donna Summer never lied when she said, “She works hard for the money, so you better not screw with it.”  Alright, so she didn’t quite say that. But I’m sure we share the same sentiment. After we’ve spent a majority of our days away from our kids and loved ones, slaving away for the man, the very last thing you want to do is either try to stop my hustle, or misuse the money I’ve entrusted you with. There have been many a relationship, whether romantic, familial or platonic, that have been completely shattered because of a monetary issue. Don’t do it.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/willie.jenkins.798 Willie Jenkins

    I noticed “our fathers” isn’t on the list. That’s what you get when you just have a baby mama instead of decent parents.

  • http://www.facebook.com/david.merced.92 David Merced

    What a load of b.s.. These things will apply to anyone male or female. Instead of weak attempts to set black women apart from the rest of humanity, why not focus on what we all share. Garbage like this only creates a sense of separation and a further divisions within the human community.

  • Hymie

    I hear you, being Jewish I have to have a thick skin, black people could never put up with the abuse I face everyday

  • RacismSux

    This whole thing is dumb, why can you have “black” schools but not “white” schools?.

  • RightIsRightWrongIsWrong

    This whole article is just stupid. I did not bother going through the the whole list but it is germaine to all. Why must we always cater to blacks, why must black people allways be “hooked up”. You can call me what you want but until there is a level playing ground you don’t have the right. One case in point, why is Black Beauty pagements legal and white not, explain that to me.

    • #SWERVE!

      This website is made for black women based on the point of view of a BLACK woman. No one said you had to cater to black women or the black community period! We get “hooked up” as you put it, because we provide for ourselves and deserve to hook ourselves up every once in a while, just like a white person. Maybe black paegents are legal because believe it or not, no mother wants their child to be cheated out of a contest because it was rigged. I dont care what you say, but that is known to happen when white children are involved in anything! Now instead of posting snode co

      • #SWERVE!

        Now instead of posting snide comments on a website that has nothing to do with you, make your own. Jealousy never was an attractive trait, dear. :)

  • JW

    It’s an interesting list. It appears that you are from a matriarchal family. I am from a patriarchal family and some of the things mentioned are stereotype more than anything. I agree that we should be sensitive to the black woman’s plight, but our beautiful black women tend to cover up their beauty with heavy makeup weave, fake nails, eyelashes, etc. I wish they wore more afros! A natural look! Get back to the the roots of who we once were. Look at the images of black people from the past. They were lean and took care of themselves. Nowadays most of our women are overweight and wear clothing that reveals what their man should be finding out behind closed doors. It’s not cool to wear a see thru dress with a thong to work! I’m just saying that’s all. As a man, it looks good (from a sexual standpoint), but she aint goin home to mom with me! No way! Since most women have to work, they really don’t have time to cook and would rather eat out. Believe or not, that is hurting our people because the best food you can eat it is the food you cook at home. Lower sodium etc. Brings the household together too! Keeps money in your pocket as well. However today’s woman makes it imperative that she goes out to eat the most expensive food on the menu. And it isn’t even part of your normal diet. I think black women are the most strongest out of any group of women on the planet because of what they have to deal with before they even step out the door! I applaud many but shake my head at quite a few. Anyway keep doin whatcha doin! Peace and Love.

    • Ashley

      Heavy make up and weaves were first worn by White women. And you must remember that there was a time (not too long ago) where Black women were taunted for our natural kinky hair and dark skin. The only way or us to thrive in society and make money was if we conformed to the majority. Of course now the “natural hair” concept is making it’s way back in the Black community, but there are still many Black women who prefer the straighter and longer hair. I, myself, am guilty of perming/relaxing my hair and getting extensions/weave sewn in and I also wear makeup (although my hair and makeup always looks natural).

      I do agree with your point that it is a shame our women are degrading themselves by flaunting way too much skin for the sake of finding a man, but we are not the only race that does this. I find some of your accusations on women in the Black community somewhat true, but at the same time, it feels as if you are also agreeing with the stereotypes that majority of Black women look, act and dress like this. Maybe the fact I am a Black young woman has caused me to become somewhat sensitive to your comments. The last part of your comment deserves some applause though. My mom was a single mother who worked an 8-5 office job and by the time we got home it was well past 6 pm (thanks to Houston rush hour traffic) and on the days we had to go to church for Bible study, choir rehearsal, theater rehearsal, etc it would be almost 9-10 pm, so my mom found it easier to just pick up a hamburger or some Chinese food on her way from work so we could have a quick meal. It wasn’t healthy, but it was all she could do so we would not go on an empty stomach. Being a mother in general is hard, being a single mother is harder (especially with 4 kids), but being a Black single mother (or Hispanic, Asian, Indian, African…etc) is one of the hardest jobs ever that deserves praises beyond….(my dad as in our lives, but my mom had custody….wanted to clear that up bore people accused my daddy of being another stereotypical dead beat black father.)

  • skrateuptroofhomez

    Why isn’t the stink of the puss listed?

  • BigUpsForMyJiggazOnWelfare

    1) never axe them if they man has ajob 2) never axe dem if they man is around da home 3) never axe dem why dey be cashin welfare checks under 5 different names 4) never axe dem if dey know their dad 5) never axe dem if they like policemen and 6 never axe them to speak in a normal tone at da movies

    • yup

      Dont talk like a moron and they probably wouldnt ASK these questions.

  • mamanas

    I think this list could be universal. I just hope it wasn’t rank according to importance. My husband and children are two, however I have learned to put me as number 1. Because if I don’t take care of me….everything else suffers. This includes lving a healthy lifestyle and doing what I need to do to stay healthy spiritually, mentally and physically. Also, education ranks in the top 5.

  • john

    i dont understand why this is about black women when it applies to almost all women

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  • USAFree

    I see no value in the list or the article. How does this article/list help Black women?

  • Kashbmaryd

    Seems to me that this list is universal. I mean money? C’mon. And hair (though, admittedly, black folks have special issues in this area) and kids are really across the board. These things are not necessarily exclusive to the black race (unless you talk about afro-centric hairstyles and our history of slavery among other historical facts).

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