“Ask A Black Man” Episode 1: Life of A Single Man [EXTENDED CUT]

March 28th, 2012 - By Madame Noire

The feedback we’ve received about our new web series Ask A Black Man has been amazing, and we are happy to present you with an extended cut of episode 1!

We know some of you wanted to see the full conversations we had with our panelists, so every week we will include an extended edit. You can expect to see more questions asked, as well as more discussion between panelists. We had a good time during the shooting of this series, so we hope you will enjoy the entire shoots as much as we did!

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cocochanel31

I’m clueless
as to how anyone thought anything these brothers said was disrespectful..its
like what bubble world do you live in? Men of every race are the same, they are
all men and think pretty much along universal lines. If you don’t think so ask
women of other cultures how their men treat them and act smh. They answered all
the questions honestly and candidly and were not just talking to hear
themselves speak. The problem with certain people is they can’t handle the
truth, and those are the people who fail miserably in relationships because
they are waiting for this perfect man to appear but he doesn’t exist. Also,
these questions are geared towards SINGLE MEN, so the mindsets are probably
different from the minds of married men. If anyone thinks that at some point 90% of men
explore their options before settling down they are in for a rude awakening.
Thank you Madame Noir for choosing such an honest panel of men and I look
forward to future episodes. For the naysayers, go watch Cinderella ins tead to satisfy
all of your Prince Charming fantasies!
Ishpallday

LOVE!
http://twitter.com/skimpontheblimp Laurene Callender

probably ….
- Janet Jackson
  
  “Why wouldn’t you give your best to everyone you could, showing your literal derrière to all gains you nothing but what comes out of that particular place. ”
  that is true..
  
  & to Panama’s comment about most men “having fun” till a good woman comes along. While I get the gist of what you’re saying, how are you just all of a sudden going to become this “great man” or however you would call it , when this “woman” worth being great to comes along? Are you (or men in general) purposely not giving your best effort in being a good man to a woman until you think she is worth it? Are you just basically waiting for a woman who is worth it enough for you to be good to? Bottom line is if you’re being ratchet or like you said “having fun” till she comes along, how are you all of a sudden going to change. I’m asking this in general, not just of you, cause you might not have been speaking from a personal point of view.
  
  I enjoyed this show though. I thought it was funny and Liz you did a great job! Although these are questions that all black women ask over and over again, there is no harm in hearing different perspectives from different men. It was engaging, your host is pretty, and this panel was great!
  - http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
    
    I’m not saying that its an easy overnight change, what I am suggesting is that when men meet a woman that they decide to invest in for whatever reason, they begin to modify their behaviors in order to be the man he wants to be for her and the man he hopes she wants. i’m not saying we all become perfect as we’re all works in progress. but there are substantial changes that men make when we meet that woman who brings out the best in us.
    
    and it doesnt suggest that we’re not good to other women (good is subjective) but being the man who will put away childish pursuits, etc.
    
    i think implicit in the “why wouldn’t you give your best” assumes that all women are ready-made wives who bring their A-game to the table and I don’t think thats true either. as we get older and experience more we all learn about ourselves and what we bring to the table. you could easily say that everybody should just not play games but the truth is we all do.
    
    it can probably easily be summed up by saying that when men meet a woman who makes him want to change…he tries hard to do so. until he does, he’s going to keep doing what he’s been doing because his results are to his satisfaction. i’d argue that women do the same thing with men that they’re not interested in.
    - http://twitter.com/skimpontheblimp Laurene Callender
      
      maybe
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http://www.mgibson.350.com/Gib-home.htm M.Gibson

Why is it so many panels like these involve young- unmarried, immature… troubled black males? When I think of a panel of ‘experts’ I think of someone who has acquired wisdom from being in the field a long time. Where are the older married couples to help shed light on what it takes for two people stay together in a loving- Godly relationship longer than a few weeks? Been married for 30 years to a loving black woman and it would be nice to see people my age on panels such as these. Stop relying on people who’re barely wet behind the ears to give you relationship advice.
- really???
  
  this!
Guest

I am loving the comment section right now. My thoughts on the show: LOVE IT! My thoughts on the men: they were funny and honest. I have tons of girlfriends but I don’t have a group of diverse black men that I can pose these type of questions too. I can’t wait to see the other episodes.

