Madame On The Street: Are You Open To Dating Other Races?

April 10th, 2012 - By MN Editor

Interracial dating may be deemed as a touchy subject by many people, but in this installment of Madame On The Street, we discovered it’s no big deal for many New Yorkers. Check out what they had to say about their dating choices.

 

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  • Joachim Roe

    It’s beginning to appear that Blacks and only Blacks are a little obsessed with this subject. No one else seems to care and do not put this in their media !?

  • Kimi

    To Madame Noire:

    There is no such thing as “races” and there is only ONE race (the human race).

    Maybe the question should have been phrased as “how do you feel about dating outside of your culture?”

    In order to stop other cultures from discriminating this is probably a nice way to start by teaching everyone that there is no such thing as race when it concerns people from a certain background/culture…

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  • Naffy70

    Did that negro say “zeitgeist” in a regular sentence?  LOL omg #doingtoomuch.

    • F3ral Anarchy

       ummmm…whats wrong with using big words?

  • maggie

    At this rate of thinking, there won’t be anymore people calling themselves black.  So why get mad when people don’t want to celebrate BLACK holidays or BLACK figures in history? . . The kumbayaah feeling of ignoring race does not do black people any justice.  Plus, we are minimizing ourselves to skin color when in fact our skin color has very strong ties to culture.  You can go to any country with a lot of black people and see some of the same mannerisms, food, habits, beliefs . . .But in the name of ‘unity’ it will have to be blurred or changed to appease ‘others’.  Be careful what you ask for.

  • Dreama41

    I’m all for interracial dating. I won’t hate on a WW dating a  BM as long as WW don’t get an attitude with me dating WM. I won’t tolerate the hypocrisy. 

  • http://twitter.com/AdrienneInLove Age

    Love is, amazing. And non - discriminant.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Tiffany-Brisco/100000063922589 Tiffany Brisco

    Don’t have a problem with it at all. People can date whoever they want to date. We are not limited to one race. We all muts and we are all mixed together so it really doesn’t matter. God created one race: the human race, humans created racism 

  • Heavy

    My husband is white from Europe.  We have a great relationship.  I recommend dating outside of your race. 

  • MixedUpInVegas

    Well, why not?  If black men don’t ask you out, but other races do, are you supposed to turn them down and enter a convent?  What could be more personal than who you date?  Consequently, it is no one’s business but your own.

  • Angelb_12

    I would try it if presents, and all goes well. yes i would

  • Anisa

    Interracial dating is disgusting. 

    • liveLoveLaugh

       apparently your missing out and there is nothing wrong w/dating other people within the Human  Race!! haha wow

  • TDR25_Forever

    I could be very wrong about this, but from my perspective, I didn’t think that Black men cared too much about if Black women dated outside their ethnicity. Then again, everyone ISN’T the same as some of you have said, so I’m sure there are many BM’s who do get offended when they see it, I just don’t know a whole lot of them. I agree, you should date whoever you feels compliments you. It’s just that through the media, I’ve only noticed famous Black men who dated outside their race got lashed and attacked, while famous Black women who did the same exact thing was praised, congratulated, promoted, and heralded for doing so. Just pay attention to the amount of attacks a young, famous Black athlete receives when his current lady isn’t of his same skin color. 

    • Rachael

       I have 4 brothers and a bunch of black male friends. They all have dated white women BUT God forbid I pop up somewhere with a white dude. Black men are notorious for this one sided view of interracial dating -NOT black women. I’ve even seen this one sided prejudice in white girls who date black men but have a problem if a black woman dates a white guy.

      • Think

        My cousin is like that. SMH…

      • Heavy

        I get more objections from black women who are dead bent on holdong down the black man.  Although many bm will throw these same women under the bus.  Im married to a white man.  I have never had any objections from black men publicly.  I live in NYC so that may be why no one bats an eye.  Privately, male cousins will say something.  But when I respond that Im a Christian, Im childless, I love to travel (China, Japan, India, Europe, Maldives, So. Amer, etc), not in the club scene, believe strongly in traditional family values (not living together b4 marriage, no OOW children, etc.) and that it’s difficult to find bm who are compatible…they get it. 

        • F3ral Anarchy

           its wild that when we as blacks become more cultured to worldly things the dating pool gets slimmer and slimmer.  you can literally with a pen mark out certain groups by the education you have, the traveling youve done, the extra languages you speak and things you will and will not tolerate.  something as simple as saying you like to read books with your free time can knock a group of folks out of your dating pool.  Ive actually had black women say to me “you are too smart/intelligent for your own good”….seriously…These werent hood rats but professional sistas. (((possibly hood rats with an education?)))  lol

          • Heavy

            I think all people want compatibility when it comes to a mate.  Im not ashamed of having certain expectations.  Although, bw are considered snooty or high sidity for having expections.  I suggest you stay clear of women who are intimidated by your intelligence.  Intelligence  equals swexy. 

