The Pros And Cons Of Dating A Male Virgin

April 17, 2012  |  


Does it matter to a woman if the man she is dating is a virgin? Do women prefer men with some sexual experience, or are they willing to teach inexperienced men about sex?

These questions can be of concern for a number of men who are trying to regain, sustain, or maintain a life of purity. There is a concern because some women may view men who are virgins or practicing abstinence in a less than masculine light because men are expected to be sexually aggressive. The women may view them as men who are afraid of physical intimacy, impotent, homosexual, or men who have something to hide. Remember all the buzz and suspicions about brothers on the down-low?

With the possibility of these thoughts lingering in a woman’s mind, a man’s ego and confidence may suffer. On the other hand, there are many women who may not be alarmed about dating men who are virgins or practicing abstinence. These women may view men who are virgins or abstinent as men who are sexually responsible, disciplined, and have established standards that are set apart from societies sexual standards for men. In these cases, a man’s ego and confidence is reassured. In a brief case study, a number of women were asked to list the pros and cons of dating men who are virgins and men who are abstaining. The results on the following pages gave many pause as to what how important or unimportant sex was in a relationship.

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  • Ikkyu

    So women can judge men for being sexually inexperienced but men can’t judge women for being sexually experienced. Also, you want men to be sexually aggressive. Okay.

  • Michael Frank Sciacchitano

    Hire a male virgin a hot escort….Problem Solved!!!

  • Moulay El Sultane

    I am a complete virgin, male, attractice, and I prefer a virgin girl.

    But I feel no superiority towards those who fornicate regularly.

  • Lisa Marie Woodrich

    I did and I did not like the title of being someone’s ‘ first’ it made me feel weird that I was all they knew, it presented problems sexually that led to us breaking up. I did not feel ‘ honored’ that I was his first I felt weird. I tried not to but I did, and he developed a phobia sexually cause he did not gain experience to know what was good or bad to a woman. No matter how many times I tried assuring him he did not believe me nor would the feelings of being inadequate go away cause he had nothing to compare to. I personally would not recommend dating a virgin. It may work out but in my experience it did not.

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  • CaliGirlED

    Being with a virgin would be very interesting! (Do they exist over the age of 35?)

    Hoping that there are some abstinent males in Houston, or at least some willing to try it.

    • FStubbs

       Try nerds. Lots of nerdy virgins.

      • Guest

        I always think of nerds as pervs, just like dirty old men, they think about it more than practice it.

    • steve

      I am 37 and unfortunately a virgin but live in Alaska. Wish someone like you lived up here. The cold weather doesn’t attract too many single women just married ones moving up here with their husbands.

      • Gwen

        That is a fortunate thing NOT unfortunate at all. GOOD FOR YOU!

  • Married A Virgin

    My husband was a virgin when we got married. Any fear I had turned out to be irrational. Sex with him is the best I’ve ever had. 

  • LiiSH

    I like sex as much as the next person (or more) but I feel like too much emphasis is placed on it. Sex is something you can get better at over time long as everyone is open to trying new things. Believe me it is one kind of schooling where the homework is greatly appreciated.

  • Tinerve

    What about a woman who is a virgin or practicing abstinence….I am a virgin and I am saving myself for my husband….where’s the post for that?????

    • FStubbs

      You don’t exist. You’ve given it up at least once. (or you’re a re-virgin or whatever the term is now). And male virgins are only virgins because they’re usually nerds and thus perpetually in the friend zone.

      (so says conventional wisdom)

      • Is It 5:00 Yet?

        Yes we do.

    • V-card

      I am a female virgin as well & I am tired of all the virgin stereotypes… but they did do an interesting virgin article about females about a month or so ago… you should check it out .. its on stereotypes about virgins

  • sweettea

    I couldnt. Sexual chemistry is very important to me and I don’t like surprises

  • somebodynottellintruth

    show me a man who is s*xually experienced AND disciplined and i will show you a unicorn.

    • F3ral Anarchy

       they are out there and are actually a dime a dozen.  what folks dont take into account are those who have left bad marriages/relationships and have chosen not to be sexually active anymore, those who have taken up religion and see it as part of their “change”, those who have taken on lifestyle changes and see it as part of their bigger picture ie yoga with a vegan diet and no more sex.  just because YOU havent seen them doesnt mean they dont exist.