As a black woman I did not take offense to anything that was said. I know who I am. Why would anything someone said on this episode upset me?!?
- http://twitter.com/TheKidSkoob The Kid Skoob
  
  As my fellow panelist/2012 Johnny Gill said “Nothing is sexier than a woman that’s comfortable in her own skin.”
  
  Preciate u!
  - Bentley Kapten
    
    Preach my brother. Man, I guess I am coming into the fire late… My turn to be vocal.
tiffanybbrown

I think I am just outside the target demographic for this series, based on the ages of the panelists and my own relationship status (married). But I’m really curious to hear the opinions of some older men. After like 32, the club becomes a far less interesting place to be, let alone meet somebody. So how do men who are 35 or 40 answer these questions, particularly those who might have a failed marriage and some resulting humility under their belt?
- http://lizburr.com Liz
  
  We have one guy over 35, but I really wanted more!! Honestly it was difficult to find more men of diverse backgrounds, per episode as well as for the series as a whole. It’s not impossible to do but given other constraints we were a bit limited.
http://www.nykola.com/ Ambra Nykol

Is the dude to the right (our right) of Panama wearing lipgloss though?

That is all.
- http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
  
  you ain’t right. #thatisall
- http://twitter.com/TheKidSkoob The Kid Skoob
  
  (,-___-,)
Q17Scott

This is very interesting. This really brings to light the irresponsibility and lack of accountability that men in our generation are growing up in. A key question that the host ask, (which I thought was brilliant and should have been expanded on) was, “would you let your daughter date you?” Most said no they wouldn’t. This is where the lack of responsibility and accountability comes it. They are basically saying that it is okay for others daughters to date them, just not their own. Unfortunately, their future daughters first introduction to ‘what manhood, fatherhood, and how a man is supposed to treat a woman’, is from the first man in her life, which is the father. Fathers can tell their daughters what a man looks like, and how one should act, but the true lesson is usually learned by what they see and not so much by what they hear. I bring this up to say that if you want your daughter or future daughters to be with a man that respects her, encourages her, empowers her, does not objectify her, and appreciates her as a human being, the best way to show her that type of man exist is to be that man. I’m tired of men (and women) making excuses to justify reckless behavior. With manhood comes responsibility and accountability. And if you are equipped to take that responsibility, be honest in saying so, but do not take on the title of calling yourself a man without taking into consideration the responsibility that comes with what that is. Age is nothing but a number. over 18 does not deem you a man, you just males. Character and responsibility determines maturity. (now this comment is not based on the entire interview, just some of the key elements that I continue to hear over and over again in relation to single men and women. Having women in categories such as ‘smash’ and ‘wife material’ is degrading and irresponsible. Additionally, it is an excuse not to treat every woman with respect, as it should be. Lastly, referring back to the daughter question, your daughters will one day grow up to also possess ‘breast or booty’ and will be thrown in that same pool of ‘males’ who objectify/rate her based on the ‘size’ of parts of her body. If you as ‘males’ and okay with that, then keep on keeping on. However, if you are not, that man up by being the man you want her to encounter and hold other men accountable as well for the sake of not only your daughters, but your mother, sisters, cousin, nieces, and etc.
- Q17Scott
  
  Sorry, for the typos, but you get what I’m trying to say.
- http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=600192696 Clarissa Amber Jeffries
  
  You said exactly what I think needed to be said.
- http://lizburr.com Liz
  
  I like your input. I think their answers were telling and agree with you….just not sure if people will ever change and look at it from that perspective.
  - Q17Scott
    
    I get that. This is why I say. BOYS MAKE EXCUSE, MEN MAKE CHANGES. Know where you are and claim it. But once you begin to classify yourself as a MAN, then I expect Man-like behavior. And if you are not ready for the responsibility and accountability of that title, do not classify yourself as such, or mis-represent yourself as such, until you are there mentally. This way there are no expectations from those that you do encounter.
- http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
  
  While I do agree with you in theory, there’s one variable that changes all of this. Having a child. Having a kid changes your mentality on a lot of things. I don’t know how many men on that panel have kids aside from myself, but I acknowledge that I’ve grown because of my daughter and that my perspective on a lot of things have absolutely changed because of it. Only in hindsight have I gained the type of self-awareness to realize that things that I’ve done (not even cheating or lying, just inability to effectivley communicate or deal with emotions, etc) have directly contributed to creating issues for the women I was dating.
  
