When Will Celebrity Men Really Start Living ‘Money Over Women?’

March 29th, 2012 - By Brande Victorian

I don’t really care much for the whole “money over b****es” saying on the surface but the philosophy behind it, I support. It reminds me of the quote from “I Think I love My Wife” when Chris Rock’s boss told him, “You’ll lose a lot of money chasing women but you’ll never lose women chasing money.” It’s such a simple concept but looking at the state of some of our biggest male celebrities who are nearly in the poor house because of child support and alimony payments this is clearly a lesson they have not learned.

Nas stopped by RapFix Live today to talk about his financial situation and when it came to the outrageous child support payments Nas has been ordered to make ($25,000 a month to Kelis, which is down from $50,000, plus money to his first child’s mother) the somber rapper said, “Life is crazy. I [wound] up paying more money to baby mommas than what some of my rap brothers and sistren make.”  It’s no wonder the man now owes $6 million in taxes.

To Nas’ credit he was actually married to Kelis, but a lot of these other characters out here? They’ve been sowing their wild oats into financial ruin. T.O., Dennis Rodman, Antonio Cromartie—the NY Jets who fathered nine children with eight women and had to get a $500,000 advance so he could make outstanding child support payments, these are just a few of the men who continue to think with their little head instead of their big one.

What’s disturbing to me is that these men have yet to learn from anyone else’s mistakes. We’ve all seen enough rich-celebrity-gone-broke stories to serve as an example that if you’re not smart enough to wear condoms to protect your physical health at least protect your financial well-being. Whether we’re talking about a rapper or a pro-athlete, that money can be here today gone tomorrow just by the sheer nature of the industries so why these men think they have enough money to father as many nations as Abraham and keep buying Bentleys and million-dollar homes is beyond me.

I’m honestly thinking about putting down the pen and becoming a “how not to lose your entire financial portfolio to baby mama’s” coach for rappers and pro athletes because the situation is getting ridiculous and I honestly have no sympathy for the ones who have fallen victim to the okie doke. I imagine these men have financial planners but what they need someone to break down to them is how quickly every penny they earn can dry up when they think it’s OK to sleep with women who will not hesitate to demand sufficient child support. T.O. was required to pay nearly $100,000 a month in child support to the mothers of his four children. That’s more money than most people see in a year.

Of course women are something that come along with the celebrity lifestyle, but random children don’t need to be. Not only is it irresponsible from a societal standpoint, it’s fiscally risky and an embarrassment to be facing jail time like a regular man working at McDonald’s who can’t afford child support when you’ve made millions on top of millions over the course of your career and now don’t have a pot to piss in because you’ve squandered it paying tens of thousands of dollars a month on illegitimate children you’ve fathered across the nation.

I suppose if a regular joe doesn’t know any better than to create a bunch of babies he can’t pay for on a $60,000 salary, I shouldn’t expect a pro-athlete to know any better but this trend has got to stop. At some point these men need to think about their own financial future because the career of a pro and most rappers is very short lived. The money won’t always be there especially if you’ve got more going out in child support payments then you have coming in paychecks. At some point you’ve got to think the risk just isn’t worth it.

Why do you think so many celebrity men keep going broke over child support? Do you think they’ll ever learn?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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  • FromUR2UB

    I totally agree.  But, just as new people get hooked on recreational drugs because they think what has happened to others won’t happen to them, I suppose the guys who find themselves in this situation used the same type of reasoning.  Thus, they live like they have an infinite supply of money and their careers will never end.

    I’ve often thought that rookie athletes, rappers and musicians would benefit from having mentors show them how to conduct themselves.  If I were an agent, I would assign mentors to my clients as a condition of their contracts.  But, then, I consider that the sycophants and leeches who surround these people would tell them, “You’re ____  ____.  You can do whatever you want!  You don’t need anybody telling you what to do.”  Since flattery is much more enticing, they’d probably get rid of anybody saying the things they don’t want to hear.  So, some people just have to learn things the hard way.

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  • Eve

    No ! what really need to change is the hoe law system in this country !!That’s nothing but modern slavery you work and i sit on my a** and do noting !!this a disgrace to all hard working women and mothers out there !! That some hoe get paid for laying on her back!Just SMH.

  • L-Boogie

    Well, I guess the small head overruled their bigger head (or they like to think so).  LOL!

  • F3ral Anarchy

    a vasectomy cost $800.  It will save you money, headaches, baby mama drama and the dreaded “im pregnant” line from women you randomly slept with.  smartest thing ive EVER done in life.

  • Aunt Juicy

    Don’t think I like the tone of how this article is written, these INNOCENT  ”illegitimate” children were conceived by two consenting adults who acted irresponsibly if they didn’t want children. It seems as if though you’re blaming these children, who had not choice, nor did they ask to be born. The focus should remain on the children and I don’t give a damn if a washed up celebrity is the Dad. Regarding the McDonald’s comment, nobody working at a Mickey Dee’s is ordered to pay the astronomical amounts of child support as a celebrity. It’s not that they don’t get it or that they don’t know any better. Firstly, they are just flat out irresponsible. Secondly, they haven’t gotten beyond living in the moment. Finally, who would even complain about supporting the child?

  • http://blackonpurpose.blogspot.com/ gryph

    they are living `money over women’. what they aren’t living though is `condom over paynus’. 

    • Cora500

      lol. i like your one-line!

  • maggie

    Residual behavior of the ‘had no father syndrome’

  • LaLaLaMeansILoveYou

    So, so true…thank you for writing this article but I doubt these idiots out here are going to change anytime soon. Just like you said, if regular joe’s who already worry about financial stability and can’t even pay rent (living in mama’s basement or with some woman) don’t seem to be cautious enough to stop making the babies then of course these entertainers and athletes with the “I’m gonna be making big money foreverrrrr!!!” mentality aren’t gonna be.

    Let’s just be careful not to limit it to “today’s” entertainers and athletes…there is nothing new under the sun. Ray Charles, Roger Troutman, Alexander Oneal, and MANY other guys from back in the day were notorius babymakers as well, and just as guilty if not worse. Papa’s stone was rolling long before Lil Wayne came on the scene. It just wasn’t as talked about back then and I don’t believe the child support laws were as beneficial for the mothers back then either. 

  • Gimmeabreak78

    This is such a timely article.  As I commented on yesterday’s article about the state of the black community, there is no reason that a man should sleep with every woman he CAN sleep with.  Broken homes and the financial ruin of the father is a big part of the reason why.  I cannot for the life of me understand why these men will not get vasectomies if they insist on ”going raw” in a bunch of women.  Vasectomies are covered by insurance.  They are less than the cost of a flat screen tv. They are safe and reversible 85% of the time (though they are to be treated as permanent).   A doctor will advise you that you can freeze a sample for later use if you change your mind about becoming a father.  There is absolutely no reason for this foolishness.  Even if a man is hell-bent on being as sexually reckless as possible, there is no reason to compound that ratchetness by being financially reckless as well. 

  • Ladybug94

     It’s such a simple concept but looking at the state of some of our biggest male celebrities who are nearly in the poor house because of child support and alimony payments this is clearly a lesson they have not learned.

    Uhh..that’s party of the problem, if they would quit bed hopping they wouldn’t have to pay child support for every woman on the block.  Have some self control.

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