“Ask A Black Man” Episode 1: Life of A Single Man [EXTENDED CUT]

March 28th, 2012 - By Madame Noire

The feedback we’ve received about our new web series Ask A Black Man has been amazing, and we are happy to present you with an extended cut of episode 1!

We know some of you wanted to see the full conversations we had with our panelists, so every week we will include an extended edit. You can expect to see more questions asked, as well as more discussion between panelists. We had a good time during the shooting of this series, so we hope you will enjoy the entire shoots as much as we did!

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  • leilani

    I so love ask a black man so much better than that other show. Forgot the name….

  • Les Mel

    I’m not a black woman, I’m just a woman (in general). I’ve dated black men, tan men, brown men, and white men. These questions are valid, and interesting. They also raise points that do not just affect the black community.
    These questions of how you gage a person when you first meet them, how much of the attraction is solely physical, what you expect for the future, including for a future daughter…these are important issues.
    I want to know what a black man thinks because I want to know what everyone thinks.
    These guys were fairly clear about their midsets and objectives- I applaud them for talking about them openly.

  • RubyJewels

    Third dude from the left… Why is his lips glistening brighter than mine?? Too much lip gloss hun. Straight men only, please.

  • Cam

    Dude with the lip gloss is mad distracting…. Great series nonetheless! 

  • the.me.i.be

    I gotta give it up to Skoob… he may be the ONLY black man on the planet who didn’t list “Scarface” or  ”Coming to America” as his favorite doggone movies.

  • Prettime00

    why dude have on something like lip balm? I think half of dudes were gay

    • http://twitter.com/POWTV Birch

      did you watch episode 2?

  • http://twitter.com/futuresatellite Z

    The truth hurts. I admit I don’t ever really like the talk about “smash” and “cheeks” either and this is coming from a 24 year old woman (meaning I should probably be desensitized by now). Not to put down any of the men of this panel but there are mature educated men who don’t speak like this and I know a few of them so don’t assume that all men are talking like this. However, I do agree that a great majority do speak this way. 

    I gotta admit it does anger me, when I hear over and over again that a man will play the field and give only half of himself to someone he doesn’t really intend to “wife” or commit to. That’s a lot of broken hearts and baggage for the women who were just discarded before a man decides to settle down. I know as a person who’s looking for a serious long-term relationship this very notion makes dating frustrating and almost pointless. 

  • deejayjay

    What gets me about this whole interview is that these men were of a “certain age,” that is, they were mature, not youngsters and they were still using street language like “smash” and “cheeks.”  What woman (white or black) in her right mind would even consider going out with even one of these guys?   And those nicknames, so childish!  Grow up and quit trying to act like you’re 21.

    These men are still trying to play the field like they are so young and fresh.  Although only one of the men admitted to having a child, I am sure some of the others men on the panel are daddies as well!  And what does that say that these men and daddies are out there trying to pick, choose and discard which women they “smash”and they are not even bothering to “wife” the women who have already had their babies.  It seems that these men want the cream of the crop, but they themselves sound as though they are at the bottom of the barrel!  Slim pickings–argh, it boggles the mind! 

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  • Tina

    If these men are representative of what is out there for black females or females who are interested in dating, etc…then this is really sad…from what I see and hear they lack intellect and substance, not to mention having a jacked up, typical mentality regarding females…I loved the question of if they would want their daughters to date them…maybe this is why they are still single and may stay that way forever…and nothing is wrong with that. 

  • Hornets46

    How does one become a cast member? Available and willing Single Black Man…

  • tsmith16789

    Ms. Kayla Walker – Ask women that same question you asked the guys on this show: “Are you the type of woman who you would want to date your dad/father”? 

    Corporate Brother

  • bubblinbrownsugah

    I love this!  I’m will be checking this out and letting my girls know about this. Super honest :)

  • Perspicacity913

    So, I think this show was entertaining and very well-done!  I laughed and thought about some things, and those are the two things most important to me.  I think the men were honest and (mainly) articulate, and somewhat introspective.  I know the things that they have to say are not things that a lot of people want to hear, and so I appreciate them saying those things anyway.

    As for the comments, I think we should all just allow each other to have opinions, and respect those of others.  While I know that men say things like “smash” and “cheeks” in reference to women a lot, it does not mean everyone has to be comfortable with it.  I am around enough men to know that that is how a lot of them speak, but if someone does have a problem with it, they should not be bashed for that.  Truthfully, those things are disrespectful and demeaning, and I’m happy that people voiced those opinions.  Acknowledging that that is how men speak does not mean it’s ok.  It just means that we all just have to decide what people we surround ourselves with.  As stands with a variety of different issues, there will always be things that are done by the majority that aren’t right; some will be ok with it, and some won’t.  I don’t think those that don’t should be charged with living in a fantasy world, simply looking forward to a reality that does not include those things.

    All-in-all, I will be tuning in again.  I got as much from the comments as I did from the show, so I just encourage everyone to continue to watch and speak out.  I read VSB a lot, and went to the same university as Mo, so I appreciate those shout-outs to my own personal life (lol), and otherwise just like listening to and being a part of discourse around these topics.  

    One love to everyone!  :)

    ~J

  • Rachel

    HI! love the idea of this site/ panel.

    towards the end, Kela asked the panel of men an interesting question:
    “would you let your daughter date you”
    and Panama said something along the lines of:
    “at some point” a man hopes that a woman comes “into his life that he wants to be a good man to.”

    I found this interesting, I would like to know why some men think they can “play around” until that woman comes along? (chances are if you’re acting a fool, she won’t be looking at you anyways)
    Why not be a good man all the time, instead of waiting on that miracle woman who sees you as the man she wants you to be?

    Not trying to be crazy/rude
    just curious…

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