  Most people don’t get that until they have a reason. Especially young men. We tend to operate in a selfish vacuum until we don’t have that luxury and are forced re-evaluate our actions and lives, which I’m fairy sure is what evolution and growth is all about.
  
  So while I agree, I do think you have to give those cats (and let’s be real, a vast majority of guys are like that) the opportunity to mature and become the man that they would let their daughter’s date.
  - Q17Scott
    
    I agree with you. My argument is based upon mis-representation. I understand completely about growing and maturing. I understand whole-heartedly, that children have the power to change a persons perspective on life. I am not arguing that at all. My argument is based on the premise that the responsibility and accountability comes with the title of MANHOOD is being swept under the rug as if it is not apart of maturing into a man. Or as if, certain behaviors (whatever they may be) do not count when it comes to maturity. Either you are a man or you a boy. Each level of growth comes with a different set of roles. Unfortunately, with ‘males’ and ‘females’ those roles are being integrated in order to lessen the responsibility that comes maturity. And then we begin excusing behaviors just because its easier than taking responsibility. Also, it’s easier than holding others accountable and being accountable.
    
    But I agree with everything you said. Take the time to mature, but don’t mis-represent ones self as being on a level of manhood when in actuality, ones behaviors and actions still are in the realms of boyhood.
- http://twitter.com/TheKidSkoob The Kid Skoob
  
  You make a few great points. While I responded with a no, my answer was more-so based on past transgressions and not on who I am today. Experience is often the best teacher, so with that said, at the time my (future) daughter is old enough to understand the morals and values I attempt to instill in her, I’ll be the type of man she could bring home.
  
  However, I had to grow into that individual. If she could meet someone that’s ahead of that learning curve, then cool. This is exactly what Panama mentioned in his response on the panel, which I 110% agree with.
Ivy

Hmm not what I expected were these men picked off the street?
- http://lizburr.com Liz
  
  LOL. No. We picked them from a casting call
  
  I actually like that it was not what you expected.
  - Missioneagles
    
    Greetings -
    
    I applaud that you’re doing this series. It beats some of the abundance of superficial
    content that is widespread throughout the web and society overall.
    
    We won’t agree on every point but intelligent dialogue can benefit us all if we’re so inclined.
    - Missioneagles
      
      Incidentally, you’re holding your own relative to the responses to these varied comments. Way to go…
- Missioneagles
  
  Hi Ivy -
  
  There are some good men on the streets and beyond. I met a profound thoroughbred man who lived in a homeless shelter. Later he became a good government employee for more than seven years…
  
  You can find good men in some of the least expected places. And you can find bums in penthouses and basements. Heart conditions tell the whole story – character trumps…
  - Ladybug94
    
    LOL at “thouroughbred man”..I actually needed that laugh. Thanks.
Bejon

This can’t be the full panel, right? Of all the professional, educated (articulate), good looking, etc black men you could choose from… Madame Noire came up with these folks? You might as well of had Flavor Flav up there. #fail
- http://lizburr.com Liz
  
  No need to throw bows at men. Yes, we do have 18 men in total but….we did a very public casting in the NYC area for several weeks and these guys were the best of the best. *kanye shrug* I honestly like how they are regular guys you would meet in your every day life at work, at social events, through family friends etc. Sure there are a lot of good looking black men out there (not to say these guys aren’t) but if we had a panel full of models and bankers….would this feel or be as relatable? We specifically didn’t want to go after men who are all actors….because they’d be acting.
  - Missioneagles
    
    Greetings -
    
    I’m glad for the panel discussion but am not inclined to engage with men who use words like “smash” and “cheeks” relative to women. And am not fond of observing women who laugh at such exchanges.
    
    That said, we’re all works in progress… And it’s likely that I’ll continue to watch to discover the sentiments expressed.
    
    There are lessons in much…regardless of personal preferences.
    - Guest
      
      You are sadly mistaken if you dont think most men talk like that about women. They just dont do it to our face. Think about some of the conversations you may have had with your girlfriends. I’m sure there were some things said that wouldnt ordinarily be said in front of mixed company. I feel as women we want men to be real but only in a way we approve.
      - http://www.facebook.com/people/Sandra-Hicks/100001291670459 Sandra Hicks
        
        Hi -
        
        I’m not mistaken.  Am aware…
        
        Being aware doesn’t require that I habitually engage with such in my network of contacts…
        
        eric mcdaniel
        
        You are also a very old lady. You may now be on some crusade for the black community but when you were young, you probably were fun and not so condescending. Face it, men talk about women in private company (other men) in ways they might not talk about in front of their grandmother.
        
