Take a Load Off: 6 Reasons to Drop the Grudge

May 3rd, 2012 - By Kendra Koger

inamericablog.cnn.com

You’re not perfect either

During the rant that you’re giving to the poor sucker who decided to listen to you about how so-in-so hurt you, why you’re cool on her/him, and why you don’t mess with them anymore,  there’s a possibility that someone else could be giving that same rundown on you.  Now, I KNOW you’re perfect, we all are, but sometimes even us perfect people make mistakes, and we hurt others.

Not saying that you should forgive and be best friends with the person who hurt you (you think I’m friends with that douche who hurt me when I was in a relationship with him?), but remembering that you’ve hurt others is a way to help keep your anger and stress in check, because…

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  • NSimonefan

    I have a neutral viewpoint of this article.  I’m not perfect, and if I feel I may have hurt someone’s feelings or put my foot in my mouth, I won’t hesitate to go to that person and apologize.  However, I am known by good and bad people alike as being a nice person who doesn’t bother anyone, someone with a good heart, someone who doesn’t pick on people or bully them.  With that said, there have been some people who have offended me in the past, and whether or not they have apologized to me, I have forgiven them, let bygones be bygones.  After doing this, some of these same people have only repeated the same behaviors towards me, if not worse.  What I have concluded is to be on guard when dealing with people, which I am now.  I don’t believe in holding anger and grudges.  My stance is for people who have offended me to keep their distance, don’t even think of fellowshipping (associating with me), and just to leave me the hell alone.      

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Que-Stevenson/1204180733 Que Stevenson

    Not that I hadn’t heard it before, but for months I drove by a church sign that read “Letting someone Anger you gives them control of you”. Just seeing that helped me stay focus on what I wanted out of life, and being the one that controlled it (outside of God of course)

  • StuckInDaMatrix

    Not healthy to hold onto grudges!  They continuously “eat” and knaw at you until you become so bitter and give yourself a heart attack like Tammi from BBW. 

  • http://g00.me/7k << Work at home, $60/h, link

     Never confuse movement with action.

  • Shelshel

    Thank you Kendra, i really been stressing out lately about my old friends and “what” they did to me. Its been two years almost and I still have negative feelings towards them. But i’m moving on because honestly i hate thinking about it and rather focus on more potential issues. I’m not a grude holder but this was my worst EVER! So i’m going to take all your advice because I want kids and a great memory to go with a good immune system ;)

  • http://twitter.com/sabadaga SANDRA

    great article and great advice.