Hip to the Game: Red Flags We Overlook In Our 20′s And Look Out For In Our 30′s

May 7th, 2012 - By Julia Austin
"Young couple holding hands"

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No PDA

With guys in their early twenties, you expect them to not be totally comfortable being lovey-dovey yet. They’re still trying to prove they’re a “man.” But, later, if a man you’re dating refuses to hold your hand in public, you know it’s not really a good thing. He might have trouble being affectionate and caring in general or he cares too much about what other people think. Essentially, all things that would make a relationship with him difficult.

 

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  • Tsk

    All of this is mainly common sense and I, as well as many other commentors, found these things out in our early twenties. But the one about being in your thirties and hating your job is ridiculous, someone could have a dream job that is scarce or doesn’t support a family so they could work another one to pay the bills especially in this economy not everyone can can affordd to do what they want unfortunately.

  • Guest

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    No PDA”

    This is really bad advice. My husband comes from a culture where PDA is not really done. When we first met, he was extremely comfortable with it. Even though I’m affectionate, I compromised and let him be comfortable. Over the years, he has relaxed a little bit and now shows more PDA. 

  • L-Boogie

    Stay single.

    • http://www.facebook.com/KeanuAndCalebz.mom Keta Mac

      Agreed!

  • Sw1242

    OMG… This whole article total hit home and i’m 26. just found out via fb my ex is engaged and was leading a double life with me… so please,please take heed to the signs!!! that little voice and signs will never lead you astray! you live and you learn!

  • Jerseryvixen

    Hmm the real real real talk is
    Entrepreneur =broke and lazy and looking for a way to not GET A JOB. They give the REAL entrepreneurs who planned properly and have a legitimate business a bad name!
    Drinks too much = alcoholics, many “catches” out here are functional alcoholics, you dont want that on your back ladies…

  • RenJennM

    By 22, I’ve learned most of this. Doesn’t take 4 or 5 times and a whole decade to get it.

    • mochaaa

      same here. 

  • http://kimster-thatswhatshesaid.blogspot.com/ Kimster

    At a quarter of a century (25) I’ve learned these things and more, and I’m healthy and happy while single because I’m not settling for these things or anything less. I would like to add:

    #7- The textaholic: If you’re getting sporadic, inconsistent, bland messages that take him/her hours to send, drop them like a hot potato. (Especially if you let them know you’re not big on texting.) People can be texting you while carrying on a whole other life with someone else. And, honestly, if someone’s feeling you, shouldn’t s/he rather talk on the phone or spend time in person with you?

    • Kisses

      Im so tired of men who think dating thru text is acceptable! I even had one guy argue with me–THROUGH TEXT–why I should be HAPPY that he chose to text me constantly, because it shows hes trying to get to know me for what’s on the inside…this is after I expressed to him that I wasn’t going out with him until he picked up the phone and called! He made it so difficult when all he had to do is CALL! I stopped responding because I figured either he was hiding something or just ridiculously stubborn! He can defend the virtues of text with the next one!

      • http://kimster-thatswhatshesaid.blogspot.com/ Kimster

        I completely agree! It’s like an epidemic. Good for you! The last guy I was with come talking about “is calling the only option?” Uh. No. Apparently my only option is to tell you to kick rocks. Dating through text is suspect and often disrespectful.

  • http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=ntt_athr_dp_sr_1?_encoding=UTF8&search-alias=digital-text&field-author=Peaches%20The%20Writer PeachesTheWriter

    This is a great article. I know women who usually cringe at the idea of a man who says he’s starting his own business, like, “I hope you are working on your own business while you are at your REAL job.”

  • Mls2698

    Women can’t wait until their thirties to become smart. And entrepreneur always means not having a steady job because the average business takes three to five years to do well. Wait until your forties……..it will all change again.