        Missioneagles
        
        Greetings Eric -
        
        How thrilled I am that GOD is old, and young. And how thrilled I am that He favors old and young folks who love and DO His will. And how precious that heaven has old and young folks. That’s so wonderful and glorious.
        
        And how wrong you are…I’m indeed fun, lively and interesting. So says GOD and some others. That’s more than enough for me.
        
        Your comments are those of an ignorant rank amateur.
        
        Better to be old and wise than ignorant at any age!
        
        P.S. It’s great that all young folks aren’t misinformed…
        
        eric mcdaniel
        
        I thunk it’s funny how you women tell ME what men say when you are NOT around. I’ve heard pastors say disparaging things about their wives in private company. You have no idea cuz you aren’t in the room.
        
        http://www.facebook.com/people/Sandra-Hicks/100001291670459 Sandra Hicks
        
        2nd reply to Eric –
        
        Certainly, I’m not on a crusade for the black community. My main aim is doing truth…which is univeral and global for those who are so inclined.
        
        You expressed, “Face it, men talk about women in private company (other men) in ways they might not talk about in front of their grandmother.”
        
        My response:
        I never expressed that men don’t do such…however, REAL men don’t use disrespectful terms such as “smash” and “cheeks” in reference to their engagements with women.  REAL men don’t use such demeaning descriptions about women in any setting – with other men or otherwise.
- http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
  
  Not Flavor Flav though. LOL. Y’all ninjas over here on MN are brutal.
  
  but like I say on my own site, this comment is useless without pictures. lol. throw stones if you want…but give me the chance to make sure its a valid criticism.
  - Guest
    
    lol I’m stilly laughing at the Flavor Flav remark!
- Guest
  
  Dang not Flavor Flav! lol
  
  I happen to know one of the panelist and he is all the positive adjectives you listed
- http://twitter.com/TheKidSkoob The Kid Skoob
  
  Flavor Flav huh? That’s crazy. I’m actually a graduate of Penn State University. I have contributed to Ebony, ESPN, & The Source, in addition to holding positions at MTV & CNN. I’ve also appeared on a few popular television programs. Oh, and I’m also a man of KAPPA.
  
  My apologies for not meeting your standards, but the Bio-Chemist/Model with the Oxford degree was busy. Next time though!
  
  Normally I’d say something much more poignant, but I don’t think that’d be very “educated or articulate” of me, and I wouldn’t want to further disappoint you as a Madame Noire viewer.
  - http://lizburr.com Liz
    
    <3
  - Missioneagles
    
    Greetings -
    
    All that sounds good…but what noble causes inflame your heart? How do you contribute to the progression of society….caring, sharing, impacting. community involvement…
    - http://twitter.com/TheKidSkoob The Kid Skoob
      
      Honestly, I could sit here and tell you about my mentee who maintains a near 4.0 grade point average in his first year of college, or several other charitable contributions. No matter what I say in response to you, there’ll be someone (possibly you) that won’t deem it “good enough.”
      
      That’s actually a huge problem with “our people” today. Look at Pres. Obama, four years ago everyone was 110% behind him and the bandwagon was full. Throughout his campaign we’ve seen “our own” attempt to sabotage him by saying he’s not “black enough,” he’s a “terrorist” amongst many other things.
      
      The point is, I could have re-built a village in Haiti, imprisoned Kony and arrest the person(s) responsible for killing Biggie & Tupac, and it STILL wouldn’t be enough. In that, I’ll just say that I do my part.
Just Lissen

I think this series is hilarious (in a good way). The blatant honesty of the panelists is quite endearing, especially Mo, his forthwith attitude can be rather charming. But I like it best because these are direct questions with direct answers. You ask for their opinion, be prepared to hear their truth.
Funny thing is how 5 different men from diverse backgrounds (based on the profiles you posted before the series) can have such similar attitudes. This is the male perspective, and it’s interesting. How many men do you have to poll before you just accept that there are some common truths?
Sometimes I think we look so hard for the exception or the fairy tale guy, that we forget the good dudes that are around us. Like the single men of the panel said: we are waiting until we are ready to settle down and look for a good woman, until then we are just living life.
You can’t judge them for having a good time or experiencing what life has to offer, because in truth you can’t control the actions of another person. You can either choose to mess with them, or leave them alone.
I can’t wait for the next episode!
- Purple Kisses
  
  Thank you!
  - Purple Kisses
    
    The show was entertaining. If it’s information you already know then good for you. Either be done with the show or stay tuned for the next episode. But to go out of your way to say you got NOTHING out of it, is a bit petty. **Free hugs**
    
    If people are expecting some type of deeeeeeeeeppp insight in the span of 15 mins, then you’re probably going to be disappointed. Take these opinions for what they are–opinions of just 5 black men, not all black men of all time.
    
