The breakup before
Talk about your breakup before this one. Explain what the problems were of that relationship, out loud. Now, do the same thing for this most recent one. If you find yourself describing almost the same breakup, with many of the same basic problems, be grateful this recent relationship ended. It was just another one on the list of the wrong (and the same) men you’ve been choosing. You want to be moving forward. If your last two (or more) breakups are the same in their essence, you need to have a talk with yourself (or a therapist) about why you choose those men.