“Ask A Black Man” Episode 3: The SEX Episode [EXTENDED CUT]

April 11th, 2012 - By Madame Noire

Here is the extended cut of Episode 3 from Ask A Black Man, just like we promised! In this version, you can expect to see more questions asked, as well as more discussion between our panelists. This is The Sex Episode, so expect the discussion to be a little racy.

As always, please be respectful of each other and the men in the comments. Thanks in advance!

 

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  • Ms Understood

    First, let me say that I thoroughly enjoy this series! Wednesdays just don’t come soon enough! There are so many different personalities and viewpoints – a little something for everyone. While some of the guests prove to be single for VERY obvious reasons (I won’t name any names LoL), most of the men are handsome, educated, humorous, and (seemingly) honest individuals….makes you wonder WHY/HOW they’re ever single in this estrogen filled abyss.

    Now, in reading the comments I had to interject. Marco…yes Marco…well his style is definitely different but individuality IS what makes life interesting (right?). I’d be bored out of my mind if everyone was a carbon copy of the next so I think we should cut him some slack. Consider Prince, Eric Benet, Dennis Rodman, and Lenny Kravitz…women fall head over heels for them so what’s the difference. We (women) switch up our make-up, jewelry, hair (length/texture/color), breast size and even our physique (courtesy of spanks LoL) just as often as we please. Men don’t have nearly as many options. With that being said, I commend Marco on his swag. Fresh shave, hair cut & new threads are all good but doesn’t that get boring after a while?? ijs…he took all the ‘jokes’ with a grain of salt b/c he knows he is FINE!!! #ThatisAll

    • Anon

      You just named a bunch of suspects and addicts, sexual and otherwise. To each their own though, and I do love prince artistically….

      • BermudaBound

        LOL I concur…but notice I didn’t say that “I” like any of them. They were just the first eccentric guys that came to mind. Whether they’re addicts, DL brothas, or otherwise…you have to admit they all have many female admirers. 

        (SN: Excuse the name change. Still trying to figure this site out…)

    • MarcoG

        Damn, damn!  I really appreciate your words Ms. Understood.  I think you’ve got a good grasp on what I try to embody.  I’m of mixed decent so I may be influenced by a lot of things that some people may not encounter on a regular basis. 
        
         With that being said,  I’m confident in myself and everything I attempt to do, and I can always laugh at myself so I enjoy when someone has something funny to say.  Let’s laugh!  Now to those heads that just want to hate for hating sake I would’nt advise that either I’m a 6’2′ 220lb “Thundercat”…let’s keep it  pure fun and jokes.  lol…
        
         I do however refuse to do something just because society says that’s how it should be.  I question everything, and I enjoy doing what makes me and the people around me happy.  
        
         As far as being single…well I recently got out of a relationship with a girl that I cared about strongly and now I’m taking it easy, but grinding hard with my business and career endeavors…but thank you so much for having my back Ms. Understood ;)  

      • http://lizburr.com Liz

        <3

      • BermudaBound

        I can relate…tis life. Matters of the heart = tricky business. And you’re very welcome! I love your positive attitude (despite the haters) so keep it up. And pleeeease make sure you’re featured on another episode ;) *serious face* Good luck on your new journey in this game called life.

        (Again, sorry for the confusing name change)

        *Ms Understood*

  • http://rhondamae.wordpress.com/ RhondaMae

    I’m convinced that these are the opinions of men in NY (or other parts of the east coast). They also seem like a pretty intelligent selection of guys, so that eliminates opinions of the less-educated (right?). I would be very curious to hear the answers to these questions from guys in other parts of the USA…especially ATL, LA, and the Chi.

    Keep these engines going, folks! I’m lovin it lol. Oh and btw–yes, I know y’all fake it. I’ve learned a lot from my big bro over the years.

    XOXO

  • LUVBNBLK

    I can understand some of Lester’s points. I’m not a first date sex kind of dude, I’ve done it and none of those episodes lead to anything worth really revisiting. I like to let things simmer before I indulge…but that’s just me. To each they’re own.

  • L-Boogie

    This is funny and informative!

  • amthomp7

    I am not sure if I agree with the questioning in this segment. They seem kind of out-dated, like questions that you always hear. I have some questions about sex, coming from a black woman to a man, that were not represented :/

    • http://lizburr.com Liz

      Like what, for example?

      • amthomp7

        Like, lettin the freak out. How intimidating is kinky sex or anal sex? Or feelings towards women being aggressive when it comes to sex. Or, true, friends with benefits? What are their sexual experiences with BLACK women? My black male friends always tell me black women aren’t this in bed, they aren’t. Personally, I would like to know do other men feel the same, as in BLACK women are more reserved? I think I just expected an episode titled “sex” would be focused on the act, more. 

        • Liyah W

          Also, what is bad sex?? Lol No, really. How can a woman be bad at sex?