    And it is a series so there will be more episodes, with different men. Hopefully you’ll find you’ll learn something new…and if not, you didn’t pay for this content so chillax.
    - http://lizburr.com Liz
      
      Gold star for you too!
- http://lizburr.com Liz
  
  +1.
  
  Somebody gets it.
  - http://howhereallythinks.com/ Jamel Mont
    
    These guys are cool. When you get a chance check out my blog called How He Really Thinks. I put a different twist to it. I have a variety of subjects that describe how men do their thing.
- http://twitter.com/TheKidSkoob The Kid Skoob
  
  Round of applause!
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=600192696 Clarissa Amber Jeffries

Kudos! and it goes back to my first comment on why the background of each panelist is important. If you were raised in a household where women are objectified and disrespected then your “thoughts/opinions” on women is skewed.
- http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
  
  You’re assumption is that all of us were completely disrespectful towards women? well my background includes two mothers and 3 sisters. all of whom I’m very close with.
  - Missioneagles
    
    Greetings -
    
    Glad you’re on here engaging… Thank you
    
    I wonder if the other panelists have weighed in on here.
    - http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
      
      Skoob has weighed in here. On my own site, I stay in the comments all day b/c I’d hate to be one of those folks who just throws his opinions out there and isn’t accountable.
Ckalexander06

If this video was supposed to provide genuine insight into the mind of a black man it failed. Miserably. These men clearly should not be the spokesmen for brothers who are serious about life and relationships. This video was disrespectful to black women and hurtful. You would never see a group of white men get on a broadcast and talk about white women in that way. I’m just tired of seeing black men publicly humiliate black women and themselves. Please provide us with men of character and class next time. I don’t know what this was. I can’t relate at all.
- http://www.facebook.com/people/Rojan-Sandoval-Michaels/100002230717524 Rojan Sandoval Michaels
  
  I see your point. I don’t know how this bunch was screened and cast to represent black men.
  - http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
    
    My job was to represent myself, a Black man. Not all Black men. It’s ask a Black man. Not Ask These Black Men To Represent All Black Men. What makes you all any different than white people that come to each individual Black person as a spokesman for the race? We rail against white people for doing that to us, then we do it to ourselves. No wonder we can’t win.
- http://lizburr.com Liz
  
  Five black men would never represent the whole race. That’s just too much pressure for them to handle. I honestly don’t think any one man could and should be the spokesman for any race
- http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
  
  I’m curious as just how you determined that none of us are men of character or class? If anybody gave a crap about how white men viewed white women I’m fairly certain that you’d get responses that went above and beyond. It isn’t even a race thing. It’s a man thing. We responded to the questionst that were asked. But even beyond that, I find it interesting that you feel like we humiliated the race. We’ll just have to agree to disagree. You’re more than welcome to feel that way obviously, and I’m more than welcome to think that’s completely ludicrous.
  - Janelle
    
    Yeah, I think the “no class” comment is a bit harsh. I thought you guys were all very classy and well spoken and that added credibility to what you were saying (for me at least it did since you are similar to the educated brothers I hang with). It’s a harsh reality we ladies need to hear and maybe it’ll help black women make better choices. Look at the stats people…highest pregnancy rates out of wedlock, highest HIV infection rates…these guys were honest. You may not like it but take that info and alter the way you engage with black men intimately if you want them to respect you. Now I don’t think the brothers are totally off the hook but I think there’s a lot we ladies can do to get better treatment and that’s by believing we deserve it and behaving in a way that demands it.
    - Missioneagles
      
      Greetings -
      
      Good point, Janelle, about “believing that we deserve it and behaving in a way that demands it.”
      
      For real, there is a bunch of conduct from both genders that fails to represent class conduct.
      
