How Long Is It Going to Take For Me To Get Over Him?

March 27th, 2012 - By madamenoire

From Your Tango.com

Is it taking you longer than you expected to get over your ex? If it’s been over a year and you still feel despondent on your old anniversary, take heart: you’re not alone. In this video from Your Tango.com psychotherapist, author and YourTango Expert Julie Orlov offers advice to one reader who still struggles with her breakup long after it’s ended. First, Julie says, there is nothing wrong with taking a long time to move on after an emotional breakup. “People work through loss and grief in their own time and in their own ways,” she says. So, stop comparing yourself to your friends. Don’t be so hard on yourself just because you thought you’d be over it already. After all, haven’t you been through enough heartache?

Find out what this expert has to say about moving on at Your Tango.com.

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  • SableSpitfire

    Yup working  on me. I loved him very much but he did not love me back.

  • L-Boogie

    LOL!

  • purplehaze

    I’m going through a break up and it’s killing me i try to keep myself busy but can’t believe i’m no longer with my first love, one and only partner/boyfriend after 10 + years it’s done. We even had a beautiful child and were engaged but it all fell apart. Life is so strange and challenging, since the age of 16 i started to build my life with him ‘joint at the hip’ my mother would say but now 27 i have to start fresh and my confidence is nowhere to be seen. How am i even going to get through this nightmare?? plus he’s now in a new relationship….crazy. Thank you lord for my child he is my source of light in this dark time. Life.  

    • Nphatnat

      I truly feel your pain….time heals all wounds and this too shall pass…take it one day at a time and before you know I, you will see what all “he” has in store for you….i’m sure your a great person and the lord wouldn’t give you more than you can bare. Keep the faith sweetie…stay blessed! One love

    • maleopinion

      Take heed lady….it’ll get better, i promise.  I know you’ve heard all the cliches at this point, but you really need to focus on yourself, and try to re-discover the essence of YOU.   It will hurt before it gets better, but it will get better….there is always sunshine after a storm.  

  • RahTruth

    I’ve been told that it takes at least as long as you were together to get over a break up. For example, if you were together for a year, it may take about a year to truly be over it. Of course, nothing helps you get over the old man like a new one! :)

  • Rachael

    Sometimes its just hard to get over a breakup when you have unanswered questions or when you saw the potential in the two of you and you can’t understand why things went to the left. Been there. Done that. 
    *Its about to get spooky*
    Or sometimes you have trouble getting over that guy because he hasn’t gotten over you. Ever had your ex frequently visit your dreams? Do you seem to know when he’s thinking of you or when he’s sick or upset even though you haven’t actually seen or heard about him anywhere? 

    • 26mylove

      I UNDERSTAND THAT FIRST PART OF WHAT YOU WROTE BECAUSE I AM GOING THROUGH THAT RIGHT NOW.  IM SO DISAPPOINTED BECAUSE I THOUGHT THINGS WERE GOING WELL THEN ALL OF A SUDDEN NOTHING FROM HIM. N ALL I WANT FROM HIM NOW IS AN EXPLANATION. I FEEL HORRIBLE BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE ITS ME THAT RAN HIM AWAY BUT WITHOUT ANY ANSWERS I DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO THINK

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