          • rampagejackson

            Easy. If she just lay there, don’t like to throw it back, can’t take d*** real well and other things but I don’t have enough time to list everything.

            • LUVBNBLK

              Co-signed!!!!

        • Candacey Doris

          Definitely agree! I have questions about things that are actually done in bed. Can we have a Sex part 2?

        • http://lizburr.com Liz

          Good to know your thoughts thanks for sharing. There are reasons why we didn’t or can’t ask those questions, but I hear you :) If I have an oppty to explore this topic again with the series I will keep these in mind :)  

  • YoungCosby

    I wish I had gotten picked, but dah well, I tried.

    • http://lizburr.com Liz

      ? Did you audition at the casting call?

      • YoungCosby

        Yes I did.

        • http://lizburr.com Liz

          Don’t remember you at the casting. 

          • YoungCosby

             Yeah I was there, I did the casting interview on 12/22 at 5:00. I still have the emails…

  • Kellyy

    Why is it we as women are constantly looking for answers from men regarding what they want and what they think? Where’s the miniseries “Ask a Black Woman?

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=2018648 Amaris White

      Probably because black women tell people what we think anyway without anyone asking..Just sayin’

    • RenJennM

      As candid and as “tell-it-like-it-is” as Black women are, do we really need a show saying what we think and feel? Like, really?

  • LadySpartan91

    Poor Lester, lol….The rest of the panel keep giving him side eyes, lmbo.

  • Reeda

    This was HILARIOUS! I laughed the entire episode. Very well done cast and crew! By far my favorite episode of the series. 

    • MarcoG

      Thank You Reeda!

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=2018648 Amaris White

        You have the best teeth. Is that natural or do you get them whitened? I’m sorry, I know that’s sort of a personal question.

        • MarcoG

          Lol…Thanks a lot  Amaris.  Nah I don’t, Just brush well i guess. 

    • Kéla

      This was definitely one of the crew favorites.  Wait till you see next week. 
      Thanks for watching 

  • http://twitter.com/Jazzyjezzie Jessiree Jenkins

    Those side eyes that Panama is throwing at Lester are slaying me! This episode has me weak. I’m only watching the extended cuts from now on.

    • http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson

      there were some significantly side-eye worthy statements being made.

      • http://twitter.com/Jazzyjezzie Jessiree Jenkins

        There definitely were! I could see that Lester was causing you all some strife with those confusing answers. He seems like a good dude but I was thrown off by some the responses he was giving.

        • Sarah

          I am going to have to support Lester now. It wasn’t so much that his responses were confusing to the other men on the panel, they were just not realistic approaches for them.  I know a few men who are virgins, who can handle a woman who had a blemish on her sexual health history, and also who like just cuddle.  His answers were very real and understandable, in fact, upstanding.   

    • http://www.facebook.com/msshay247 MsShay Knight

      me too. lol

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  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JAI4SRENU2A5WKRTELXXYJPDSI Kayla

    What’s going on with dude hair that guy in the plaid shirt……  he got half dreads half low cut… wtf, was he undecided at the barber…

    • http://observationsfromachocolategirl.blogspot.com/ Jessiree

      HA! I was thinking “he’s really attractive even with the nose ring, but he has two whole hairstyles.”

      • ladyspartan91

        I wasn’t feeling the nose ring, dude this aint the 90′s and you ain’t Tupac….but I will say he does carry his unusual style very well. His good looks and smile make me want to like his style.

        • MarcoG

          Lol…the nose ring is kind of a cultural thing for me.  I’m actually half Indian, but I appreciate you comments, and hope I get you to like my steez a little more.  ;)

          • FromUR2UB

            Really? Your right or left half?

            (haha!)  Sorry.

            • MarcoG

              I’m Indian above the belt and black below the belt…  :P

      • MarcoG

        Thank you Jessiree…and It’s really like a style and a half.  ;)

        • http://twitter.com/Jazzyjezzie Jessiree Jenkins

          You’re welcome. I stand corrected, style.5  lol.  Not everyone can pull off that look and you do.

      • MarcoG

        Also my locs are braided in the front, but I don’t think people can tell that.

    • LadySpartan91

      Girllll, I said the same thing on Madame Noire’s facebook page. I was like was he undecided on what style to pick, so he just went with both.

    • MarcoG

      Lol…I like your joke Kayla…but nah it’s just my style, and I how I started my dreads.  Appreciate the joke. 

  • Sharilynne365

    This has been a very interesting series. These guys come across as honest. Sometimes it’s hard to hear some of the things that they’re saying, though. This series reminds me of another show called ”The top twelve reasons why so many good black men are still single”. That one was pretty raw too. Here’s the link to that show:

    http://victoryunlimitedshow.com/general/mission-21-objective-the-top-twelve-reasons-why-so-many-good-black-men-are-still-single/ 

    There’s been a lot of heated discussions about both these shows. What I like about the “Ask a black man” series and this other show is that we get a chance to hear things from our brothas that a lot of us don’t want to hear but we NEED to hear. Keep speaking the truth to us Madamnoire! 