      It’s so pleasant to engage with people who steadfastly respect themselves and others.
- Janelle
  
  I’ve dated an equal number of white guys and black guys and I can tell you they are ALL thinking like this. You are right though, white guys probably wouldn’t get on tape and be this blunt. But I appreciate the forthrightness of the panel. These gentlemen represent a lot of what black men are thinking IMO…even the well educated ones, and yes, even their white counterparts.
  
  As another person said, now that you know, you can choose to engage with them or not. So when a brother is trying to get in your pants at the club or after one date or maybe not even a date but just you all as friends hanging out in a group, then you can choose to honor yourself and let him know YOU think you’re wife material and you’re not giving it up to get smashed. I think not enough women do this because they fear a guy will leave. Let him move on and you’ll create space to let another man come in who IS ready to treat you like wife material and wine and dine you.
  
  I will say this though. Black guys won’t spend much on you if they realize you’re not about smash and smash is what they’re looking for at them moment. The white guys I’ve dated are willing to take a girl out 2 or 3, maybe 4, times for dinner before they give up. Don’t think those white guys didn’t already know which bucket you fell into from the get go. Maybe it’s because of cultural differences in how they’ve seen women treated or maybe it’s how we value money differently. I just think black guys are less inclined to “waste” the money entertaining a lady if they know early she’s going to be hard to bed. Again, just my observation from dating both races.
  - Kari
    
    Trust me – white men can be just as openly misogynistic on camera and off. Have you all heard of tucker max? I’m sure you could easily find white men who would go on camera and say worse than this.
  - eric mcdaniel
    
    Why should a man take a woman, who isn’t interested in them, out more than once?
- Missioneagles
  
  I learned from the book, Celebrating Men by Beverly Niles. She wrote about men in her life who respected her…
- eric mcdaniel
  
  One word on how much white men respect their women….HOOTERS.
1913Lioness

I love PANAMA JACKSON. I’m hoping I’ll run into him at Pentagon City or somewhere in DC. Hopefully, he’ll this Delta girl a try…..:)
- 1913Lioness
  
  Hopefully, he’ll give this Delta girl a try……
  - http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
    
    awww…you’re gonna make me blush.
http://twitter.com/sabadaga SANDRA

I LOVE PANAMA JACKSON, I really do.
- http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
  
  awwwwww…thanks lady!
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=600192696 Clarissa Amber Jeffries

I really got NOTHING out of this. I think it would have been substantive to ask the backgrounds of each panelist so one would have an idea of how he grew up. Your environment definitely shapes your opinions and approach to women. Then again maybe men are universal in their basic needs and wants as a single man? Don’t know because the viewer has NO idea what the background is for each panelist. Yes you provided bios..but those bios didn’t tell me if the panelist grew up in a 2 parent or single parent home, or if he has ever been in a long term relationship or married etc.
- http://lizburr.com Liz
  
  Sorry you feel the need to lash out.
  
  I understand you wanted to know more about each guy, but by the time we delve into the histories of each man, this episode and the extended cuts would be going on 45 minutes. It’s just not feasible for web viewership. We definitely did our own research to find this info when casting, but there simply isn’t enough time to go through it all for one episode. In the end, we’re not doing a full psychoanalysis of each man nor do we claim to do that. There’s only so much we can pack into a short episode or one full taping.
  - GUEST
    
    Wow why go in on the person for asking a question? And how is asking a question(s) lashing out? Aren’t we entitled to my opinion(s)? I actually agree with Clarissa.
    
    In general knowing the background of a person could either add/subtract credibility to what they are saying. I don’t think she was asking for a psychoanalysis, just basic information on the environment each was raised in..If you are a black male raised in a 2 parent home your ideas and approach to women could be vastly different if you grew up in a single parent home. I know for the most part the series is for entertainment purposes, but there is certain responsibilty one should take when representing a group, i.e. “black men” .
    - GUEST
      
      *our opinion(s)
    - http://lizburr.com Liz
      
      I’m not going in! She asked a question and I am trying to clarify the reasons behind her concerns from the perspective of production. Just being servicey.
  - http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=600192696 Clarissa Amber Jeffries
    
    Wow Liz, don’t see how you took the comment as lashing out lol
    
    What’s the purpose of the comments section? To give feedback. If you only wanna hear “positive” feedback then what’s the point of it all?
    - http://lizburr.com Liz
      
