You know what would make this more interesting if you have a panel of black woman as well at the same time. So black woman and men could hash out their differences at the same time. But I still liked it.

My goodness. The comments are OUT OF CONTROL. MN commenters do NOT play out here in ‘dese streets. Thankfully (or hopefully), Liz and the other creators and panelists have been in the business long enough to take the good with the bad. Opinions are opinions. I will say, great job to Liz for the hard work she put into creating the show. And I’m a huge VSB follower, so s/o to Panama! As a woman who enjoys having platonic male relationships so that I can get these perspectives, I wasn’t surprised by most of the responses. However, I’m ALWAYS surprised by how little most women know about men, so kudos to the show for shedding this type of light. I thought the show was light-hearted and very honest (especially Mo…call it what you want, but truth is life!). It was mentioned before, but for the women who felt pissed, disrespected, or offended by the use of “smash” or “cheeks,” 1. It doesn’t seem like you’ve been around many men, 2. If you have, they just may not say stuff like this to your face, and 3. Please continue to live and learn. And to my fellow Christian commenters: Sigh. The one thing that should separate us from others is our love…no matter what. Nothing that was said demonstrated love, just judgment and pride. Be careful not to fall into the same trap of religiosity that the Pharisees did (who Jesus despised btw). We all should know that holiness is something you grow into and is only given by the power of the Holy Spirit, not your judgmental comments. Let’s do better…this does not show people the love of Christ.

In regards to the men…I will say that while I wasn’t surprised by the responses and certainly appreciated the honesty, I do wish there was more accountability and more of a desire to be the men you’d want your daughter to date BEFORE you actually have one (with the exception of the guy who did say he’d be cool if his daughter dated him…that’s awesome). And that’s not a shot at the specific men on this panel, just a desire for men in general. At the same time, I realize it also means that more women should be the women they’d love to see their sons bring home. Men and women date EACH OTHER, so there’s blame to be had on both parties. And lesbehonest…nobody’s where they really want to be, where they think they should be, etc. Life is about the journey, and we can only strive. My desire is just that we all strive to be better together.

So I’m commenting on this after getting to comment #72 or so. And this is what I have to say: f–k you haters. Most of you are low-lifes who actually know what channel BET is through your cable provider, you quote Tamar Braxton daily, you support Tyler Perry plays, and keep up with people like Evelyn Lozada’s life on Twitter. FOH with the nonsense!!! You mean to tell me that a group of positive, young, Black men (and a couple women) who ARE NOT in jail decide to put out some positive media & they receive backlash? I pity you fools. Good luck on your children making it through college.

As for Kela, Panama, Liz, etc. I applaud you all. And I say thanks. Thanks for taking the time to actually excite my brain cells aside from the time I spend reading VSB. I look forward to more episodes regardless of who you were raised by (and whoever said they want to know about the mens’ backgrounds is likely a minor = irrelevant) and I could care less of your religion. This is due to the fact that most ‘Christian’ women go to church each week with their 2.5 kids ALONE and wishing they had an “Ask A Black Man” man beside them. So let’s not throw religion in here at all. *in my VSB voice* Mmm-kay pumpkin?

That is all.

That Dozie is a cutiee

While I would agree that most of the topics discussed are common nuggets of knowledge amongst females over the age of 23, especially in New York City, I still enjoyed the show.  I also commend the creators and panelists for attempting to engage with viewers via this comment section, however, I do not think it is a good look.  I find that many times the internet gives a voice to very negative people and you end up looking crazy trying to talk sense into them or arguing with them.  I swear I thought people were a lot more normal before my Wi-fi days.  

With the exception of Mo’s comment about black women not being down for the struggle, the guys were pretty cool.  Kudos to Kela for the great questions and looking so fabulous!  Looking forward to the upcoming episodes.

P.S. Bentley you are a cutie.  

This is the most depressing display of “educated” black men. Sex, booties, ti****s. There is no hope

Great Show!

I’m going to take a tiny issue with this being “Ask a BLACK man.”  Would it really be so bad to include non-black men to get a more diverse set of men, life experiences and ideas?  I don’t think it’s a good idea for black women to be so singularly focused on black men.  After all, they’ve never been singularly focused on us.  Why not expand the pool and see what’s really out there?

Okay folks.  Bring on the hate!  I’m ready for it.  But it seriously needed to be said.