  • sholla21

    lol. “Smooth criminal walking away from the crime scene.” Love it.
    I enjoyed this episode and especially Marco and Steve. Panama is funny. 
    Keep up the good work!

    • http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson

      thanks.

      • sholla21

         And thank you for your candor :)

    • http://lizburr.com Liz

      Glad you liked!!!

    • MzMaryPie2U

      Yes he was Hilarious and those side eyes he kept giving, still shots of those would be even funnier

      • http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson

         thats what im saying

  • pjscorpio

    These guys had me cracking up!

  • FemaleGuest

    Ridiculous…

  • Ms_Mara

    “Men cheat because the opportunity presents itself and they don’t know how to say no.” Don’t know how to say no, or they just don’t want to say no?

    • http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson

      don’t know how to say no as in they just don’t say no.

      • Fiona

        Panama, that was one of the realist statements I have ever heard.  Real Talk.

        • http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson

           sometimes it just is what it is.

          • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=2018648 Amaris White

            I have five brothers, and watching this panel took me back to when I used to eavesdrop on their conversations! Good job Y’all!

  • Blacklily

    is that lestor’s real smile??? lmfao

    • Guest

      CTFU

    • Guest

      (,-__-,) I DIED when he was introduced! I actually ran it back just to laugh again!

      • http://lizburr.com Liz

        SMH

    • http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson

      cold blooded.

    • http://twitter.com/icantbefamous LC

      Not gonna lie, no matter how many times you rewind it back, it’s the same level of funny lol…

    • Jt

      And Lester *SMILE* lmfao

    • RenJennM

      I thought it was just me! LMAO! Sorry Lester!

    • JND

      I didn’t even notice the smile ’til I read this comment and now I am crying…literally CRYING with laughter.  He’s channeling his inner Cheshire cat!

      • ayalee

        I didn’t notice his smile till the comments either and i can’t stop laughing till i’m chocking

    • Miss Boss

      BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHAHHAHA! Literally, dead.

  • FromUR2UB

    C’monnnn!  How does a man SUCCESSFULLY fake it? 

    Feel sorry for the woman who was performing fartlatio.  Yikes! 

    Assuming they’ll know how many partners a woman has had only if she tells them, I would like to have known how they’d respond if she answered, “Nunya.” 

    • http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson

      i’m not sure we should be divulging how we can fake it. but trust me, it happens.

    • MarcoG

      We were talking about faking it when it came to intercourse not fellatio.

      • FromUR2UB

        Umm…those were two different thoughts.  That’s why I put them on separate lines.

        Were you talking about faking the fart?

    • LUVBNBLK

      As a man who faked it a couple of times, it easiest when wearing a condom. All you have to do is flex you shaft a couple of times rapidly, added generic moan options 3-14, add an LL Cool J lip bite/lick and immediately go to the bathroom and act like you cleaned up and bring her a wash cloth that has been run under warm/hot water. She’ll be touch by your considerate wash cloth guesture and not even question your climax.

      • FromUR2UB

        Wow!  I didn’t realize there was a whole “science” to it!  Carry on, then.

        • LUVBNBLK

          LOL, no science, sometime you just want to be done with it and are good at thinking quick on your toes! It was one of my few one-night stands and I guess we both thought we had something to prove.

    • MarcoG

      We were speaking in regards to faking it during intercourse not fellatio. 

      • Tynesha Craven

        I wished she asked you guys what the definition of bad sex is/was? You said “the girl” everything was good with her BUT the sex, what was bad about it?

        • MarcoG

          Honestly that particular situation her vaginal odor turned me super off!  It wasn’t like she smelled bad, her scent just wasn’t agreeing with my nose!  Sometimes were better than others, but the times where it was turning me completely off I had to fake it just so it would be over.  

          • http://www.facebook.com/msshay247 MsShay Knight

            Wow

  • LouisianaLickableLips

    This was definitely more candid than the “cut” version. I do believe their answers were more truthful in this version

    • http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson

      Glad to hear that. It’s better than being thought of as full of sh*t.

      • LouisianaLickableLips

        I never thought ya’ll were fos. I just figured yall were being guarded 2 protect ur livelihood (jobs, r-ships, etc).

    • MeetYourInterracialLove

      As a man who faked it a couple of times, it easiest when wearing a condom. All you have to do is flex you shaft a couple of times rapidly, added generic moan options 3-14, add an LL Cool J lip bite/lick and immediately go to the bathroom and act like you cleaned up and bring her a wash cloth that has been run under warm/hot water. She’ll be touch by your considerate wash cloth guesture and not even question your climax.

      • LouisianaLickableLips

        Omgeee! U got tht down. Dead at LL Cool J lip lick. But I gotta be honest, if a guy faked on me, my feelings wud b hurt.

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