      Sorry if you took my comment wrong. Definitely did not mean to lash out. I do appreciate constructive criticism if the message is on task. your first sentence was a bit much. All good now!
  - http://twitter.com/E_Joyce E_Joyce
    
    Odd comment. She asked a legitimate question. Certainly nothing there to indicate she was “lashing out.” Please don’t drag in the ‘angry black woman’ meme. It will give us a sense of bias on your part.
  - Single Brotha
    
    How can a single brother such as myself, 32, be considered for future panels?
- http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
  
  I have a question: how woud knowing all of our backgrounds change what you got out of this? Or are you treating them exclusively? Just curious. I’m with Liz on this one…it would be virtually impossible to do a pscyhoanalysis of all of us. But even if was just a short thing, what would knowing how I grew up add to our responses? You can either add validity or discredit I suppose or take it for what its worth, a panel of Black men answering questions that were asked of them.
- Dee Dee
  
  I agree with Clarissa, but I would go a step further and say I wouldn’t take advice from a bunch of strangers on a website. In terms of entertainment value I wasn’t entertained. The questions asked were predictable and the responses didn’t shed any new light on what most women already know.
  - http://lizburr.com Liz
    
    We definitely have not positioned this series as something you should take advice from. I wouldn’t do that to you with this cast (lol). All it is is about conversations and asking questions. Nothing more, nothing less!
Guest

I wish the interviewer had better questions. These are the SAME questions women ask men ALL the time! Let’s talk about something else besides dating! And how to get a Black man to marry us! UGH!
- really???
  
  ” And how to get a Black man to marry us! UGH! ”
  
  wouldn’t this question fall under “…same questions women ask men all the time…”
  
  jus’ sayin…
  - tiffanybbrown
    
    I’m guessing it was supposed to be “Let’s talk about something else besides dating and how to get a Black man to marry us! UGH!” Stray punctuation for the loss.
- http://lizburr.com Liz
  
  Not sure if you’re actually serious, but we do have a whole episode dedicated to the topic of marriage. I think it’s our best episode, so look out for it in the coming weeks.
- http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
  
  Not to be funny, but it seems like you could be barking up the wrong tree. It’s Madame Noire and the show is talking about dating and relationships. Believe it or not, folks actaully are interested. Hell, peep the advertising all around you on this page. Motherlovers made Steve Harvey a best seller because of it. STEVE HARVEY!!! lol. Point is…you want to talk about something different, most of your sisters apparently want to talk about this. Majority rule. Also evidenced by the near doubling of the views on the extended cut versus the edited down version indicates that perhaps women really do want to know how men feel about the same ole questions…in droves.
  - Kéla
    
    Round of applause for that gentleman right there ^
    And the questions may be predictable and the same ol but the point here is 1. they are actually being answered 2. there is no speculation, women are getting the real perspective of black men
    and both of those are new to a lot of women
  - Victoria Madison
    
    Thank you Panama I have throughly enjoyed each of the videos that you were in. it is interesting to hear it straight from the horses mouth and possibly to change our views on our counterparts that are from Mars.
- http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=600192696 Clarissa Amber Jeffries
  
  definitely predictable questions.
- FromUR2UB
  
  I liked it for that reason. These are usually the questions women want answers for. Except for women who grew up with brothers, male cousins or male friends who were candid with them, the way men think is a mystery to most women. Of course, I know enough to know I don’t want to know ALL of what they think. I’m too squeamish. haha!
Guest

lol dude with the baldy look like squidward
- Spartan
  
  Darn you Guest, lol. Now everytime I look at Panama I will only see Squidward.
- Liss2002us
  
  Lol! That’s sooo true!
  - http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
    
    its not true dammit!! i do not look like Squidward!
- http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
  
  LMAO. That…hurt, but I laughed so hard that I’m okay with it anyway.
  - http://lizburr.com Liz
    
    No shade but I kinda laughed too.
  - Missioneagles
    
    Greetings -
    
    What’s funny about it?
    - http://twitter.com/panamajackson Panama Jackson
      
      getting called squidward from Spongebob Squarepants is funny. i have a sense of humor. i laughed.
      - Missioneagles
        
        Interesting….
FromUR2UB

Thanks for posting the extended version. The questions were good and the answers sounded honest. The guys appeared to feel comfortable enough with the host, to speak openly. Looking forward to the future webisodes.

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