    • Msddre

       Um, yeah they do…

  • Chanda

    Well, they were in New York and you see all types of people there. She should’ve asked people of other races are they open to dating other races not necessarily just black.
    You should date anyone who is the most compatable to you. The right fit. As long as you’re both single and grown, go for it.

    • http://www.rishona.net/ Shona

      Exactly. Can you imagine if a mainstream publication like Cosmo did a piece like this? I would be interested in seeing the responses, but I also think that non-minorities would not be candid in regards to their opinions out of the fear that they would be considered racist. Truth is, dating preferences do not equal racism. However it’s not “politically correct” for a White person to openly states that they are not attracted to Black people sexually….even though that might be the case.

  • F3ral Anarchy

    absolutely open to it considering there is only 1 race of people…the human race.  am i open to dating women of other ethnicities?  absolutely and why shouldnt one be?  In a day and age where cultural lines have blurred to the point where you have children of all ethnic make ups crossing over into cultures that in the past were “oh only those people listen, wear, do that” you want to find the person that makes YOU happy not your family or friends.  I always use myself as a prime example. Grew up in dc and surrounding area, went to private school all my years with a whole lot of white kids.  Im into extreme sports and heavy metal.  I love all things horror/gore/occultish. My diet is vegan and i practice yoga. To top it all off im a PC geek by trade.  from the outside 99% of black people would say “oh i know he dates nothing but white women”.  Ive never dated a white woman and have been lucky enuff all my relationships to find a sista who was either into the same type of stuff or tolerant.  But at the same time i’d definitely date a white, asian. latina if she a great match for me.  FIND WHO MAKES YOU HAPPY!

    • http://twitter.com/sabadaga SANDRA

      I agree with you, your lifestyle doesn’t determine if you date black or any other ethnicities. Eating healthy and doing yoga is not a white thing.

  • Brianturns

    You’re right TDR25_FOREVER, however I have noticed more
    black men attack black women and white men when dating one another. Black men
    want be respected for dating outside of their race, but most will not respect
    black women and white men if they’re dating one another. You can ask any black
    woman and white man that are in interracial relationships with one another and
    they will tell you that they have been attacked mainly by black men over their
    relationship. The way I see it is date whoever you want to date. Don’t let another’s
    insecurities get in the way of your happiness. The black men that have a
    problem with black women dating another race are insecure and they feel
    threatened by that man. Its almost like, most black men expect black women to
    sit back and wait until black men want them again and I don’t think that’s
    fair. If black men can do it, then so can black women. This is all coming from
    a black man.

    • fair and balanced

       I agree, although I have in the past dated a couple of black men I was always attracted to Caucasian guys. I am a black woman and have absolutely nothing against black men we are all attracted to who we are attracted to. I receive more angry looks and negative feedback from black men than anyone else in fact I’ve never received it from anyone else other than black men.  I find this strange considering the fact that black men will date Caucasian women and some will feed them a lot of lies about black women and why they don’t want us yet they are angry when they see us with anyone else other than a black man. Many Caucasian women think we are all angry, fat, lazy and jealous based on what these men have told them and its just plain ignorant on both their parts to believe it. The reality is people should date whomever they want and disregard what anyone else has to say, there are only 2 people who really matter in your relationship. Thank you Brianturns for being so honest in your post. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1438551270 Jessica Lucinda Williams

    done that when i was younger, out of curiosity. a couple of them i had fun with and the chemistry was there, but one was also dating out for the first time and we were both uncomfortable. anyway, my husband is black so….that’s that, lol!

  • TDR25_Forever

    It would appear a lot of Black women don’t really have a problem with dating outside their race, yet they’ll continually attack Black men who do it or also don’t have a problem with it. Just something I noticed.

    • http://twitter.com/Free2fly1913 LaLa.LaFlare

      I don’t think you are thinking of the same woman. You cannot lump all black women into one person. If i do not have a problem with something, i don’t have a problem with i across the board. The women you may be referring to is probably over infatuated with black love and would not consider dating outside her race therefore is offended when others do.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1438551270 Jessica Lucinda Williams

       not all of us. as long as it’s not my man they trying to get, i don’t care.

    • Millienl

      i think Black women get mad because they feel like black men can be hypocrites. years ago i was seeing an asian guy and we got so much hate, but i would always see black guys with asian women. That’s hypocritical.

    • Chanda

      Yes, you’re obviously talking about 2 different black women in this situation. Why would a black woman that doesn’t have a problem with dating outside her race have an issue with it when someone else does? The ones that are against black men dating out are most likely exclusive to black men. Not all bw have the same opinions and outlook in life, you should know better than that.

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